Living with your fiancé/fiancée

[Classik]

Jacob had to live with Laban. Rachael and Leah were also there. This is like one living with one's wives-to-be/brides-to-be. How do you consider this idea. At least you know all about her: her charachter, likes, dislikes, weakness, etc. From here you can take the next move: she's the right one for me, Or...
She isn't.

I think it's good for people to live together (not under the same roof (bedroom) I didn't say that! I didn't say that! I didn't say that! I didn't say that! At least it's good for that woman to live with the man's family...and the guy should be around, too. Doing so, you will learn a lot about her and she will also know all about you.

I think one of the problems people get divorced today is: each remained a mystery to the other. What do you think?

 

[duari91]

Jacob had to live with Laban. Rachael and Leah were also there. This is like one living with one's wives-to-be/brides-to-be. How do you consider this idea. At least you know all about her: her charachter, likes, dislikes, weakness, etc. From here you can take the next move: she's the right one for me, Or...
She isn't.

I think it's good for people to live together (not under the same roof (bedroom) I didn't say that! I didn't say that! I didn't say that! I didn't say that! At least it's good for that woman to live with the man's family...and the guy should be around, too. Doing so, you will learn a lot about her and she will also know all about you.

I think one of the problems people get divorced today is: each remained a mystery to the other. What do you think?

Most of the time (yes I said most), If you don't have enough self control to stop yourself from having sex before marriage when not living together, being under the same roof won't have a difference. This topic has so many ends to it, that it is hard to encompass a single meaning.

Some view it as a sin to live under the same roof before marriage. However; let's not forget, that NO ONE is more or less impure than the next. If you have committed adultery in your heart, then it's the same as physically doing it (says Jesus). If that's the case, and we are all murderous, adulterous, lying, thieving sinners; Then who is anyone to say that it is wrong but God? Does God ever mention that you aren't allowed to? I think that question answers itself!

Now assuming you don't want to have sex before marriage, I can see someone not wanting to live together for fear that they don't have the self control. However; If you trust God, and you have self control, I can agree that living together before marriage has benefits. For one, it helps both people see that marriage isn't a bed of roses. It is work that never ends. It gets easier if you pick the right person, but it still doesnt end. Preparing someone for this will increase there chance for success for sure. Sometimes, you have to know if you are with the right person before you make a commitment like marriage. In my eyes, marriage is eternal (even though 50% of our country has defiled the meaning of marriage). Once you say "I do", you are now one with that person, and you should never break that bond that God has created unless the other person has defiled it. Like I said, its good to make sure that you are sure about saying "I do", before you actually say it .

Just my opinion.

 

[Grazer]

This is something my fiance and I have been wrestling with. We went through the bible, spoke to pastors and prayed about it. Ultimately, the new testament is relatively quiet on the matter except for saying that sex before marriage is out as posters before have said.

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[duari91]

This is something my fiance and I have been wrestling with. We went through the bible, spoke to pastors and prayed about it. Ultimately, the new testament is relatively quiet on the matter except for saying that sex before marriage is out as posters before have said.

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Exactly, in the end, it is something that is decided based on moral value. If you can live with that person while keeping your morals in tact, then you will be blessed with the benefits of really getting to know that person. However; if you both feel like your morals would be in risk, then it would be smart to live in different places before marriage. Not saying that you don't already know your fiance. I am just saying that dating, and living are different scenarios that offer different learning experiences with one another.

Good luck on your decision my friend! I commend you for exploring everything necessary before making that decision!

 

[Carolyn]

Any sort of sex outside of marriage is fornication and there will be no fornicators in heaven. We don't know if Jacob was there or. more probably, out living with the goats. That is what shepherds did back then. There may have been quarters for the hired help where he stayed when he was back at Laban's place, which may well have been a tent. People who were betrothed did not live together. These were more like arranged marriages where he had to purchase his wife. She had the option of not drinking from the engagement cup and thus turning him down. But the marriage did not happen until the parent gave the green light, and then it was a lengthy celebration. I remember one sermon I heard on this story was entitled "Surprise and Sunrise".
It is shear stupidity to put yourself in position in which you can be so easily tempted.

 

[duari91]

Any sort of sex outside of marriage is fornication and there will be no fornicators in heaven. We don't know if Jacob was there or. more probably, out living with the goats. That is what shepherds did back then. There may have been quarters for the hired help where he stayed when he was back at Laban's place, which may well have been a tent. People who were betrothed did not live together. These were more like arranged marriages where he had to purchase his wife. She had the option of not drinking from the engagement cup and thus turning him down. But the marriage did not happen until the parent gave the green light, and then it was a lengthy celebration. I remember one sermon I heard on this story was entitled "Surprise and Sunrise".
It is shear stupidity to put yourself in position in which you can be so easily tempted.

Have you every lusted for someone in your mind before marriage? If so, you are a fornicator, and won't be let into heaven. Not one human being can claim that they have not lusted for another. Jesus made this clear, that the law was made for man, not man made for the law. In other words, the ten commandments are there to show us how sinful we are. God does not expect us to be perfect!

I would like to respectfully ask for scripture that says fornicators will not inherit the kingdom of heaven. Furthermore, what do you say of Jesus when he said that blasphemy was the ONLY unforgivable sin? In theory, if someone has sex before marriage, and repents, would that person not be forgiven?

Have you ever told a lie? If so, you are seen as impure. There is no such thing as more impure, or less impure. Once you break Gods laws, you are headed to hell unless you repent and ask for forgiveness. Once you truly ask for forgiveness, your sin no longer remains.

Saved by grace, not by works.

 

[joethemechanic]

I ain't buying a cow until I sample the milk ]:->

 

[Mike S]

I ain't buying a cow until I sample the milk ]:->

But, your fiance is not a cow...is she?

 

[abide]

I ain't buying a cow until I sample the milk ]:->

This is not the behaviour of a Christian man. This is the approach the world has. I am disappointed in you Joe. If you can do this, then there is no difference between your behaviour and that of unsaved people.

 

[Classik]

This is not the behaviour of a Christian man. This is the approach the world has. I am disappointed in you Joe. If you can do this, then there is no difference between your behaviour and that of unsaved people.

I don't think he really said that. I think by his statement he meant 'some weaker ones might end up sinning...'.