Tara said:
Do you mind if I ask a few questions about the Bible? I've started reading through the New Testament, and every so often I come across a passage that either doesn't make sense to me, or contradicts what was previously said. I'm sure there are some apologists out there who can straighten me out.
My first question is about the parable of the wedding banquet, where the man who wasn't wearing the right clothes was tied up and thrown into the darkness where there was "weeping and gnashing of teeth." What exactly does this mean? Surely there is more to this than just a crime against fashion.
First Tara, its important to understand the context of what you're reading;
ABOUT THE PARABLE.... In the foregoing parable the Old Testament was likened to a vineyard, with the focus mainly on the matter of labor under the law; in this parable the New Testament is likened to a wedding feast, with the focus mainly on the matter of enjoyment under grace.
ABOUT THE GARMENT...... This wedding garment is typified by the embroidered garment in Psa. 45:14 and is signified by the fine linen in Rev. 19:8.......
(Revelation  19 : 8 " And it was given to her that she should be clothed in fine linen, right and clean; for the fine linen is the righteousnesses of the saints."
The righteousnesses (plural) here are not the righteousness (i.e., Christ) that we received for our salvation (1 Cor. 1:30). The righteousness we received for our salvation is objective and enables us to meet the requirement of the righteous God, whereas here the righteousnesses of the overcoming saints are subjective (Phil. 3:9) and enable them to meet the requirement of the overcoming Christ. In Psa. 45:13-14 the queen has two garments: one corresponds with the objective righteousness, which is for our salvation, and the other with the subjective righteousnesses, which are for our victory. The second garment is equivalent to the wedding garment in Matt. 22:11-12.)
..... This is the surpassing righteousness of the overcoming believers, mentioned in 5:20....
(Matthew  5 : 20 "For I say to you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the scribes and Pharisees, you shall by no means enter into the kingdom of the heavens."
Righteousness here does not refer only to objective righteousness, which is the Christ whom we receive when we believe in Him and are thus justified before God (1 Cor. 1:30; Rom. 3:26); it refers even more to subjective righteousness, which is the indwelling Christ lived out of us as our righteousness that we may live in the reality of the kingdom today and enter into its manifestation in the future. This subjective righteousness is obtained not by merely the fulfilling of the old law, but by the complementing of the old law through the fulfilling of the new law of the kingdom of the heavens given by the new King here in this section of the Word. This righteousness of the kingdom people, which is according to the new law of the kingdom, surpasses that of the scribes and Pharisees, which is according to the old law. It is impossible for our natural life to gain this surpassing righteousness; it can be produced only by a higher life, the resurrection life of Christ. This righteousness, which is likened to the wedding garment (22:11-12), qualifies us to participate in the wedding of the Lamb (Rev. 19:7-8) and inherit the kingdom of the heavens in its manifestation, that is, to enter into the kingdom of the heavens in the future.
The righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees is the righteousness of letters, which they practiced by their own life according to the old law of letters; the surpassing righteousness of the kingdom people is the righteousness of life, which they live out by taking Christ as their life according to the new law of life. Both in nature and in standard, the righteousness of life far surpasses the lifeless righteousness practiced by the scribes and Pharisees.)
...... The man not clothed with a wedding garment is saved, because he has come to the wedding feast. He has received Christ as his righteousness that he might be justified before God (1 Cor. 1:30; Rom. 3:26), but he has not lived Christ out as his subjective righteousness (Phil. 3:9) that he might participate in the enjoyment of the kingdom of the heavens. He has been called to salvation, but he has not been chosen for the enjoyment of the kingdom of the heavens, which is for the overcoming believers only.
This parable concerns the reward a believer will receive,... or not receive. Those who were found in the proper garment (their living being in Christ during their lifetime on earth) will receive the reward. Those believers who were found not to have the proper garments on (did not have a living in Christ during their lifetime) will suffer further discipline.
Tara, there is a difference between "becoming" a Christian and "living" the life of a Christian.
A person can be saved yet for many reasons, all of which God is aware of, just not be expressing the reality of their salvation.
On the other hand, a person might have a certain living and being that might not seem to conform to so-called "accepted" standards of Christian living,.... but if you do the best with what you have been given (circumstances and situations) God again knows the truth of the matter.
Whatever the situation, it is not answered by looking back but by looking forward.
The series of parables that you are reading in Matthew are some of the most insightful that a person can read regarding the kingdom of God.
And understand this, God's kingdom is not a place in heaven, God's kingdom is a way of divine living and being.
In love,
cj