[__ Prayer __] my mother :-(

[Christ_empowered]

I thought my mom was having a good, or at least...OK day. Anyway, I just heard a loud BANG coming from the kitchen. So, I waited a couple seconds, left my room, and went into the kitchen.

I just asked "what was that?" and she looked at angrily at me and said "I couldn't get the $*@! jar of garlic open, and my gripper thing is gone, so I through the *$*%$ thing on the floor!". I got outta there, asap.

Now...here's the thing...I'm blessed that my people take care of me and let me live here. They're great people. But this kinda stuff takes me back to middle school and HS, when my mom would get wasted and rage...at me, at my dad, at me again, throw stuff, etc. etc. etc.

She's usually had some drinks by this point in the day, but...this kinda display makes me nervous, and I feel bad for her, too. I mean...I dunno...she had a hard life growing up, she worked hard to get her degrees, I think she and my dad had marital problems, and I think...I think now, she's kinda sad about getting older, too.

So...please prayer for her. I've been praying that she and my dad will stop drinking. I often forget how much they drink, or I just...well, accept it as "they like their booze, ha ha ha..." and then things like this happen, and I remember: heavy drinking brings out the demon in people. Plus, its not healthy.

Thanks for your prayers.

 

[ezrider]

You said that she usually had some drinks by this point in the day. Are you saying that today she had not had any drinks? Maybe she's trying and because of that the little things start to bother her and frustrate her easier. If she is a heavy drinker, it may not be easy trying to go dry as they go through withdrawals.

 

[Christ_empowered]

I should have worded that better...she's had her drinks, and I think...a few more than usual.

 

[Eugene]

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Without the grace of God guiding each step of His children, we all face such displays; the law killed Paul in Rom 7:9, and without the no condemnation he realized in Rom 8:1 there was little spiritual growth to be had.

Gal 6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. Prayer is in order, and above all love to her. In Christ we are a new creation although not always portraying the image of Christ. Give her the benefit of doubt.

I continue praying for you and your family, and the next time instead of getting out of her way, help her clean up the mess and give her a big hug.

 

[Christ_empowered]

thanks for the replies.

I'm thinking things will be better once she retires, which should happen over this coming summer. I'm so happy...I think once she's retired, she'll be able to de-compress and just...be, which will be a nice change of pace for her.

I should have done something to help her. I popped in on her doing laundry and said "hey," but that was about it. Sometimes...I steer clear, when I probably should do something constructive.

Thanks again.

 

[Angel]

Praying for her

 

[AirDancer]

Your Mom remains in my prayers, Christ_empowered .

I know how frustrating it can be to not be able to open a jar.... that's why I have not one, not two but four of those jar lid grippers.....just in case!

 

[Christ_empowered]

yeah, I mean...I should've --not-- closed the jar so tight. It dawned on me that I was probably the last person to open and close that jar while I was making pasta. Ugh.

Things are much, much, much better than when I was younger. I'm different, they're different, and...its OK to get mad now and then. I think she works too hard AND over-works herself. The combination is...stressful.

I do hope they both quit drinking. I mean...I'm not trying to be Puritanical, but most peoples' lives are better without booze.

Thanks again for the replies+prayers.

 

[Angel]

You probably already do this, but one way you can be good to your Mom is by cleaning up around the house. Do the dishes, wash the Windows, sweep and mop the floor. I think that would make a good impression and show Jesus.