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I am sorry

reba said:
One can say sorry with out using the words I am sorry... it is very sad when apologies are offered and not accepted.... explanations given just to have them tossed aside...
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I like to hear the words myself.Not have someone do something nice because that is their way of saying "I am sorry".Doesn't make it with me.
 
Do you know anyone who apologizes for no reason sometimes? Me and my mom are both like that. "Aw man, there's a stain on my shirt now." "I'm sorry..." "Why are you apologizing? It's not your fault." "Oh yeah...sorry." "Now you're apologizing for apologizing??"
 
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jasonc said:
you delineated yourself as being not a Christian.

if I didn't like jews. why then would talk to my dad? he is a jew, so is his cousins, my grandpa.

I asked what the lettering was in that avatar as its a bracelet. its for the temple. the words of a Chassidic jew is that refers to the temple. though It can be "life" .her parents are from isreal.
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I'm not a Christian. I was raised Jewish.

I garnered my preception of you because of the lack of grammar used in your sentence. All cap start, no period.... both present an aire of impatience and frustration. The context seemed to be out too. And now, how would I know that your family is Jewish?

Hasidism leans on the kabbalah a lot. I've not heard of the connection between the chai symbol and the temple. Sounds like a kabbalistic thing to me.
 
Shimshon said:
I'm not a Christian. I was raised Jewish.

I garnered my preception of you because of the lack of grammar used in your sentence. All cap start, no period.... both present an aire of impatience and frustration. The context seemed to be out too. And now, how would I know that your family is Jewish?

Hasidism leans on the kabbalah a lot. I've not heard of the connection between the chai symbol and the temple. Sounds like a kabbalistic thing to me.
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ok, I type like that. you will get used to that. I can use grammar but im lazy here. if you doubt that ask reba
 
questdriven said:
Do you know anyone who apologizes for no reason sometimes? Me and my mom are both like that. "Aw man, there's a stain on my shirt now." "I'm sorry..." "Why are you apologizing? It's not your fault." "Oh yeah...sorry." "Now you're apologizing for apologizing??"
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Sometimes you will hear people say "I am sorry" all the time even if there are no reason for it.Those are people pleasers.
 
Kathi said:
Sometimes you will hear people say "I am sorry" all the time even if there are no reason for it.Those are people pleasers.
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I think in me and my mom's case it's something like a defense mechanism. We are very careful how we act around people until we know how they'll respond to us, so we try to avoid anything that might set people off.
 
I just saw an article a few weeks back... about women 'always' saying i'm sorry... Years ago my brother would hit me then say sorry the hit me say sorry gotta mean it...
 
My dh hardly ever says the words, I'm sorry, but he shows it by his actions. I'd much rather that then someone say they are sorry but then not act like they are sorry. I lived with that for several years. An insincere sorry means nothing.
 
I grew up with my dad apologizing when he had to punish either myself or my brother. For example if we were bad he'd yell at us and send us to our rooms. Then after he would come up and say "sorry I yelled but here's why..." that helped me develop a way to mend fences after arguing with anyone. So when I argue with big man I have no problem saying sorry and then explaining calmly why I yelled. I do that with the kids at work too. I have one little girl in particular who is constantly in histrionics. I think something may actually be wrong with her mentally. Anyways I yelled at her for being disrespectful then pulled her aside to talk to her. It calmed her down and she tried to be better, then later on she went back to her drama.
 
Kathi said:
These are words that a lot of people do not say.Out of pride most likely.I think it is important to tell a person when you have hurt them to say "I am sorry".It starts the mending.
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1. There is no question that an apology is necessary when a wrong has been done (whether "hurt" or anything else). The important thing for each one is to EXPECT NOTHING AND YOU WILL NOT BE DISAPPOINTED.

2. The other thing to keep in mind is that a lot of people are "super-sensitive". Some friend or relative should sit down with them and advice them that being super-sensitive is not conducive to mental well-being. Developing a "thick-skin" is a necessity today.

3. Believers must examine themselves daily and also weekly before the Lord's Supper (as instructed in Scripture). If we would examine ourselves and allow the Holy Spirit to convict us, we would also go and apologize to the ones we may have offended.

4. At the same time, believers should understand that God requires them to rebuke sinning brothers and sisters, and to also accept rebukes graciously. Paul rebuked Peter publicly, but that did not change Peter's love for Paul (2 Pet 3:15,16). Therefore Christians should be prepared for Christian rebuke, which is actually an expression of love: "As many as I love, I REBUKE and chasten" saith the Lord (Rev 3:19). Are we emotionally and mentally prepared for spiritual rebukes? Are those being discipled taught to expect rebukes and apply them to themselves to grow spiritually? In the society we live in "You can't tell me how I should speak/live/behave!" is the prevalent attitude, which carries over into the Christian community.

5. Scripture also speaks about "weaker brethren" (Rom 14). If we know that weaker brethren and sisters are easily offended about peripheral matters, we need to avoid giving them offence. That is an expression of grace.

6. Finally, we need to take the Lord Jesus Christ as our example in this matter. He was hated, insulted, mocked, ridiculed, and despised every day that He was on earth. But Scripture tells us that He remained silent while receiving these verbal attacks. He never retaliated for personal attacks, although He denounced sins vehemently. We can, and should, do the same.
 
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