Marrying for Sex?

[JohnEboy1983]

Ok so I have been over a lot of topics lately and I think we are all in agreegrement that marrying is not intended just to satisfy your sexual tempatations, but what exactly does the bible say about it? After reading these verses, can anyone care to elaborate why this scripture teaches those who cannot control themselves to get married, because I continously cannot control myself and my sex drive is very high. The scripture is telling me that I would be better marrying than to burn with passion and its better to be married for this cause, however many posters(including myself) agree that we should not only get married for sex alone because obviously there will be many times you may be without sex and quite possibly without it permanently in a marriage. The bible also teaches that those who are married are to remain having sexual relations so they dont go outside the marriage. So if the marriage is not the purpose of fulfilling sexual relations and that marriage my not be in ones future even though the desire to be married and the sexual desires are high and there, why is it the bible also teaches to get married for this reason and to keep sexual relations in a marriage? You would think if the purpose of marriage is not for sexual relations it would never have this scripture in there, because ultimately if I am following God and living for him instead of myself, he would be the deciding one whether I get married or remain celibate and not just my own personal decision because of the scriptures below. God may not have somebody for me in my life and I want to accept that if its his will, however if my sex drive and desire for marriage is high, why is it Paul commands you to get married and Jesus backs that up? I am just trying to understand why it sounds conflicting?


1 Corinthians 8-9- 8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.


Matthew 9: 10-11- 10The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry." 11Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.

 

[westtexas]

I am not going to answer you from scripture, only from my heart. The Lord has blessed me with a very special woman. We have walked thru many highs and lows together. A marriage is about so much more than sex. If that is the only reason to enter a relationship, it will not last, in my opinion. When you find that special person that our Lord has planned for you, the good times are so much better, and the bad times are not near so bad. Sex is not the right reason for a marriage. I'm not sure if this is what you were asking, just some of my thoughts.
Westtexas

 

[JohnEboy1983]

By no means I want to marry for sex alone, even when I have such a high sex drive. I from my heart feel the same way as you do, that sex is of little importance to get married. The only thing I was contemplating is why does scripture teach to do so? It sounds like the wrong reasons to marry, but I am not about to call the bible a liar either. That is why I am trying to come to understanding with it.

 

[westtexas]

Can you give the scripture again that you want to look at please? the one's quoted above are not correct.
Westtexas

 

[JohnEboy1983]

1 Corinthians 7: 8-9- 8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.


Matthew 9: 10-11- 10The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry." 11Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.

Also I think there is some scripture saying something about keeping sex ongoing within a marriage somewhere. I dont remember where, but there are the two above.

 

[nyc christian]

Hey,

I think we are talking about extremes here, just like when the Bible says if your right hand causes you to sin then cut it off. Offcourse if you are going to fall into sin and possibly lose your salvation over fornication then by all means get married instead of losing your salvation. But as rational people what this means is get married if you feel the desire to do so, but if you chose quickly then you will not have much time to work things out during the dating process most of the problems will occur during marriage. Most likely the faster you chose a partner the more problems you will endure.

It takes time to pick out a right candidate and to evaluate them. Your best bet is to let God do the chosing. I understand your concern I think we have all thought about that verse. We all have strong desires to be with someone. I think the verse also refers to couples that have been together for a while and because of selfishness and their careers wait to long to get married.

later