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When i was a young teenager i knew a lady that had a drinking problem.Because i did not really
like her i would make fun of her for drinking all the time.She ended up dying at 43 yrs old with cirrhosis of the liver.When i was in my late twenties i worked in the deli at a grocery store.
I was christian and tried to be a light and witness to everyone around me.Well,Their was a
skinny old lady that would come in several times a week and buy these big jugs of wine.She could
barely get them into the buggy.You could tell she was drinking because she appeared to have trouble walking.One day i saw her trying to get the wine in the trunk of her car.Could barely do it.
Backing out of the parking space was no easier.I would always pray for her whenever i would
her.But in my heart i thought it was ridiculous and kinda looked at her with disgusted.
Now i am not a lot different from those two women that in my heart i judged them.
So i know how hard it can be to understand when someone is doing something you THINK
you would never.I pray the Lord never lets me judge another person no matter what they do.
 
No, we shouldn't judge one another. But, we should all be open and honest based on the experiences we've have in certain areas concerning these things. This is what agape' love is, not holding back for the sake of truly helping someone to stand.
I am not in a perfect world nor insulated from it. I have had some experiences in the situation you are in, mayaggie. I apologize if you think I have judged you, I only offered what I witnessed happen to someone I was very close to. I will be praying for you. I know that a life surrendered to Jesus Christ is a victorious one, and I will be praying for you to have complete victory through Him.

That is my one desire and hope.. and motive for posting here at all.

Bless you, Sister.
 
Mayaggie like I said before, I have prayed and am praying that somehow you will meet some good christian friends as you need that for encouragement, guidance and fellowship.
I don't know if you are living in the same area where you went to church years earlier (you said you were a strong christian years ago) or if you knew of a good church as they can help and support you as you continue to put faith in the One who can do all things and walk with Him.

It is hard being on a forum trying to communicate as we don't know you, talking with you face to face for a couple of hours would cut through a lot of this not knowing things as Destiny just brought up the hope that you aren't exchanging one drug for another (she doesn't know you or what you are thinking as maybe you could have been). I am glad you are not and are aware of the dangers.

But until you get other good, wise in godly things friends then please do stick around here (glad you said you will :) ) it may be clumsy communicating, not knowing everything etc but we do care and love you in Christ. Which can show in concern and questions etc. I always know a true, caring friend in that they will ask the tough questions even if they are truly of base, or risk the friendship as that shows they care enough, even when we don't like it or they are wrong. I know you know that.

Just hang in there, second by second, keep trusting in God alone for strength -
'But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.†Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me...for when I am weak, then I am strong" 2 Corinthians 12:9

so if you feel tempted by drink etc and feel weak that you can't say no to it, just remember this verse.
 
Myaggie,
I don't want to scare you into taking morphine again, but... you could go into shock, if you try doing this on your own. You need to find a doctor and let him know what you are battling. He can not disclose your information to anyone! Maybe you could call a Christian church, such as Baptist, Nazarene, Lutheran, Calvary Chapel, even rescue mission. The following is a number for Teen Challenge a faith based treatment program in which despite the name it is for adults also, 417-862-6969.

I am still praying, don't give up!
Love Kelli
 
Hi Destiny,
No,I do not think you are judging me.Wouldn't really blame you if you did.It's hard to understand why people do drugs or can't stop drinking.When i started drinking it was just for fun when i went out.I never thought it would turn into a problem.When i started take morphine i never would thought i would have withdraws right up til today even.I thought it would be the same as lortabs.
No physical withdraws.It's the same as someone who is naturally thin.They can not understand why
some are fat and will make fun of them.I just want to get past this with the morphine and them worry about drinking.Although the last few days i have really cut back.You see,I do not drink during the day.Don't even like to.My problem is about 7:00 pm I like sit and watch tv and drink for a couple of hours and then go to bed.I do not like to drink in public or with other people.Once i start drinking the only thing i am good for is watching tv.I have did it this way for 9 yrs.I am worried about my liver and over all health.It has started taking it's toll on me.I use to have a lot of energy
and like to go a lot and workout a lot.Now i could just sit on the couch and watch the golden girls all day.I am still praying,watching christian tv and reading my bible a lot.
Yesterday i had a really good day.I turned my tv one a christian channel,tuned the volume all the way up,cleaned my house,went to the gym for a quick weight workout,came home and watched 700 club.Got on my treadmill for 81min.Then spent some time in my bible.For a moment i felt like i had my old life back again.Thank you for your prayers!
 
