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How should I confess to my parents?

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AcesHigh

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I have lied and lied that where do I spend my night at. I've said that 'I'm going to my friend Mike is it ok?' and then I have gone drinking or something. However I'm praying now each day to God that I need the courage to confess my sins to my mother as I feel it like that. It is so hard, I've gone to downstairs many times and started to talking but then I just couldn't and I've left the situation. How should I start the confession? I am totally scared of doing that since my mother gets very stressful in any situation... Please help me!

Ben
 
Well I have been in a situation kinda, but not exactly like yours. If you gotta confess it, first of all it's good that you are going to going to come clean. Second, I guess before you bring it out you might want to "prepare them" like for example say, "I did something I shouldn't have *insert whatever you feel needs to be said* and I am sorry and I need help" Then your mom is probably going to ask what you did, then tell her.

It's going to be HARD. But you can do it. And rember they are your parents, they love you. I'll pray for you. So take a deep breath. And pray before you tell them ok? I think things will go ok if you show that you are willing to accept their help.
 
There is no easy way to tell your parents that you did something wrong. I would suggest that you let yourself digest exactly why you did what you did. Write it down and analyze your reasons. Then Figure out what you have learned and why you won't be doing it anymore. By doing this you will prepare yourself and help yourself sink in what has happened. This way when you tell your parents, you will be prepared for their questions and help them see why you did what you did. It will make the situation a lot easier, but as I said, Its never easy. Good luck kido. ;)
 
If you just cant make your self say the words....You could write a letter to your mom... ONLY stay while she reads it... Dont skip out.

The best thing is to just man up and tell her. Meatballsub's suggestion is a real good one. The thinking through helps us get all we need to say said....
 
I'd probably start it, "I haven't been fully open with you about everywhere I've been going."

If you intend to change ... it'll be both tougher and easier. Easier to the extent that you're confident right now of your intent to change, but tougher in that ... you're likely to receive some adverse comments from them and some serious disappointment. The god of this world is famous for turning your confidence into being offended by some humbling comment from people you respect, challenging that pride that you're doing something right. Be prepared for that. I've always had to say to myself over & over, "Remember mike -- I'm the one who was wrong. Confessing doesn't make things right. It admits that I'm wrong."

Your parents likely love you a lot to feel such disappointment and stress that you predict will happen. It's tough for parents to recognize that ... you're human. You're going to make mistakes. And you're gettin' on up there in age, so there's not a lot they can do to help discipline you. You're going to be taking on that responsibility, yourself.

If it accumulates a lot of this stuff eventually takes you down spiritually and mentally. Plus, your parents end up not really knowing who you are -- your struggles, your aspirations. They end up knowing only your image as you present it. It sounds like they care enough to want to help, too. Would their help be considered interference or assistance by you?

Think about where you're headed, and how big the offense will be treated. My parents probably would've not been so surprised.
 
reba said:
If you just cant make your self say the words....You could write a letter to your mom... ONLY stay while she reads it... Dont skip out.

The best thing is to just man up and tell her. Meatballsub's suggestion is a real good one. The thinking through helps us get all we need to say said....
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Thank you Reba. Your suggestion is also a really good idea. :)
 
I'm going to guess that you're a teenager living in your parents' home (and not a grown man in his 30s, in which case it isn't your mother's business anymore). Also assuming you have a reasonable, loving parent who values honesty, may I add here, it's not going to be nearly as bad as you think. In my teen years I confessed to my mum of having a relationship with a guy who wasn't a Christian. She really appreciated that I trusted her enough to confess. In retrospect it wasn't a big deal as I thought it was.

As a parent, I would be touched if my kids trusted me enough to say "mum, I've done something I'm not proud of, and I know you wouldn't be either." Going out drinking instead of being at your friend's place, on a spectrum of all the possible bad behaviours a teenager could engage in, ranks on the less serious end. Stop worrying and talk to your mother now.
 
Thanks for the advice but should I confess now or should I wait because she's pregnant and already so stress full.
 
AcesHigh said:
Thanks for the advice but should I confess now or should I wait because she's pregnant and already so stress full.
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Wait, if you think confessing may have adverse affects on your mother. But don't use this as a convenient excuse.

The most important confession needs to be to God. Then ypur mother, if the situation is right.
 
boolnz said:
I'm going to guess that you're a teenager living in your parents' home (and not a grown man in his 30s, in which case it isn't your mother's business anymore).
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I know the OP isn't in his 30's, but I think it needs to be said that this is not something I'd agree with, because at the heart of the matter is due respect for the rules under their roof. Since he lives under their roof and depends on their financial support, he needs to live within their rules out of respect for them.

Ace, be humble and accept what she gives you if you do tell her. She's looking out for you because she loves you. I think you understand that.
 
AcesHigh said:
I have lied and lied that where do I spend my night at. I've said that 'I'm going to my friend Mike is it ok?' and then I have gone drinking or something. However I'm praying now each day to God that I need the courage to confess my sins to my mother as I feel it like that. It is so hard, I've gone to downstairs many times and started to talking but then I just couldn't and I've left the situation. How should I start the confession? I am totally scared of doing that since my mother gets very stressful in any situation... Please help me!

Ben
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I would suggest that you consider not telling her until you have decided not to do what you are doing, anymore.
You need to be willing to stop, to grow up, and you need to stick to the decision, and then you might tell her.
In this way, you can say also......that you will no longer behave that way, and this will help your courage, as you have freed yourself from having to lie to her again 20 more times, and then tell her 20 more times that you are sorry.
You might also consider getting some better friends, as "drinking buddies" are really not going to help your life.




K
 
I have to agree with Kidron... especially in light of the fact that she's pregnant and full of stress at this time.

Confess to God, ask His forgiveness, then work on your behavior... do stop hanging out with the drinking buddies... get yourself back on track...

Why did you start drinking in the first place?
 
It's not about my friends, they accept what am I but I started to drink as I didn't believe God at first place that much, now i believe more and more each day.
 
okay close the thread. I already confessed my mom all my sins and she took it okay and we talked about religion for a long time, thanks for advices and i pray for you all!<3
 
haha thanks was crazy and scary though but I did it, it's been one of the hardest thing in my life. I feel very clean at the moment! :)
 
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