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I (21) am a new Christian in a relationship with my boyfriend (29) who has grown up Christian.
I recently gave my life to Jesus and hope to be baptised soon, and recently I’ve been feeling convicted about premarital sex. Before, I never worried about it but recently I’ve felt like it’s wrong and I believe that God designed sex to be something for marriage because of the power it holds.
I’ve tried bringing this up with my boyfriend and I asked if he would be okay with us waiting until marriage but he believes that the term “marriage” in the bible actually refers to long term, serious relationships. And “premarital sex” really means casual sex. Therefore he believes that God is okay with people having sex if they are in long term, loving, committed relationships. He thinks we should carry on having sex like we were and he doesn’t think it is okay for me to suddenly want to abstain. However I believe that people can still be hurt in long term relationships if they have sex, as I have experienced in the past. And that God just wants us to be happy and safe. I don’t want to feel pressured to have sex if I feel it is wrong, but I also don’t want to upset my boyfriend.
This is causing some conflict between us and I would really appreciate some wisdom/ guidance on this topic. I hope I can find some answers so that we can compromise on this. Thank you.
I recently gave my life to Jesus and hope to be baptised soon, and recently I’ve been feeling convicted about premarital sex. Before, I never worried about it but recently I’ve felt like it’s wrong and I believe that God designed sex to be something for marriage because of the power it holds.
I’ve tried bringing this up with my boyfriend and I asked if he would be okay with us waiting until marriage but he believes that the term “marriage” in the bible actually refers to long term, serious relationships. And “premarital sex” really means casual sex. Therefore he believes that God is okay with people having sex if they are in long term, loving, committed relationships. He thinks we should carry on having sex like we were and he doesn’t think it is okay for me to suddenly want to abstain. However I believe that people can still be hurt in long term relationships if they have sex, as I have experienced in the past. And that God just wants us to be happy and safe. I don’t want to feel pressured to have sex if I feel it is wrong, but I also don’t want to upset my boyfriend.
This is causing some conflict between us and I would really appreciate some wisdom/ guidance on this topic. I hope I can find some answers so that we can compromise on this. Thank you.