Skipping to the bottom line, maymaggie...satan wants you dead so you are no longer a threat. He knows if you get free you will be equiped to help others in your situation. Strongholds are built around ungodly patterns and they can be broken through godly patterns in their place.

It might take some hard work and determination to break those pattens, but with each victory the hold on you will weaken. Keep doing the right things and stay in constant communication with Jesus, He has to be your strength. You need Godly vision for your life, seeing yourself building for the Kingdom in the lives of others who need your gifts and talents.
Think on those things.

I will keep praying!
 
mayaggie,

I am still praying for you and your husband.

I pray that you will stop drinking and that you will put your faith in Christ to do so, He will give you the strength to do so, moment by moment.

I pray that you will come of the lortabs soon.
That you will go to your doctor and that you under his guidance, follow his advice, if it's reduce lortabs slowly till stop complete - then do so. (Have you been back to the doctor what is his timeline to come of them?) As you don't want to be on them a second longer than you need - even if you think you won't have withdrawls. As withdrawls or not you don't want to use them if you are dpendent on them, feel you need them, feel you need something to take. You didn't think you would become addicted to morphine.

I pray that you will find and want to find a Church.
That, that church will help you spiritually, and physically, mentally and help you understand why you went on lortabs and morphine in the first place (you said you had been on lortabs before).
And that they can help you in Christ break your addiction once and for all and disciple you in what it means practically and how to do it - to put your trust and faith in God, knowing he can break that cycle and you don't need to drink again.

I pray that you will find an AA meeting, if that is right.

I pray that as you pray you will be guided as to how practically you can reduce the temptation.
Break your ties with the person who sold the drugs to you in the first place.
If TV watching in the evenings are hard, then at least for the begining don't watch TV. Go to the gym, go on walks with your husband, go to movies, coffee shops in evenings, take long baths, read a book anything else than what you used to do that make you want a drink.

I pray that your husband will come to know and experience in a real way the love of God and the power of the Holy Spirit in his life.

I pray that you will tell your husband, so he can help you, that he will help and that through this your bond with your husband and your trust will be stronger.

I have prayed all above and am continually doing so. As you are trusting God you need to find other Christians there where you are in a church to help you, in a short time face to face they can understand better than we what is going on. We are always here but you need a church. If you pray about it, God will lead you - it will only help you.

"But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavers is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed." James 1:6


We may not know what it is like to go through what you are going through but what we do know and can testify to so strongly is God's power, His miraculous power in circumstances. If you have never experienced it before, pray that you in your weakness (as that is when He is made strong) THROUGH this trial will be able to bear up against all the temptation, that you will be released FROM IT ALL and do so without wavering, just believe it put it in God's hands. HE WILL NOT LET YOU DOWN.
He is able to do far more than we can dare dream of.(Ephesians 3:20)

I could have just said I was praying for but sometimes it helps to see how someone is praying for you, as that hopefully will encourage and help you as you try and break this through Christ :thumb
 
I can finally give everyone a positive update! I am completely off the morphine and lortabs and
i did not drink anything last night.I has been almost 2 yrs since i went without a drink.The last time i quit i lasted 5 weeks and every night felt like the first.I will admit the i did take a sleeping
pill so i could sleep.I started praying yesterday and i don't think i stopped all day.Most of the day i felt terrible.I would have woke feeling good about myself if my head didn't hurt so bad.Feels like i over drank.Please don't stop praying for me.The battle has really just began.Please pray that my desire to drink will go away.Dr Phil said it only take 30 days to break a habit.I disagree.
 
mayaggie said:
I can finally give everyone a positive update! I am completely off the morphine and lortabs and
i did not drink anything last night.I has been almost 2 yrs since i went without a drink.The last time i quit i lasted 5 weeks and every night felt like the first.I will admit the i did take a sleeping
pill so i could sleep.I started praying yesterday and i don't think i stopped all day.Most of the day i felt terrible.I would have woke feeling good about myself if my head didn't hurt so bad.Feels like i over drank.Please don't stop praying for me.The battle has really just began.Please pray that my desire to drink will go away.Dr Phil said it only take 30 days to break a habit.I disagree.

