[__ Prayer __] Screamed at the top of my lungs

[Winter Tapioca]

I can. I've been there. See, I have this disabled son and taking care of him was a walk in the park compared to this.

You are not your nephew. Your experience isn't his in the least. You're two different people.

No need to imagine, this is year 28 of this.

For your sister. It was her feelings I was referring to.

While this is true, Deb was like this when she was 20. She is right, always has been. She knows best, always has been. And it has been her personal assignment from God to inform all of humanity how wrong and foolish they are.

And now she has MS.

First, not available in Georgia. My sister had the idea of getting her granddaughter to take on that paid role. And the girl wanted to do it (tho only for four years while in school). But again, not available in Georgia.

It is available in Georgia if the ailing person, your sister, is on Medicaid.

I have suggested that. Deb refused.

Well, if this situation is causing animus among the family toward her and she's nearing incapacity it really is something those that care for her to decide isn't it? When everyone is at wits end and your prior observation of letting her see how she fares on her own if she moves out, given that threat when she was in her condition, she would never be able to care for herself if she did follow through. You have a right to have a life. And she has a right to be cared for by professionals who aren't going to suffer to death and resent caring for her. Peace to both sides.

No need. I did what had to be done. You don't know Deb, she forced this. I have only one regret - I should have been man enough to scream this at her before she ruined her marriage and did all of this to herself. And I saw it coming, but when I tried to speak to the issue, she shut me down.

Wow, I'll pray for her then.

Well, now she is living hte consequences of that. I will offer this, she admitted three years ago that she had it way better with him than she ever admitted. And she did, all her needs were covered. His desire for guy toys, etc, were abolished to care for her - but that was never good enough. Well, some call it "karma".

Damn! Some call that uncharitable and vicious.
Good luck with the rest of your life. I'm out.
P.S. Just for the sake of scripture and because the term bothered me appearing on this community space, some may call it Karma, for those who don't know that's the same as saying this sister earned her current state of suffering. However, those who know scripture know the Bible doesn't recognize Karma. That's a Hindu pagan religious thing.
Karma | Define Karma at Dictionary.com
Karma definition, Hinduism, Buddhism. action, seen as bringing upon oneself inevitable results, good or bad, either in this life or in a reincarnation: in Hinduism ...

 

[jasonc]

That is where the medical assessment comes in .. Down the lines of declaration of incompetence .. It is a hard choice but sometimes necesarry

Declaration of ward of the state. Pizza would become her legal guardian.

My aunt, sister are like this.

 

[Pizza]

Well, my sister has come around.

She explained to her church bishop, clearly this time what is really going on - because after I talked to her (if you can call what I did "talking") she then talked (No, she listened) to her son. It would appear that my call to her forced her to stop telling herself that her son was exaggerating, or in need of psychological help (which is what she tried to tell me and what I did not accept). She appears to see clearly now - and my conversations with her are now on an adult level such that she sent me a text and asked, "Am I doing it again in this text to him" (She was not - but the fact that humility is there is a wonderful thing!)

So, now she and the Bishop have a plan: There are others in the church in situations where:

• The person is alone
• They are stressed financially

The Bishop's idea is simple: He asked her if she would agree to becoming a room/house mate of one of these people. That way:

• The amount of money she can spend on housing is NOT enough, but it IS enough to make a difference in the life of someone else who is struggling financially.
• No one wants to be alone - this way, this (as yet unidentified, to me anyway) person will not be alone anymore and neither will my sister.

I do not think I was smart enough to do all of this, I now believe that the words I spoke were not mine after all. But they were the right words.

My regret (and my sister's, I must say): That I did not find a way to say this 15 years ago, and that she did not listen when I did try. I did try, but no way was I invested enough, nor psychic enough to see how far things would get, in order to be motivated like I was Thursday when I heard what I heard in my nephew's voice.

IT will take a little time to set this up, but my nephew is feeling WAY better, in so many ways.
And so am I. As I told my nephew, "Things take time". The problem was not time, it was that he thought she was not serious about resolving this, and she was not, that was clear from here statements to me.

Sometimes, you must endure the fire to get to where you need or want to be. I think that, this past week, that applied not so much only to my sister, but to the three of us overall.

 

[Sinless]

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