Need help coping with a sexless marriage

[thisnumbersdisconnected]

I think I've figured out why there is such a disconnect between what I have described re lack of female libido and everyone else's experience-- the vast majority of you are much younger than I. From the perspective of a young married person what I have been saying seems inconceivable, and it was wrong of me to even bring it up.

My apologies.

I'm 60 dating a woman of the same age and we have discussed our mutual physical attraction to one another, both as a guard against acting on those feelings and as part of an in-advance discussion of our probable marriage. She has no lack of female libido.

 

[dinoguy]

I'm 60 dating a woman of the same age and we have discussed our mutual physical attraction to one another, both as a guard against acting on those feelings and as part of an in-advance discussion of our probable marriage. She has no lack of female libido.

The psychodynamics in a dating relationship are ENTIRELY different from those in a long-term marriage.
How long were you married and how long have you been single now?

 

[iLOVE]

Any believer that is in a sexless marriage the reason is because God is not first in your life. If that commitment is not there with God through your spirit (not flesh) all things will be out of order.

 

[thisnumbersdisconnected]

The psychodynamics in a dating relationship are ENTIRELY different from those in a long-term marriage.
How long were you married and how long have you been single now?

I'm sorry, but your statement is completely inaccurate, given that who we are today is exactly who we will be tomorrow, next year and for the rest of our lives. We don't play games, we don't hide our faults and flaws from one another. With God as our guide, we can mutually agree to exactly how we will handle our sexuality now and then. The length of time I was married, and how long I've been single, is irrelevant to my comfort and self-knowledge, and to how we now know, and will know, each other.

 

[dinoguy]

I'm sorry, but your statement is completely inaccurate, given that who we are today is exactly who we will be tomorrow, next year and for the rest of our lives. We don't play games, we don't hide our faults and flaws from one another. With God as our guide, we can mutually agree to exactly how we will handle our sexuality now and then. The length of time I was married, and how long I've been single, is irrelevant to my comfort and self-knowledge, and to how we now know, and will know, each other.

I am done discussing this, and I'm sure everyone else is tired of hearing about it. People will discover for themselves where the truth lies as they go thru their lives.
I will not respond to any more of your posts.

 

[dinoguy]

isthisreallyme, you have Private Messages

 

[thisnumbersdisconnected]

I am done discussing this, and I'm sure everyone else is tired of hearing about it. People will discover for themselves where the truth lies as they go thru their lives.
I will not respond to any more of your posts.

As to the last sentence, suits me just fine. As to the first part of your post, I think you are probably the one who is tired of hearing about it. And what people will discover as they grow older depends entirely on their maturity and openness of mind to how liberality works within the biblical definition of marriage. It isn't as narrow and black and white as your posts in collective make them seem.