:amen I am so pleased you are of all the pills! You are right now is just the beginning, the beginning of a new, positive, productive, complete life in Christ full of things that will be helpful :thumb Even though the initial phase of going through it will be tough.

Have you thought of going to AA meetings? AA meetings started of by being christian, although today it still has "a higher power' it has changed a bit but the basic tenets are there. Trust in God first, He can change you, need support. Although it is only through Christ who can give you strength when tempted, it may be helpful. But it does depend on who is there.
If you could get to a church they may know of a good group that might largely be christian.

You may have a tough few days ahead if you have the shakes, the initial physical withdrawal will be hard. But you have proved God in that by keeping your thoughts on Him all day you got through it. :amen

God gives us daily His grace, we just have to minute by minute put our trust in Him, and He is faithful and will deliver us. I know your desire for a drink won't be too hard for you to resist in God as He has told us no temptation will be too strong - IF we keep our trust/walk in Him.

You may have the desire for drink be taken away or you may have it the rest of your life albeit it greatly reduced, so that you will not trust in yourself but in God who gives you the strength to overcome all temptation.

I may have the desire all the rest of my life of wanting beyond all reason certain foods for comfort and abuse foods and me with it, although I have no physical withdrawals or wanting to put it in the same category as you.

I realise that it is self inflicted and I may never be 'cured', that God may choose to leave it there -

1) For me to remember what I was like before I trusted God with this area of my life
2) For a reminder that it was only through Him I overcame
3) That it is in my weakness that God has strength in my life
4) For me never to get big-headed and fool myself by thinking I overcame
5) So I walk with God daily and not rely on my own strength

I just know that as I gave God that area of my life and I realise I was trying to fill a God sized comfort hole with something else.That only God could satisfy me, not what I was foolishly hoping would, and I didn't even know I was doing it!

That now it is full and when I am in Him, I am not looking for that any more. It is only 2 weeks but I have been praying throughout the day putting my focus on God, wanting my 1st desire is to grow in Him. Whereas before it was 'help me with this diet', 'take away my desire' and it didn't work - why? because I wasn't putting first "seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these other things will be added unto you" I was putting the other things first in my prayer etc and putting the kingdom of God/what He wanted to do last :nono

Thanks to Kelli, I 'got it' and now I don't have the same desire. But I know if I go back to my old ways and not keep in Him continually, pray continually it will come back that desire, to a certain degree. I know when I have been tired and haven't talked to God for an a'noon I am tempted/the thought comes to me.

I will keep you in my prayers, that you will grow in Him. It is hard, this initial phase but you can do it through Him who gives you strength. :amen
 
I have thought about going to aa.Right now i am so sick i can barely think of anything.I think the lortabs was only a temporaly fix.I am not sure if im just sick or if it's now that i am off of everything.Even though i never drink during the day i can tell you that i do want one.No reason to.
I would not make me feel any better.Drinking during the day never has.Thank you for your prayers!
 
I can honestly tell you i am getting sicker by hour.My arms and legs feel like they weigh a thousand pounds.It's worse than the last time i stopped drinking.I at least felt better.Just had craving to drink.Then my drinking was my only battle.Not pills.I have laid on the couch all day.I am really not sure why i am so sick.Not sure if it's the lack of pills or alcohol or both.maybe a virus.
 
Mayaggie with what your body has gone through I am not surprised you feel so rough. It will be rough until you pass the initial bodily withdrawal.

I would prefer it, first of all over AA, if you had christian friends around you to support you and pray over you if you felt you needed a drink to help the withdrawal so they wouldn't let you do it. But God will answer that prayer as I am praying it for you, a church and christian fellowship. Not that my prayers are different from anyones' but that you are just hanging on in there, just praying I guess in groans sometime for strength from God.

But as you don't and this is it, do pop in here anytime. I now pop on here during the day at various times seeing if you are here, and others are here as well.

Dear loving heavenly Father,
You know your child is in pain. Please as she draws near to you, you will draw near to her as you have said so in scripture, we ask this knowing you will. Please be with her moment by moment as she is and will go through this, that she knows you have the power to help her, to say no.
Help us all to remember "yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory He will give us later" (Romans 8:18) and to keep our eyes focused on you when the pain just is so so bad.

You know her needs and know her well Lord, please come close and minister to her, so she can feel you Lord and feel your power, love and compassion, as you wrap her up in your warm, protective arms.

