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Suicidal problem, what to do?

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Suicidal problem, what to do?

I have been talking to a guy who has a record of suicide attempts, he says he is gonna try again soon, he lives near me i met him online, i have found his address and phone number.

If i feel he is about to try again what should i do? call his home and tell his parents or call the police or both.

Here is the last few lines of our most recent chat.

John says: it can all be overcome trust me, God said he would not let you be tempted beyond what you can handle, there is always a way out.
bob says: there is a way out, ive allready choosen mine
John says: thats not what i meant
bob says:death is a way out
bob says:you cant deny that
bob says:and its the way ive chosen
bob says:h3ll every night i want to just take a knife and cut my throat
bob says:end it
bob says:immediatly
bob says:anyways
bob says:i have to go
bob says:not sure if ill be back
 
The fact that he's talking about it is a good thing (probably) it means he's trying to find help or some one that cares. The only thing I tell you John is don't give up on him keep talking to him and trying to reach out to him.
 
MISFIT said:
The fact that he's talking about it is a good thing (probably) it means he's trying to find help or some one that cares. The only thing I tell you John is don't give up on him keep talking to him and trying to reach out to him.
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Been doing it for awhile now, his last comment made me kind of edgy to call the police.
 
John,

Speaking to the person's parents and police is not a bad idea. For no threat or openly spoke of thought of suicide attempt or idea should be taken lightly. It is truly hard sometimes to know for certain whether or not a person is sincere about these sort of things. It is not something worth risking either. Better safe than sorry.

Do not forget to lift this same friend up in prayer.

Hope things turn out alright.

May God Bless You

Danielle
 
I've dealt with several suicidal people in the past and all you can do is take them dead seriously and give them the attention they want. Faking it or not, they need the attention for some reason. I would also keep that information for an occassion where you may need it.
 
Its 12:25 AM here, i doubt his parents would even be awake but the police would be, but if the police went to their home and woke them up i do believe the guy would know it was me and would block me or his parents would be mad that i was able to coax his last name out and hunt down his address and therefore make him even more likely to kill himself. :o
 
John, If you are that convinced he'll do it you need to call someone. I've done it before anonymously and the person never knew. However, I'd try your best to re-establish communication with them.
 
The guy is only 16 so i don't think he is able to make any decent decisions regarding his life. He is also a strong anti-Christian, he might be Gay i am not sure. He suffers from Asperger syndrome (so do i to a point) He has told me that he has tried suicide and failed like 3 times, he has had counseling for it.
 
JohnMuise said:
Its 12:25 AM here, i doubt his parents would even be awake but the police would be, but if the police went to their home and woke them up i do believe the guy would know it was me and would block me or his parents would be mad that i was able to coax his last name out and hunt down his address and therefore make him even more likely to kill himself. :o
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John,

I can understand your hesitation...but please....keep in mind the conversation you had with your friend. Is he always like this? Does he always speak of killing himself?

I once had a friend, regretably one I did lose, who tried to take her life...but then...had I not been on the phone with her trying to keep her awake....she would not be here today. A once loved friend of mine overdosed and had to get her stomach pumped. Today sometimes, I still look back on that and find myself grateful despite our broken binds that the police were alerted and that I was able to talk to her as long as I did before she passed out.

Friends sometimes....have to do things that hurt, but think of it this way....is it better to lose a friend through anger? Or to lose one to death by their own hand?

If you think this friend was serious, be he angry with you or not....better to have him sore with you then lost to this earth forever right?

May God Bless You

Danielle
 
John,

I can understand your hesitation...but please....keep in mind the conversation you had with your friend. Is he always like this? Does he always speak of killing himself?
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He brought it up only recently, he told me he had it planned all out for a certain date but he said he would could do it earlier, this was the first time he left with a message like he did, he never gave me time to respond.


I have never met this guy, i just talk with him online all the time, he lives about 400 kms from me.
 
JohnMuise said:
He brought it up only recently, he told me he had it planned all out for a certain date but he said he would could do it earlier, this was the first time he left with a message like he did, he never gave me time to respond.


I have never met this guy, i just talk with him online all the time, he lives about 400 kms from me.
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John,

If this is the first time he has spoken this way. There is a reason for concern.
 
I think i will give the police a jingle. the will not disclose any information about me. As long as they don't bug me at 1:00 AM i will be fine.
 
I also do advise to call the police or even wake up his parents. Either would be better than losing a life.

I would try his parents first. Or if you have time (as in this attempt fails as well) mail his parents a copy of the chat you had with their son(?)
 
JohnMuise said:
I think i will give the police a jingle. the will not disclose any information about me. As long as they don't bug me at 1:00 AM i will be fine.
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Tell them only what you know.

Mudjosh made a good suggestion too.

I will be praying for you John, and this friend. Hope all turns out for the best. Your friend is truly blessed to have you in his corner.
 
Thanks everyone for the quick responses and for the prayers. Lets see how this rolls out. *picks up phone*
 
Well the Police up there have the information, its awaiting game now.
 
I've just prayed for him John,...

Let us know if you find out how things go.
 
caromurp said:
I've just prayed for him John,...

Let us know if you find out how things go.
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Thanks.

You can be sure that i will post anything that comes up.
 
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