IloveGodAlways
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Hi. I could go into lots of detail abt my problematic marriage. It has been hanging on a thread 4 quite some time. Things had been bearable for abt a wk until this morning. I have a son from a previous relationship. He is 23 yrs old. He called to ask if I could drop him off @ work. We live n an area where there r few buses. Most buses lead back n2 the city, but my son had 2 go in a remote area nearby. I told him to call me back abt 1.5 hrs ltr & I could let him know. I told him that if I were still home, I would. His job is abt a 2.5 min ride in the car, however it is abt 10-12 blocks away. My husband became upset saying that he won't allow me 2 drop my son off. In no way was this an inconvience to us. We were just laying around @ home. In fact I was taking care of a child that may or may not be his grandchild 4 the past month. I didn't have 2 take my son way across town in the opp direction. I didn't cut short any outing that we were on. I didn't delay doing anything we were supposed to do.
I am all my son has. The man I'm married to has broken his spirit, telling him "Your own father didn't want you" when my son was trying to finish high school. He has accused my son & I of having sex w/1 another (sev. times). He has made him sleep n a car. A few yrs ago, I snuck him n2 our garage (where he wasn't disturbing ANY1) but he (I'll call him KC) had a FIT! He's tried 2 put him out n the middle of winter (when there was a deadly weather warning). Needless 2 say, there has been some bad blood btwn them. He even told him this morning, "You are NOT my son. You r your momma's child!" He told my son that we need to get ready to do something diff--that my son needs 2 get his own place & I need 2 get my own car (the car is in both our names). He bragged that he has the power 2 do these things & felt good abt. it. My son remained respectful, calling him "Daddy" every time he spoke 2 him & told him that God is not pleased. My son has had his own issues stemming from abandonment from his biological, the put downs from KC. & even ways I let him down. He has been far from the perfect son. He has however, maintained employment. He was trying 2 get a ride 2 work--not 2 a bar, 2 buy drugs or any other bad place. KC went so far as 2 say that he is moving out Oct 1st. He has threatened me SO MANY times over the years w/abandonment whenever I don't dance 2 his music.I couldn't even root 4 the team I wanted during the NBA championship--I wasn't showing him the "proper support" when asked who I wanted 2 win.
I'm a homeschooler. Bc I don't get paid 4 rearing/educating our children, cleaning the house, cooking, etc., he continuously throws n my face the threat of leaving. He tells me, "Let some1 else come take care of u." "Who's going 2 take care of u w/these kids?" I attempted 2 go back 2 school. I had already obtained my degree & was sev classes away from obtaining another 1. He would sabotage my efforts by taking the car & leaving the house when I had class or an exam. I missed over half my classes. I could finish out the year. I was in the process of enrolling this semester when he REFUSED 2 sign the papers 4 the fin. side 2 obtain our JOINT tax return. I could go on & on. I'm just so exhausted. He throws n my face how he took care of me & my child. I have no family (my grandmths died back2back in 96&97, my mother died in '94 and my only sibling, my brother, died in '81) & he tries 2 use that against me. The cousins I USED TO be n contact w/, I was accused of having somethg sexual w. When I was working, I was accused of the same w/any1 who befriended me--men AND women.
I have been taking care of a baby for the past month that may or may not be his grandchild. The father lives in the city but the child has been staying w/us. He threatened 2 not allow my son 2 sleep n our garage if I didn't take care of the child. He has been financially manipulative & I am SO tired of it. Pray 4 my children & me. I want 2 make a new start 4 my children & me. I know it will be VERY HARD w/no family, no job, no car, no childcare, but w/God, ALL things r possible! He told me that he refuses 2 allow me 2 have the car 2 look 4 a job. I told him that I'm the 1 w/the children & would have 2 find a school 2 enroll them n, drop them off, find a job & an after-school prog 4 our children. He told me 2 "get on the bus like other ppl do." Only God has kept me from losing my mind from being w/him.
I am all my son has. The man I'm married to has broken his spirit, telling him "Your own father didn't want you" when my son was trying to finish high school. He has accused my son & I of having sex w/1 another (sev. times). He has made him sleep n a car. A few yrs ago, I snuck him n2 our garage (where he wasn't disturbing ANY1) but he (I'll call him KC) had a FIT! He's tried 2 put him out n the middle of winter (when there was a deadly weather warning). Needless 2 say, there has been some bad blood btwn them. He even told him this morning, "You are NOT my son. You r your momma's child!" He told my son that we need to get ready to do something diff--that my son needs 2 get his own place & I need 2 get my own car (the car is in both our names). He bragged that he has the power 2 do these things & felt good abt. it. My son remained respectful, calling him "Daddy" every time he spoke 2 him & told him that God is not pleased. My son has had his own issues stemming from abandonment from his biological, the put downs from KC. & even ways I let him down. He has been far from the perfect son. He has however, maintained employment. He was trying 2 get a ride 2 work--not 2 a bar, 2 buy drugs or any other bad place. KC went so far as 2 say that he is moving out Oct 1st. He has threatened me SO MANY times over the years w/abandonment whenever I don't dance 2 his music.I couldn't even root 4 the team I wanted during the NBA championship--I wasn't showing him the "proper support" when asked who I wanted 2 win.
I'm a homeschooler. Bc I don't get paid 4 rearing/educating our children, cleaning the house, cooking, etc., he continuously throws n my face the threat of leaving. He tells me, "Let some1 else come take care of u." "Who's going 2 take care of u w/these kids?" I attempted 2 go back 2 school. I had already obtained my degree & was sev classes away from obtaining another 1. He would sabotage my efforts by taking the car & leaving the house when I had class or an exam. I missed over half my classes. I could finish out the year. I was in the process of enrolling this semester when he REFUSED 2 sign the papers 4 the fin. side 2 obtain our JOINT tax return. I could go on & on. I'm just so exhausted. He throws n my face how he took care of me & my child. I have no family (my grandmths died back2back in 96&97, my mother died in '94 and my only sibling, my brother, died in '81) & he tries 2 use that against me. The cousins I USED TO be n contact w/, I was accused of having somethg sexual w. When I was working, I was accused of the same w/any1 who befriended me--men AND women.
I have been taking care of a baby for the past month that may or may not be his grandchild. The father lives in the city but the child has been staying w/us. He threatened 2 not allow my son 2 sleep n our garage if I didn't take care of the child. He has been financially manipulative & I am SO tired of it. Pray 4 my children & me. I want 2 make a new start 4 my children & me. I know it will be VERY HARD w/no family, no job, no car, no childcare, but w/God, ALL things r possible! He told me that he refuses 2 allow me 2 have the car 2 look 4 a job. I told him that I'm the 1 w/the children & would have 2 find a school 2 enroll them n, drop them off, find a job & an after-school prog 4 our children. He told me 2 "get on the bus like other ppl do." Only God has kept me from losing my mind from being w/him.
