Love stuff...dunno

[Classik]

At a second thought I decided to start this thread. Someone said:

It is better to go for someone whom loves you, rather than someone who you love...

. I don't think I agree with this. Either ways I disagree. The two must love

 

[Aardverk]

At a second thought I decided to start this thread. Someone said: . I don't think I agree with this. Either ways I disagree. The two must love

An excellent question!

It depends upon your own nature and that of the other person. Many people are able to 'grow' into loving someone, perhaps because the best way to get someone to love you is to love them first.

It will not work with a fickle person of course but fickle people always introduce risk to relationships. On balance, I guess that you are better off trying a relationship with someone who loves you first rather than 'falling madly in love' (lust) with someone who shows little interest.

The yearning desire that most of us have felt :yes is not really love; that is the problem we need to over-come. If you truly love someone, you want to make their life better, not the other way around.

 

[Classik]

How can someone go for someone you probably don't love...altho he or she may love you. That's pitying someone...isnnit? We were thought not to marry or date out of pity;) It may work for some tho

 

[Classik]

Have you read the account of Joseph and Potiphar's wife? Maybe this isn't a good example (seems to talk about lust)

 

[Aardverk]

How can someone go for someone you probably don't love...altho he or she may love you. That's pitying someone...isnnit? We were thought not to marry or date out of pity;) It may work for some tho

All I am advocating is dating someone that you are attracted to although you do not yet, or not necessarily love. Call it travelling hopefully if you like.

Unless you spend time with someone, you can never really love them. 'Love at first sight' is not love - is it - so what alternative is there? How is one to select a person to date? Compatibility is a good start but dating someone who already 'loves' you may also be a good start.

 

[Classik]

Satisfactory.