I'm trying everyday to learn more about our God and becoming a better Christian.
How's this going? Walking well with God is the most crucial, the most essential, part of being married. Marriage is, after all, God's institution, designed by Him such that it doesn't work as it should without Him at the center of it.
A little history first. I was married for almost 30 years, and my now ex asked for a divorce. I didn't want it, but I didn't have a choice.
I see. Well, "it takes two to tango," as the saying goes. It is an extremely rare thing for a marriage to split apart
solely because of one member of a marriage union. And so, if you've not resolved with God whatever part of you helped bring your marriage to divorce, that part will also sabotage your new prospective marriage. As another saying goes, "Wherever you go, there
you are." A change of location or relationship doesn't change who you are, right?
However, I get help with my medical insurance through the state. If I get married, I will lose it. I've looked into going ahead and getting insurance on my own. It's so expensive. It also doesn't cover all of my medications. I have some medical conditions that require expensive medications. I would have to pay for the insurance and almost $2000 for just two of my medications. I have 5 others that aren't expensive and are covered. We've asked God to bless our union, but I just don't feel that is what God would want.
Well, perhaps one of the ways God will indicate His approval of you two being together as husband and wife, is to supply the financial means for this to be. It has been by material providence that God has often indicated His will to His children. Not always, but often. Remember: None of what you have ultimately comes from the government. All you possess is given to you by God.
If you are seeking first His kingdom every day, He promises He will add to you all you need materially - food, clothing, shelter, etc - to you. Read
Matthew 6:25-33.
Are there some bible verses that would guide me? Is it possible to get married under God's eyes without government interference? Thank you and God bless
Marriage is not certified by the government but by God. It is your marriage covenant with each other and
with God, forsaking all others to become one flesh, "come hell or high water," that truly marries you. But there
are established cultural traditions/expectations concerning marriage (official/public ceremony, governmental registration, etc.) that you can't just throw off and expect others to understand and accept. Nor should you think to deceive the government by making your marriage appear to be just a common-law thing. God will have nothing to do with deception.