I'm not sure where in that you find conditional love, so let me say this...Love takes on many different forms. Not only is love sweet and edifying, it is also just and correcting and that is to only name a couple. I Cor. 13 gives us a picture of God's love and the first thing listed in I Cor. 13 is Love is patient...this patience is like...extreme...it is a patience that both waits and is merciful. This isn't to say that we can't push love away, we do it all the time. But it is to say that a love like God's is not conditional on who we are, what we do, or even if we reject it...the love always remains, is always there, is a constant. It is a love that is freely given, without requirements, unconditional, meaning without condition.
Well, you stated something very important, but what you are calling the love of God in being just and correcting, to me, is more His righteousness.
God is love...God is also righteous. To separate the two would be to miss His full character.
If God was only love. What we would end up with, would be Universalism. Everybody would be Saved because righteousness would not apply. That is what I meant about the balance. There is such a thing as the wrath of God upon the ungodly, also...but He desires that no man would die in his sins. He takes no pleasure in the death of the wicked...but does He get angry with them...yes. Both LOVING and RIGHTEOUS.
I also think the same thing applies to the Christian. Certainly we are to show compassion to the lost...but,
look at what Stephen...a man that certainly loved God said.
Act 7:49 Heaven is my throne, and earth is my footstool: what house will ye build me? saith the Lord: or what is the place of my rest?
Act 7:50 Hath not my hand made all these things?
Act 7:51 Ye stiffnecked and uncircumcised in heart and ears, ye do always resist the Holy Ghost: as your fathers did, so do ye.
Act 7:52 Which of the prophets have not your fathers persecuted? and they have slain them which shewed before of the coming of the Just One; of whom ye have been now the betrayers and murderers:
Act 7:53 Who have received the law by the disposition of angels, and have not kept it.
Act 7:54 When they heard these things, they were cut to the heart, and they gnashed on him with their teeth.
Act 7:55 But he, being full of the Holy Ghost, looked up stedfastly into heaven, and saw the glory of God, and Jesus standing on the right hand of God,
Act 7:56 And said, Behold, I see the heavens opened, and the Son of man standing on the right hand of God.
Act 7:57 Then they cried out with a loud voice, and stopped their ears, and ran upon him with one accord,
Act 7:58 And cast him out of the city, and stoned him: and the witnesses laid down their clothes at a young man's feet, whose name was Saul.
Act 7:59 And they stoned Stephen, calling upon God, and saying, Lord Jesus, receive my spirit.
Act 7:60 And he kneeled down, and cried with a loud voice, Lord, lay not this sin to their charge. And when he had said this, he fell asleep.
MY POINT IS STEPHEN DID SHOW THE LOVE OF GOD. HE ALSO SHOWED THEM THE RIGHTEOUSNESS OF GOD.
The question was...how shall we love? I am suggesting we are not to be walked on...but still state the righteousness of God with the compassions of God.