i read a book about the Christian life once, and the author encouraged his readers to pray to be "made more like Jesus." and so...
for a while now...I've been praying to be made "a little less (), and a little more Jesus," and...
bit by bit, day by day...He's been putting off the old, putting on the new in ways that matter, for my family and for me, anyway.
not that I'm 110% Christ-like. I'm...surprisingly -normal- , which is an unexpected development, a sort of quiet, slow motion miracle for my family and me.
being conformed unto the image of Christ Jesus is what Christian morality and gradual growth, sanctification should aim for, really. Thing is...
development occurs differently...different rates, different set backs, different blessings...in each Christian. and yet...
I do think there are certain themes...becoming less self-focused, less worldly, more compassionate, more merciful, more discerning...
that's just my observation, from reading over other peoples' testimonies and from talking to (not very many) other Christians.
hope this helps.