I ask this in Jesus name
AMEN
 
I am still praying for you. I know today may be the toughest day but hopefully in a couple of days the worst will be over. I know you probably aren't sleeping as well. But just hang in there - God's got you.

Keep rereading all the bible verses here and all the prayers people have given here. I am praying for your husband as well, to be wise in what to say and do at the moment.

You are not alone.
 
Thank you so much Ginger! I have been really sick all day and with restless leg syndrome.Not as bad as yesterday.I was not sure why i was so sick. i did drink last night.I had a horrible night.I AM NOT going to drink tonight.I think it if the lack of pills or have a bad virus.Actually i am not even wanting a drink.Normally by now i am watching the clock and wishing it was late enough to justify having a drink.I know the Lord is working in my life for me to even be able to go one night without drinking.Especially if i'm not feeling well.I like to drink and just go to bed.I have been to sick to drive anywhere.I am hoping i am going to be better tomorrow.I am planning on getting a news paper to get the aa schedule.I found them online but it did not tell what types of aa classes it was.They have different kinds.I have been before.I think it was you who said i should tell my husband about the morphine and i did.Just as i thought he didn't say much either way.I don't like to talk to him about trying to stop drinking because he makes it harder.(He a recovering alcoholic)
He has NOT ONE time as me to stop.NEVER.ONCE he told me wish i wouldn't drink so much and take better care of myself.Our counselor accused him sabotaging my recovery the last time i tried to quit.Thank you so much for your prayers!
 
mayaggie said:
Thank you so much Ginger! I have been really sick all day and with restless leg syndrome.Not as bad as yesterday.I was not sure why i was so sick. i did drink last night.I had a horrible night.I AM NOT going to drink tonight.I think it if the lack of pills or have a bad virus.Actually i am not even wanting a drink.Normally by now i am watching the clock and wishing it was late enough to justify having a drink.I know the Lord is working in my life for me to even be able to go one night without drinking.Especially if i'm not feeling well.I like to drink and just go to bed.I have been to sick to drive anywhere.I am hoping i am going to be better tomorrow.I am planning on getting a news paper to get the aa schedule.I found them online but it did not tell what types of aa classes it was.They have different kinds.I have been before.I think it was you who said i should tell my husband about the morphine and i did.Just as i thought he didn't say much either way.I don't like to talk to him about trying to stop drinking because he makes it harder.(He a recovering alcoholic)
He has NOT ONE time as me to stop.NEVER.ONCE he told me wish i wouldn't drink so much and take better care of myself.Our counselor accused him sabotaging my recovery the last time i tried to quit.Thank you so much for your prayers!

I hate to say this but if you have been a moderate drinker you will have quite a bit of symptoms - from anxiety (which is why doctors usually put patients on valium for about 4 days when they go through this, but as you have a problem with addiction you could then get dependent on valium which is very addictive!) to sweats, shakes, headaches etc. Even if last time you didn't get much symptoms with the last withdrawal, your body is used to more alcohol, is craving it through withdrawal.

I say this as you will have to go through it sometime and as you are starting (24 hrs usually after last drink,starts being bad) and gone through so much in giving up your drugs - keep that in mind - well done. :clap You may as well finish it now and be free of slavery.

usually a family member is there to look after someone when they are going through this. I am so sorry your husband doesn't seem like much help, but maybe he hasn't asked you to stop drinking as he knows after going through it himself, - it has to be your decision.
You say he is a recovering alcoholic, does he go to meetings? Can he not help you through this if you ask him, he knows what you are going through.

Go and throw out every bottle you have, ALL your secret stash. If you keep any it's like having a fall back. God can help you through this but reduce temptation.

I also know you don't fancy to eat much just now, but get some ensure drinks in you as that will help your body.
Re AA isn't it called NA (narcotics anonymous) for all the other types of meeting - surely a straight AA meeting would be called that? Ask your husband, if he is no help just go to any, you can walk out if it isn't right. And I know he doesn't seem much help, maybe he isn't but don't use it as an excuse or blame him, if you are tempted to do so - satan would love to put that in your ear. It doesn't matter just now, just focus on God.

Therefore, submit yourselves to God. Resist the devil, and he will run away from you. James 4:7
Do you see that - he will RUN from you. Just put yourself in God's hands, tell him I can't do this on my own, help me. Then rest in him - knowing He has you covered.

