Should I continue to pray for my baby daddy ?

[amriexo]

So I met my babies daddy when I was living in the world very lukewarm we ended up having relations and I got pregnant on my way to abort the child my sister had a dream that I was about to abort my child and warned my family so they prayed against the abortion and I kept the child me and the childs father are still together has not been easy because of how toxic he’s been based on his childhood trauma we are now living together with the baby unmarried I told him my stance on absence and he agrees yet he get very distant with me when I don’t indulge in sin with him and He says I talk about God all the time so he cuts my conversations short yet he always tells me he’s a Christian and believes and jesus but smokes weed drinks sometimes and listens to secular music he says he’s working on his elf we went to church pretty regularly before the baby got here I really want my child to grow up in a two parent house hold he also says he would get married but hasn’t given me a date this has all happened within one year so my question today is should I continue to pray for him to find Christ or should I give up and move on? Is it even worth it ? I do want him to find Christ but I feel like I shouldn’t pray for him because of his actions
Last thing when I do pray for him I feel like I see a slight change but that’s it and I stop praying idk I need some answers

 

[amriexo]

I also would like to add that his family is a big influence in his life they are all unbelievers with addictions to drugs they influence him should I pray against them ?

 

[arvid]

Psalm 1:6 For the LORD watches over the way of the righteous, but the way of the wicked leads to destruction.


first of all i must commend the fact that you still think about him and that makes you a pure heart, do not pray against them.. All you have to do is pray for God to change them but STAY AWAY FROM UNBELIEVERS

 

[for_his_glory]

Hi arvid and amriexo and welcome to CF

First never quit praying that he will come and submit himself to Christ, even down the road if the two of you were to breakup.

Second, just because he is the babies daddy does not mean you actually need him around, especially as you put it about his and his families toxic behavior. You are very young and you have to ask yourself first, do you truly love him with all your heart and soul like he is your soul mate for life even though as you put it he is toxic. Just because he says he is a Christian and believes in Jesus he is not showing any fruit of having been Spiritually born again or indwelled with the Holy Spirit, in which I hope you have been.

I know you want a two parent home, but is this the atmosphere you want for your child right now, especially when it is not going so easy between the two of you.

I can see you have doubts and concerns about him and that is no way to enter into a marriage. Are you wanting to marry him just for the sake of your baby having both a mommy and a daddy in the same and do you really think he is going to change just for you or the baby as he has not proved that yet continuing in his worldly ways. He is not going to change unless he truly makes an effort to do so and prove himself to you that he will be a good husband and father.

The two of you might be living together, but yet being unevenly yoked and that could become disastrous in the long run. There are many questions you need to ask yourself and pray about before you decide to marry this man. If he is truly working on himself to change then help support him, but as for marriage right now I would have to say I would be against it until he makes these changes for himself and become that man of God you need for him to be.

I will leave you with this scripture and let you think about it as no one, but you can decide what to do. Pray and let the Holy Spirit guide yours and the babies path.

2Co 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

BTW, I was in a toxic marriage and it did not go well as he became abusive and slept around on me all because he was on hard drugs that I did not know about when we got married and that he was an alcoholic.

 

[evenifigoalone]

I'm not experienced in this area, but my parents separated when I was young. It was tragic, but in all honesty I think it was for the best. Just my thoughts.
I would try to seek counseling from your pastor as well.

 

[Edward]

I also would like to add that his family is a big influence in his life they are all unbelievers with addictions to drugs they influence him should I pray against them ?

No you shouldn't pray against them. You should pray for them, all of them.

A man wiser than me taught me that if we hope to accomplish anything in this life, it's going to be on our knees in Prayer.

So just continue to pray for them, and be Patient. God gives the increase. All we do is plant seeds and pray.

 

[journeymanisnothing]

Hello amriexo.

pray for them which despitefully use you. Lk.6:28

constantly pray. 1Thes.5:17

God bless you.