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Is is Normal to be envy?

God's_gift

God's_gift

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I'm kinda shy to admit this but i feel so jealous or envy hearing them my close friends are getting married one by one, and seems like i will be the only single woman left standing there next time in a school reunion....:sad
 
Mark 7:20-23
He went on: “What comes out of a person is what defiles them. For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and defile a person.â€


Romans 1:29-32
They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy. Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.


Proverbs 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.




Envy is clearly sin in the Bible. Why do you assume you will never get married? Sometimes it's better to marry late Mr. Right than marry early Mr. Wrong ... :chin

I'm also in the same situation as you but I do not feel envy of my friends at all. As a matter of fact, one of my friends getting married in June was actually matched up by yours truly ! :D

I'm actually happy for them and proud of myself for being a great match-maker ... :D

You should be happy, not envious of your friends getting married. You should rejoice with them and bless them. Repent of your sin of envy and through prayers I believe God will send you a Godly man in His perfect timing... :pray
 
Yeah, you are so right tina I have sinned by what i felt and the bible verses realy checked me today......:-(
Maybe it's because of loneliness i guess or fear of being left behind , something like that....
My group of close friends and I grow up in a very small town where evrybody knew almost everybody,we attended the same school from gradeschool to highschool and we just had different ways when we went to college and now we have different jobs and works , but always make sure we attend reunion each year, see each other on christmas and holidays where in we share and talk the happenings for each lives you know. I always look forward to this kind of activity every year and evrytime i go home coz i work far from our province now.
Now, I can't understand why they have to be like in a hurry of getting married while i still enjoy being single i was hoping that they too will feel the same way like i feel. But i was wrong, and i wonder how easy for them to pick men that is so right for them.....
The envy thing that i felt is embarassing coz i am the christian in the group...:-( and i can't help sometimes ask God, " Lord, you gave them their portion, where's mine?"...:-( and i always ask God to show me His way and this morning i have read Isaiah 43:1-7 and it says,
But now, this is what the LORD says—
he who created you, Jacob,
he who formed you, Israel:
“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;
I have summoned you by name; you are mine.
When you pass through the waters,
I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze.
For I am the LORD your God,
the Holy One of Israel, your Savior;
I give Egypt for your ransom,
Cush and Seba in your stead.
Since you are precious and honored in my sight,
and because I love you,
I will give people in exchange for you,
nations in exchange for your life.
Do not be afraid, for I am with you;
I will bring your children from the east
and gather you from the west.
I will say to the north, ‘Give them up!’
and to the south, ‘Do not hold them back.’
Bring my sons from afar
and my daughters from the ends of the earth—
everyone who is called by my name,
whom I created for my glory,
whom I formed and made.â€
This word brought me to my knees and I say “ God yes I have sinned I am going to repent and confess this to my friends. And again please help me to be patient†….. Lamentations 3:24 I say to myself, “The LORD is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.â€
 
From my own personal testimony and experience....


Stop Looking and Wait :) :) :)

I was in a very similar state of lonesomeness and impatience, and when I finally stopped and waited, I met my wife in two weeks. (Results may vary, but God is still good. :yes)

I know how hard it is to feel like you've lived a life worthy of companionship and yet your the last one standing alone. God's plan does not fail and it's never late. However, the trial does have a purpose and in the end you will rejoice that He helped you wait.
 
GG, your OP reminded me of Hannah (1 Sam 1) who felt left out of God's Abundant Blessings because she didn't have a child. It doesn't specifically say she envied other women, but I would think she did. She was taunted by them. :sad

Personally, I can relate in that, before we had children, it seemed every couple we knew was having children. When you're seeking someone, it's as though everywhere you go, you're passing couples. I think in both cases we're just more sensitive to it.

As a man I can tell you there is a special beauty of a woman who faithfully waits on the Lord and patiently saves herself for the one He intends for her. You project that quality, and I believe one day you'll be Blessed for your faithfulness. :)
 
I am guilty of that sin sometimes too, but then I just try to remind myself that the Lord had a plan that is best for me. I was married for over 2 years, abusive marriage, but now I'm a widow and a single mother. Still kind of young and would like to find a special someone again. Its hard to be alone but I try to see it as more time alone with Jesus, our relationship can only strengthen. Right now Jesus is my special someone and the only father my 3 yr old little boy has. I think having Jesus as the special someone, is... pretty special :lol
 
I've been leading my congregation through the book Knowing God. One of the last chapters we studied through was a chapter about God's Jealousy. It mentions that one kind of Jealousy is the Jealous expressed through the marraige covenant in that when another person imposes on the marraige, the spouse's natural, and completely moral, reaction is to be jealous for their spouse to keep their vows and resist the affronts of the one imposes difficulty, even to the point of personally seeking ways to keep the spouse safe through actively stoping the imposing issue.

Here is how I think this can help you, gift. God is that kind of Jealous for you. He does not want to you to forsake the vows of love and commitment to him. It may be that in his passionate, jealous, love for you, that he is holding back the relationship he has planned for you until you will be best equipped to honor him with it. I think you and I would agree that we want your relationship to be one that loves God more than it loves anything else.

Here's a beautiful thing you can do while you wait though. Work on living your life as jealous for God's holiness as he is for your's. I think that you will enjoy the freedom such a commitment will offer, and I also believe that you will be surprised how quickly God adds a relationship to your life the more you focus on his holiness rather than your loneliness.
 
Blazin Bones said:
I've been leading my congregation through the book Knowing God. One of the last chapters we studied through was a chapter about God's Jealousy. It mentions that one kind of Jealousy is the Jealous expressed through the marraige covenant in that when another person imposes on the marraige, the spouse's natural, and completely moral, reaction is to be jealous for their spouse to keep their vows and resist the affronts of the one imposes difficulty, even to the point of personally seeking ways to keep the spouse safe through actively stoping the imposing issue.

Here is how I think this can help you, gift. God is that kind of Jealous for you. He does not want to you to forsake the vows of love and commitment to him. It may be that in his passionate, jealous, love for you, that he is holding back the relationship he has planned for you until you will be best equipped to honor him with it. I think you and I would agree that we want your relationship to be one that loves God more than it loves anything else.

Here's a beautiful thing you can do while you wait though. Work on living your life as jealous for God's holiness as he is for your's. I think that you will enjoy the freedom such a commitment will offer, and I also believe that you will be surprised how quickly God adds a relationship to your life the more you focus on his holiness rather than your loneliness.
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I'm shedding tears while reading this right now .I believe God is talking to me by this words today , this is so true. Thanks Tim.
 
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