One of Kelli's studies title is "Jesus, Satan is Knocking Will You Please Answer It"! :amen

Lord,
Please cover her, give her strength in your weakness, may she know she can fully trust you by letting go of the drink. You are there with all the power, let her know she just has to put you first minute by minute and you will deliver her.
in your name I ask this,
Jesus
 
It feels so good to wake up with no hangover or headache! Are you kidding! I also have trouble with eating to much.I am not one of those people who drink and don't eat.I do both.I use to workout a lot but the last couple of years i think my drinking is catching up with me.I never feel like doing anything and i have gained enough weight that a lot of don't even recognize me.
My husband said he did attend AA but doesn't anymore.He had already stopped drinking by time we met.I am not going to talk much to him about my trying to stop drinking.He is taking some pre law classes at night so he's not home til about 9:00.Here is one example.I told him i am trying to quit.Last night i took a klonopin and a lunesta and went to bed early.My legs started hurting so i got up and took some motrin.They kept hurting and i couldn't sleep.I got up and ask did he think it would be ok is i took so benadryl.He said why don't you just have a shot.I told him am not going to have shot.He knows i can not stop with one shot.The other day i told him the doctor gave me a script for lunesta so i could quit drinking and still sleep.He said i should take the funniest and have one drink with it.We both have known people that has died from mixing drugs and alcohol.The time quit he did things that he knew was going make me mad.Our counselor accused of trying to sabotage my recovery.This time i am him completely out of it.Thank you for support.
 
mayaggie said:
It feels so good to wake up with no hangover or headache! Are you kidding! I also have trouble with eating to much.I am not one of those people who drink and don't eat.I do both.I use to workout a lot but the last couple of years i think my drinking is catching up with me.I never feel like doing anything and i have gained enough weight that a lot of don't even recognize me.
My husband said he did attend AA but doesn't anymore.He had already stopped drinking by time we met.I am not going to talk much to him about my trying to stop drinking.He is taking some pre law classes at night so he's not home til about 9:00.Here is one example.I told him i am trying to quit.Last night i took a klonopin and a lunesta and went to bed early.My legs started hurting so i got up and took some motrin.They kept hurting and i couldn't sleep.I got up and ask did he think it would be ok is i took so benadryl.He said why don't you just have a shot.I told him am not going to have shot.He knows i can not stop with one shot.The other day i told him the doctor gave me a script for lunesta so i could quit drinking and still sleep.He said i should take the funniest and have one drink with it.We both have known people that has died from mixing drugs and alcohol.The time quit he did things that he knew was going make me mad.Our counselor accused of trying to sabotage my recovery.This time i am him completely out of it.Thank you for support.

Well, well done one night without drinking (I take it!) :clap Well I am glad you are eating so that's good!
Well I wouldn't listen to your husband in these matters when he tells you to drink or take more pills etc, maybe he's dogtired with the classes, or maybe he doesn't want to see you hurting but that isn't helping you. If you look on the bright side, if you can give up drinking with your husband tempting you like that then you are strong with God's help :thumb
And I am keeping praying for him so that he will know Jesus and walk with Him in a personal way, that will change his life and your marriage.

I don't know when you will come through the initial physical withdrawal maybe the worst is over or it will be 48hrs or a day or two longer, but you proved God last night. Just keep praying and trusting and leaving it in God's hands, moment by moment.
 
My husband is not concerned about hurting me.The other day he told me to take my lunesta with one drink.I think he feels more secure if i'm drinking.I know the Lord is helping me.I never thought i would be able to go a night without drinking.I plan on going tonight without drinking.I feel much better today.I am still feeling the withdraws from the morphine.Thank you for your prayers and support!
 
Well,Ginger i made it another night .I am having restless leg syndrome so bad at night.Other than that everything was fine.I don't think i am having any withdraws except a hard time sleeping.
I know the Lord is helping because i am not having any craving.Mostly just the idea that it's time to drink.I have been trying to read at night instead of watching tv.Unless it's something i really want to watch.I consider 3/12/09 the date i stopped drinking.I want to keep that date because someone i really cared about was killed on that date a year ago.and my aunt died this year on that date.I didn't plan on that being day i stopped it has just worked out that way.Thank you again for your prayers and support!
 
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