Spanking Our Children

[kimberlyb0112]

ooh heck yeah we got our behinds spanked.. and it worked too..

That's the problem now-a-days.. no discipline

It was funny, I was talking to one of my NCO's the other day and he
was telling me how him and wife do spank their kids but they also
make them do pushups. He said if the army can use physical pt to discipline a whole
bunch of 18-20 something guys and girls then it would surely work for his kids..

I am definitely spanking my kids when they get out of hand someday..
but pushups? I dunno yet lol

I could just see it now "drop down and give me 20"

Actually, I rather like the pushups idea.

A woman came into my work the other day with her two young children. They had to wait for a few minutes and the two of them sat down quietly and didn't misbehave. When I mentioned to their mother how well behaved her children were, she smiled and said, 'that's because we have an effective discipline system in our household.' I leaned in and asked, 'Oh yeah?' And she proceeded to tell me what her and her husband do when the children misbehave.

They have two jars. One jar is full of little scraps of paper with chores on them. The other is full of little scraps of paper with various physical exercises on them. When they children disobey or are unruly, she or her husband would choose a jar to draw from then have them complete the task. Some tasks include, doing the dishes, cleaning the bathroom, mowing the lawn, taking out the trash for the next week, etc, from the first jar. From the second jar, they include tasks such as running ten laps up and down the steps, doing twenty push ups, etc.

She explained that it both kept the children well behaved (because none of them wanted to do chores or run laps) but also kept them in shape. I commended her method and I might adopt it myself when my son is older.

As for spanking...there's a time and there's a place. I see nothing wrong with a swat to the bum when a kid is acting up, as a quick message for him or her to calm down or get in line. I intend to use spanking as a last resort, as I don't wish to instill the notion that my child should fear me, but I still intend to use it so that I don't instill the notion that my child should not respect me. I want my son to love me as both a parent and as a friend. If I never spank, that parent aspect goes out the window. If I only spank, how will the child ever view me as a friend?

That is actually an awesome idea..

I had never heard of anyone doing that before.. it's going to be about 10 years before I have kids,
and I'm sure I will still be on this message board..

if I forget about this, will someone please remind me? I might want to use this

 

[Armor of God]

I see nothing wrong with spanking kids as long as it isn't done in anger during a heat-of-the-moment episode.

Spanking is biblical and should be an available tool in child rearing. I could care less what the so called left wing experts say.

 

[Lewis]

This lady once said, I forgot what case it was, but she had got in trouble for beating her son. But anyway she told the judge, I rather beat him rather than for him to get into your system and then you beat him. Dr Phil says don't beat them at all, just give them a time out, man what planet is he on ?

 

[Nick]

This lady once said, I forgot what case it was, but she had got in trouble for beating her son. But anyway she told the judge, I rather beat him rather than for him to get into your system and then you beat him. Dr Phil says don't beat them at all, just give them a time out, man what planet is he on ?

Well I don't think that 'time out' is working, from my observations, and spanking certainly seems to. Dr Phill doesn't seem to notice the trend that children's bad behavior and lack of respect seems to have gotten worse when we are not spanking them and giving them 'time out'.

 

[jasoncran]

just look at the american school system, before spanking less fights, after it was removed, guns and all hell broke loose. Shoot if i got spanked on the seat of knowledge and my dad found out which he did(they call home) and i got the belt on the seat of knowledge

jason

 

[Sparkey]

There were three (3) laws in our family:

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• No hurting yourself. Also, we may not even look like we are willing to hurt ourselves.
• No hurting others. Also, we may not even look like we are willing to hurt others.[/*:m:zbohvb2u]
• No breaking things.[/*:m:zbohvb2u]

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The only other action my kids could perform to get a spanking would be "direct disobedience". If they were deliberately and willfully disobedient? "Go to your room for a spanking." There was no need to yell. Authority did not come from anger nor yelling. It came from God.

After being told to "Go to your room and wait for me," I would 'give myself a time out' (if needed) because discipline of my children was not performed in lieu of my need. In other words, if I were in a place where I lacked self-control? Then no, I'm not gonna punish my kids for it but instead that was time for me to pray and get a right heart first. There would be no breaking of the relationship. I wanted to become more like our heavenly Father and just by the way? Parents who spank are also teaching wisdom to their children. Sending the message that God says, "sin is okay," is a lie.

It's like saying, "it's perfectly okay, you're only human, don't worry about it." God never says that about sin. He labels sin for what it is. He calls it sin.

The only thing that I regret was not taking a picture of my boys while they 'waited' for me. I do remember them 'bending over' the edge of their bed with their little bottoms up in the air as they quietly waited. Can I tell you that it warmed my heart to see it? I was a single dad and raising two boys so the "trouble" they were often in was for fighting and bickering with each other. "Dad!!!" "He's hurting me. He's hurting me!"

Gotta love 'em,

~Sparrowhawke


Father? Continue with me, Lord. I need your "spankings". Bring me to the place You desire me to be as Your child. Do not forsake me from Your discipline, Lord. We never wish to be those who say, "Lord, lord..." and you say, "What? I don't know you. Leave me." Bring us to a place of obedience. Let the words of our Christ be true. "If you love me? Obey me." Train us up in You this day, Father. Only You are Good. Chastise me. You are never separated from Your Mercy and neither am I. I trust and need You in this. All Your judgments are right and just and pure. Effect us from Your Fathers heart. Do not allow me to receive You in a small measure. Continue with me in this manner because I do want to obey You. You have said, "Be thou holy because I am holy." You know that we can't get there without You.