ThomasOwlCat
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Our 17 year old daughter has been raised as modest, committeed to abstinance, in the church and a participant in many Christian youth programs. All along, she seems to have observed the seemingly hypocratic behavior of Christians among her peers (promiscuity), youth groups (immodest dress and bullying) and family (business over family, infrequent church, imperfect behaviors in mine and my wife's life). Meanwhile, she has befriended muslim girls who are steadfastly adherent to faith (headscarf, 5X prayers/day, eating halal...etc.
While we have a great relationship, her age and strive for independence are at the point where the scales of effective influence as a father are in direct competition with these friends. She states that she's "just asking questions" and I hope that is the case. These questions are: "How can we claim monotheism if we're praying to Jesus" (One of the goto themes in Islamic recruitment from what I understand). "If all these people in my life are faithful Christians, why don't I see more apparent adherence? (juxaposed to her friend that follow all of the traditions of their faith.)
A heavy hand will push her away and diminish my credibility (i.e. cutting her off from friends). A light hand could clearly be disasterous (doing nothing). Bottom line, I am looking for some help on how to proceed. She is eyes-wide-open about worldly things, and is unfortunately attributing most of it to our "Chirstian" society.
NOTE: I am looking for a strategy, not one conversation, a wise quote or singular piece of scripture. I understand that this is a sensative situation and needs a long-tail solution.
While we have a great relationship, her age and strive for independence are at the point where the scales of effective influence as a father are in direct competition with these friends. She states that she's "just asking questions" and I hope that is the case. These questions are: "How can we claim monotheism if we're praying to Jesus" (One of the goto themes in Islamic recruitment from what I understand). "If all these people in my life are faithful Christians, why don't I see more apparent adherence? (juxaposed to her friend that follow all of the traditions of their faith.)
A heavy hand will push her away and diminish my credibility (i.e. cutting her off from friends). A light hand could clearly be disasterous (doing nothing). Bottom line, I am looking for some help on how to proceed. She is eyes-wide-open about worldly things, and is unfortunately attributing most of it to our "Chirstian" society.
NOTE: I am looking for a strategy, not one conversation, a wise quote or singular piece of scripture. I understand that this is a sensative situation and needs a long-tail solution.