Blazin Bones
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believe it or not, there are many christians who would not mind sex before marraige, what are your thoughts on the matter?
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Blazin Bones said:believe it or not, there are many christians who would not mind sex before marriage, what are your thoughts on the matter?
LostKid said:Sexual immorality (including sex before marriage), as illustrated by someone here earlier, causes the holy spirit to grieve and is, therefore, bad.
Be thankful your battle isn't as bad as some of ours.
LostKid said:Good point.
Sorry if I came across as a jerk, I've been angry lately.
I'm so sorry. : : I will pray for you. I know exactly how that feels. When my ex and I started doing pre-marital activities, that's when our relationship really went downhill, and I went away from God for a while. It's been 3 months for me since then, and it still hurts. : I thought I wanted to marry him at the beginning, but not anymore. And he won't talk to me, either.J6o7h8n3 said:I have alot in common with this issue. Being sexually active makes it difficult to abstain from sexual activities whether it be with yourself or a partner. I was with a girl for about 1-1/2 years and we were engaged. At the start of the relationship we both made a commitment to each other to never have sex until we were married. We sure held off for quite a bit of time and eventually we both gave in. Come to think about it, our relationship used to be real good before we had sex. It was after sex that our relationship started to go downhill. I also worked an on call truck driving job so it did not help any bit with a relationship, but for the most part it was still good....before sex that was. Being engaged and feeling everything was going good made me start to think what can go wrong? I gave myself to this girl and she gave herself to me as we were both virgins before sex thinking we will always be together. It really goes to show you cannot ever rely on anything whether it be people or material things of the world, but the only thing you can rely on having forever is God. I never thought I could ever lose her. After sex things became much different and we finally realized how very different we were. Finally she began to stop calling me and act differently around me so I called her on it and she basically told me she doesnt know about us anymore. I sorta ended our relationship casually because she no longer knew about me anymore. She wants absolutely nothing to do with me anymore and says she only remembers bad things about our relationship even though we had good times... I just dont get it. Anyways, I was for sure about her and wanted to work things out right after our breakup, but she moved on and said we were just to different, plus what really hurt was I think she also found another guy over the internet who was non christian which made her start to stop calling me because she became interested in him. It breaks my heart in two ways. I lost the love I honestly thought I was suppose to be with, somebody I have never felt so at ease and comfortable around, and most importantly I did something I told God I would never do. This story of my life basically shows two things. We as humans are no good at our promises and the second thing being that we can never rely on anything to always be around no matter how good it seems.......except for God. Aside from whatever issues we were having in our relationship, one thing saddens me the most about not having a focused relationship with God during our engagement and that is I put her at risk as far as her spiritual walk by performing sexual activities with her. I would never want to put myself or a loved one in a sinful position before God, which I did. I could of said not but my body was too weak. During the relationship I lost sight of God and my walk with him. I have recently took another step with him and have renewed my lost relationship which is the best part about me and my ex's breakup, since this life is vanity anyways. Please pray for my healing, its been over a month but I still often times feel very blue. My only advice to anybody who has been tempted about giving in is to hold off from pre-marital sex, it can destroy a relationship, it can destroy your relationship with God and in the end you may end up left with nothing and heartbroken and now......I wont be that Virgin for my future Wife if God so has one planned for me. Nothing is permanent, except for God.
I'm so sorry. I will pray for you. I know exactly how that feels. When my ex and I started doing pre-marital activities, that's when our relationship really went downhill, and I went away from God for a while. It's been 3 months for me since then, and it still hurts. I thought I wanted to marry him at the beginning, but not anymore. And he won't talk to me, either.