Is wanting a relationship wrong?

[Millan]

Ive been wanting a committed Christian relationship for a while now but I often ask myself in these feeling are wrong o sinful?

Hi all, firstly I feel in important to say I attend a church with many brothers and sisters in Christ some of whom i have inadvertently flirted with, and have/am attracted to.

Secondly I realise my relationship in God i my first priority in life, I have a desire to have a much deeper relationship with him than I do now and know that before caring for other relationships I should care for my relationship and love in God first.

I do however still have this longing so to speak, and often struggle, and pray about it and it often weighs heavily on my heart and I end up feeling unworthy in gods grace.

 

[handy]

Why would it be wrong?

Didn't God Himself say that it wasn't good for man to be alone?

Didn't Christ say not all men are better off not marrying, only those to "whom it has been given."

How could wanting what God created to fulfill us somehow be "wrong"?

 

[Danus]

God's sanctions, and blesses Christ centered, committed relationships between one man and one woman. There is nothing wrong with that. The Christ centered relationship shared by a man and a woman is in fact a great model for the relationship we have with Christ, and Christ to the church.

Is there any specific aspect of this you're struggling with? Something other than a Christ centered relationship with the opposite sex that you feel is troubling you, or holding you back from this blessing?

 

[Millan]

I think the biggest issue is my wondering, at times I feel the Lord has a different calling for me at current but yet I still have the longing, it can make it very difficult to stay focused on the opportunities God has currently put before me when I keep wondering about other things.

 

[Blazin Bones]

I have been in your shoes. By God's grace, I have lived much of my life commited to Him. However, for much of my college life, I was VERY close to God, and still desperately longing for my companion to come. What had to happen was clear. I needed to wait, and yet I could not yield that desire to God. What I can honestly say now, because hind-sight has made things clearer, is that I was really asking God to let my desire, usually focused at a particular young woman, as amazing as some of them would be, come before his plan. That is not how the life of a Christian works.

Then I heard a song by the group Barlow Girl, simply called Surrender. The chorus to the song is a beautiful plea almost begging God to see things our way."

"Surrender, Surrender
You whisper, gently.
You say I will be free,
I know, but can't you see?
my dreams are me. my dreams are me."

Notice the honest admission at the end, though. The reason many of us struggle so much with just letting God have his way, is because we've got our whole lives wrapped up in our desires. As Christians, Jesus' death at Calvary and therefore his gift of salvation askes us to give up our lives for his plans, our desires for his glory.

This is the point that we need to come to everytime a passion we have also is a struggle to understand in God's plan for our life. We have to trust him, give him our very dreams and ambitions, and surrender to his plan.

The second verse more or less get us to our next honest question. God, if I surrender who I am, my very goals and hopes, will I ever get to dream about what I want my life to be again? As Christians, we need to ask this question with a humble submission, knowing that any dream we have, must come after his plans for us.

The best thing about all this submission.... God's plans WILL be better than our own. God is not trying to make you feel guilty about your passion, he made you with them. He is trying to teach you a lesson you and all Christians must learn through out our lives; Surrender who you are and who you want to be to God and let him make your life more amazing each thing we do surrender to His will.

 

[Adullam]

We must be careful when pursuing our own desires. It is better to desire a deeper fellowship with God and the brethren.

As we draw closer to God and others it is more than likely that the possibility of a relationship emerges from THAT inclination rather than just seeking to take somebody for yourself.

 

[God's_gift]

i think that desiring a relationship is not wrong as long as God is behind in that motive. Even God desire a relationship , a relationship with us.