Howdy Y'all!
I firmly believe in traditional Christan Morals, and for this reason I am still a virgin.
I believe in waiting until marriage or at least only having sex with someone that I deeply love.
However, the people where I live are really lacking in any basic morals or values, this includes the people that I work with, go to school with and socialize with.
Everyone is over-sexed! I remember when I was in grade school people were already loosing their virginity, out of all the people I know in Australia (including girls), most of them would have lost their virginity by the time they were 14.
And even now they continue to have sex on a regular basis with people they don't love let alone barely know (one night stands).
Pretty much the culture is that if you're a guy aged 15+ and you're a virgin then there's something seriously weird about you (in other words you have no manliness).
And the awful thing is that girls/women around here agree with this!
I'm now 17, secretly a virgin and secretly proud! but I am also ashamed because I have lied about my virginity all throughout my teenage years, just so I could fit in.
I am always very outward, very loud and proud about all my beliefs. I always stand my ground... accept for with this, because I guess I was peer-pressured into lying.
And it always works because I'm competent with women so naturally everyone assumes I'm not a virgin.
You won't find much comfort in this, but you either care about what other people think, or what's right.
Hint: Chances are, if the guys at school are patting you on the back, you're on the wrong path.
I may have missed it, but I don't remember Jesus saying; "Follow Me, because it's the easy path that people everyone considers 'cool' follow!".
As for it being, "at least someone I'm deeply in love with", please tell me, how does loving someone equate to doing the wrong thing by them, by committing a grave sin with them?
How does fornication become "good in the eyes of God", because you want it?
I say "grave sin", for a reason that most people don't think about and remember, it is sex that consummates the marriage contract. Sex is what makes you married, once a legal action has been taken. That's why if you never have sex after your wedding, the marriage can be anulled. Legally, the marriage contract was never consummated.
Paul tells is in Scripture, that marriage was created by God and was a shadow of Christ and the church, there being the betrothal period and upon His return, the "consummation". In Scripture, the church is the bride and Christ is the bridegroom.
Thus, the point is, any sin against what God has set up for a man and a woman, is a defilement againt Christ Himself and what God's ultimate plan.
I.e., by perverting God's plan for marriage, we by default act against God's plan for man in Christ.
How can we perform the act that consummates the marriage, without the marriage?
That is NOT "love", son. Remember that love is an action, not just a feeling and you cannot "love" someone by perverting God's plan with them! If you truly love them *that* much, to want to perform the ultimate union between the two of you (ex: Christ and the church), then you should love them enough to marry them first.
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And all fornication is a serious sin. Remember that the Scriptures make a special note of this sin, saying that a man sins against his own body this way.
Please don't misunderstand my intent here. I am not telling you all of this to attack you, but just to inform you. I think that you have done very well by our Lord by waiting! I just wished to express to you that real love is not what the world defines it to be and "joining" outside of the union of a man and a woman in wedlock, is not love, since you never "love" someone by sinning against God with them. How is that love???
As I said, love is not just a feeling. It is how you act toward/with them. And sometimes, truly loving someone means acting in the opposite manner of what your feelings tell you that you want.
I.e., When your physical feelings tell you to act in a sinful manner toward/with someone, then that's not love, son. That's lust!
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