I have a hard time with this whole subject.First of all, men can't be men in our society anymore. Being firm and objective to an emotional person seems to be "short and snappy" but in reality, a complex situation can become simple,very simple, in reality. Do we want a solution or do we want a "drama?" Most problems can be solved very quickly in a firm and objective manner.
I think it is very disrespectful for a wife to come on a public forum and whine about her Husband. The same for a husband with his wife.
A wife should remember that having respect for Her Husband is a "fruit" in her life. The reward is even greater for the wife if she is respectful even if the husband doesn't deserve it. And She can bless him and her family by association if she follows the plan of God for her life.
Men are just attacked to the core anymore. The Curse of the man is to toil in his labor. If a wife is working and trying to raise Kids at the same time, the man is not being responsible with his authority. The mans authority is responsibility, not superiority.
Pick up his socks,wash his dishes,cook him meals, even when He does not deserve it. You will bless your family, yourself, and the pig that is not being responsible with the authority he has been given. This Christian life is ALWAYS about us, not about the person who bugs us, annoys us, irritates us. God puts them in our lives to shape US. Build our character,build our virtue.