handy
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- Jun 21, 2007
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I am asking prayer for my mom. When Dad died she did all the paperwork necessary to get his social security as his widow. Dad had been self-employed and paid a buckload of social security taxes over the course of his life. And, since he never truly 'retired' he didn't draw much from them at all. Well, first Social Security denied Mom any of his benefits. After she appealed, they sent her a letter stating that she would have to give up her own SS but that she would recieve the entire widow's benefit, which combined with her own pension from her years of working, would be (just) enough to live on. Then December rolled around and nothing from SS. Not her own SS nor any of Dad's. So, she called them and they told her, "Oh, we've sent you a letter. We reviewed it and decided that you aren't going to get any benefits." Here she had made important decisions as to where to live based upon the fact that they TOLD her she would be getting widow's benefits and then they just say, "Nope, we changed our mind, you don't get nuttin lady!"
I really wonder if they are doing this because she is a little old lady who is still grieving for her husband and figures she would be easy to rip off! I AM SO MAD I COULD SPIT NAILS!!!!!!
Anyway, we have an appointment with the SS (good initials for this group, reminds me of another SS group that were in the business of making life misrable for folks) tomorrow. I am going to go with Mom and see what we can do, hopefully without hiring a lawyer, to get some of the money that Dad was forced to pay all these years of working. We do have a copy of the letter they sent to her telling her that not only that she would be recieving benefits but even the dollar amount she would recieve, so hopefully that will help.
The bottom line is, Mom's pension isn't enough for her to live on, and with Dad's benefits, she would just, with careful budgeting, be able to live. Naturally, all of her children, not to mention a good many of her grandchildren have offered her a home, but she doesn't want to move in with anyone as long as she's healthy enough to live on her own. And, she shouldn't have to, after all Dad had worked all these years paying into a system that is supposed to provide for just these needs.
BTW, if you all could pray for me as well, that my attitude would be one of reconcilation and helpfulness towards resoluton rather than going down there loaded for bear and only suceeding in making them more apt to stonewall Mom.
I really wonder if they are doing this because she is a little old lady who is still grieving for her husband and figures she would be easy to rip off! I AM SO MAD I COULD SPIT NAILS!!!!!!
Anyway, we have an appointment with the SS (good initials for this group, reminds me of another SS group that were in the business of making life misrable for folks) tomorrow. I am going to go with Mom and see what we can do, hopefully without hiring a lawyer, to get some of the money that Dad was forced to pay all these years of working. We do have a copy of the letter they sent to her telling her that not only that she would be recieving benefits but even the dollar amount she would recieve, so hopefully that will help.
The bottom line is, Mom's pension isn't enough for her to live on, and with Dad's benefits, she would just, with careful budgeting, be able to live. Naturally, all of her children, not to mention a good many of her grandchildren have offered her a home, but she doesn't want to move in with anyone as long as she's healthy enough to live on her own. And, she shouldn't have to, after all Dad had worked all these years paying into a system that is supposed to provide for just these needs.
BTW, if you all could pray for me as well, that my attitude would be one of reconcilation and helpfulness towards resoluton rather than going down there loaded for bear and only suceeding in making them more apt to stonewall Mom.