[serious] how to handle sexual jokes from unbelievers

[addonai]

[Serious] Please don't talk hypothetically, like "just ignore it". I can't. If I do, then I'm silent one, and work requires work in team (kitchen), so there must be flow of conversation at most times. And I can't just like that shut down, or I will be unreliable employee, who doesn't talk and is introverted, shy.



How to handle sexual jokes from unbelievers aimed towards single man ?


When I get jokes from unbelievers like when pointing some woman and saying "would you screw this ? ", "follow her on insta".
And it simply, if I entertain it more, it will lead to place where I get peer pressure that like I should talk to this woman, I'm not attracted in first place because of her character and I know she's not practicing christianity (obviously, by dressing scantily on insta).
And if I act hesitantly when it comes at point to contact her to dating, then I get nervous, anxious. That is not what I want. I don't want to date unbeliever. I know it will lead to pressure for premarital sex same way.

But if when it comes at point of messaging and backing out, by peers I would be seen as weakling, and coward.
Which is also image I don't want to portray to people either. It's not how they should see christians. I'm not coward, just can't accept that low morals woman.



And if you tell me "tell them respectably why you don't want her... ". Thing is, those people don't really want to listen to reasons. They just go in relationship as joke and treat is a joke. That's why we get all those "relationship" on insta story. Just because one moment we agreed to call it that way. But it doesn't feel like it, but feels more like friendship with sex flirting and joking. And they break up as fast as they make those "relationships".

That's damaging to me, and I can't accept that. It's also about my feelings that would get hurt unnecessary, when everyone treat relationships as joke.

 

[Who Me]

When I get jokes from unbelievers like when pointing some woman and saying "would you screw this ? ", "follow her on insta".

That is not a joke, it is sexual harassment both of you and of any women they are pointing at.
You handle it by telling them it is inappropriate behaviour.
Yes they will react badly to it, but stand your ground.

You can admit to liking and admiring pretty women, but also stand your ground about who you date and how you behave towards women.

Take a look at the blog wintery Knight and research marriage, he has a lot of statistical facts about marriage survival, benefits of a two parent family, disadvantages of having many sexual partners etc

Then you can talk back about the benefits of both men and women refraining from sex before marriage.

 

[addonai]

Yes they will react badly to it, but stand your ground.

weird thing, is those people just take everything lightly. if i tell them, they won't care, they will just think of me "i can't joke with him about X thing, he takes it too seriously.. ". And thus they distance themselves.

I mean, this is post socialist country, and this immorality is popular in this region. that's how 90% of people mostly are.

It's like, sexual jokes are conversation opener I've noticed. Really weird thing. I know in USA for instance, they wouldn't be able to talk that way due to not keeping with professionalism that's required in job. But here, laws are not really enforced, and those people who make those crude jokes, have strong connections with the owner.
So, here, mobbing, is solved by firing person who's complaining. Forcing them to get out, so to make it look like they went willingly.

 

[Christian Saboteur]

I've learned not to talk to people most of the time,especially in my place of work.I do not want to hear about what those Bushpigs are doing sexually,Gag me with a spoon,Barf Out,Crody to the Max!!!!.Good Lord,what I've heard folks expose of themselves at work,....I didn't need to know all of it,or even come close to envisioning any of 'it' in my head.I can think of enough weird stuff on my own without people sharing their private moments with me.Ive learned to just pray for people with mental issues.





We must endeavor to persevere,............Chief Dan George.

 

[KV-44-v1]

weird thing, is those people just take everything lightly. if i tell them, they won't care, they will just think of me "i can't joke with him about X thing, he takes it too seriously.. ". And thus they distance themselves.

I mean, this is post socialist country, and this immorality is popular in this region. that's how 90% of people mostly are.

It's like, sexual jokes are conversation opener I've noticed. Really weird thing. I know in USA for instance, they wouldn't be able to talk that way due to not keeping with professionalism that's required in job. But here, laws are not really enforced, and those people who make those crude jokes, have strong connections with the owner.
So, here, mobbing, is solved by firing person who's complaining. Forcing them to get out, so to make it look like they went willingly.

According to the Bible, lawlessness will increase.
These people having a lower and lower opinion on relations/marrige/dating etc. are proving the Bible right.
and the increase in crood "jokes" prove the Bible too.

 

[Who Me]

And thus they distance themselves.

Which has the effect of removing you from there heavily sexual conversation.
You can talk to them about tv shows, music you listen to, even about church and the sermon.
You are being friendly, but not taking part in there trash talk.

 

[Raven7]

I would try to lead by example, as a female those kind of remarks and stuff was traumatic to me it made me feel like a item, inhuman, it really was awful, and it happened all the time in the work place, at school, in the parks, constantly. I was afraid to even look moderatly nice because of the harrasment I would face.
Anyways one thing I wish could have been differnt is I wish one guy would have stood up and said, look this is innapropiate way to speak about anyone and I dont want to treat women that way.
If more men would do that there would be way less harrasment in general.
I understand its not the popular thing to do, but its the right thing to do.