Is pre-marital tonsil hockey Biblical?

[ChevyRodeo]

swapping spit led to sex.

wow and only in the 2nd response, thought it would have been 1st. I ve been making out with my GF for a year and there is never any pressure to have Sex. You have to have a mind set of " youre not getting any"

 

[Tissue]

Kissing does not necessarily lead to sex. If it makes you uncomfortable, don't do it.

 

[nyc christian]

I think it is ok to make out or kiss before marriage, I mean its not like God is going to send lightning from heaven and stop you. I wouldnt advice it though, I personally dont think it is a good idea. I would be tempted to test the waters and thats not where I want to be. I may get some bad thoughts as well. I dont even think I would give her a kiss on the lips. Once you start that you wont go back. This may seem like a simple innocent topic but little things can have big consequences. Im glad we brought this up.

what else should we be doing? what do you guys/girls think about a christian guy walking a girl home after church alone? should the guy be hugging her and giving her a kiss on the cheek? theyve just met.

 

[JohnEboy1983]

From my experience on it... Making out is dangerous and can can lead to many other things. Making out may not lead to sex right away but making out may lead to feeling up on each other, then to foreplay and then to sex. I believe Paul said it best when he said "it is best that a man does not touch a woman". In no means is touching a woman a sin, I just believe Paul said its best not to because you may lead yourselves astray while caught up in the moment and finding yourself doing something your not supposed to. Its just like his scripture where he says its good for a man not to be married, but in no means does he call it a sin, he is just saying it is better to not get married if you can do so. So I dont believe making out is sinful however it may be best to avoid doing it. Some of you may fool yourselves. I fooled myself and so did my ex-fiance, we started making out and over time we ended going further and further.

To each their own opinion but me and my GF are staying pure (no sex) till marrige. but we do play tonsil hockey.

If you love the person with all your heart and know that she is the one forever and ever, and god has showed you this person becaus you were destin to be togeather the shouldnt be any shame in a litle kiss here or hockey game there. just know your limit and play within it.

I disagree with you here, not that it matters but my ex-fiance and I said the very same things and we ended up getting to pre-marital sex and we no longer talk to each other and have nothing to do with each other and its been years. Just because you think you know she and you will be together does not mean there should not be any shame in a kiss. You dont know anything untill she has the ring on her hand and you have the ring on yours walking away from the wedding. Anything can change. If you mess up even though she may be the one for you, you both may be taken away from each other just like King Saul screwed up and God gave the Kingdom to David. Samuel said if he just obeyed that his Kingdom would be established forever. Obey God and maybe he may establish this Girl with you forever but disobey and he may take her away. I feel this could be somewhat true on what happened to me.

 

[Mohrb]

I can sorta grasp your PoV, but not really. Kissing doesn't have to lead to sex. I think it is all in the people's ability to control themselves.

very good point. If you can't kiss someone without having premarital sex... you shouldn't kiss. If you can, there's probably nothing wrong with it (within reason). Likewise, if you can't go swimming with the opposite sex without trying to (insert inappropriate euphemism here)... then going swimming would be immoral. For, most it isn't a problem though. In fact... for most people, this is an utterly silly concept. But, consider in some places (I'm looking at YOU Germany!), it's very common for people to swim naked. Most americans would certainly not be comfortable with skinny dipping with someone of the opposite sex, and it would be inappropriate for us to if it leads to inappropriate behavior. However, even skinny dipping not necessarily inappropriate for everyone, because in SOME cultures, it's perfectly natural, and doesn't lead to sexual misconduct.