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[__ Prayer __] The past always seems to tap on my shoulder

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jack K

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I really should be over by my ex, a part of me feels like such an idiot because she has moved on and doesn't feel the same way. Initially I had hope and faith to try to work things out and to keep trying. But after awhile, your feelings don't change, you just get tired of trying. Im really trying to move on but reminders and memories constantly pop up. Like I would see her mom or song would play, etc. It's not that I'm going out there and looking for it.

I pray to God for strength everyday and just to help me through this.
 
Bless you dear brother. I have no idea of God's purpose in all this but I do discern a real love of God in you. Hurt is not easily overcome, but forgiveness is a necessary part of the healing process. Do not forget the invitation of Heb 4:16, Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need. We need God's immeasurable grace in every part of our live, and though we many times do not understand His purposes as He works in us, we can take by faith Rom 8:28. And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Look for God's deliverance, peace that comes with it, and blessings in the midst of the storm you're in. Elijah faced with things beyond his control said it this way in 1 Kings19:12. And after the earthquake a fire; but the LORD was not in the fire: and after the fire a still small voice.
Blessings in Christ Jesus. :wave2
 
It takes everyone a varying time to recover from loss, jack K. I can assure you that our Lord won't abandon you, though.

I can also assure you that in time you'll come to appreciate those gentle nudges on the shoulder about your past life with your ex-wife. The pain will be over-shadowed by the good memories of the time the two of you spent together. Our Lord really does help with this healing process!

You still need to turn all of the memories and the feelings over to our Lord, though. Stay constant in your prayers/conversations with our Lord. And do let Him direct you to Scripture passages He wants you to read. Those passages will be helpful towards healing, even if at the moment of reading it's not all that clear how particular verses of Scripture pertains to you. Trust Him and trust His guidance. Over time, you'll discover you're more and more at peace with the history of your marriage and the aftermath of the divorce.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 provides timely reminders that our Lord has a purpose and a time for everything.

Be blessed!
 
I can relate to having a past that haunts you. All I can say is...lean on The Lord. I know, this from the guy who has turned this place into his blog, lol...but seriously...

the more I pray, the less I focus on my past. The more I talk to other people about their lives, the less I focus on my own past. The more I pray for others, the less I think on my own problems. Not that you're self-centered or whatever, just telling you what helps me.

What else...well, I used to think that you could write out your probs and that would be therapeutic or something. To a point, yeah, but I think its easy to get stuck in re-hashed emotions and problems. Maybe go for a walk, take up a hobby, read some current events, anything to get outside of your own issues and what not and into the world around you, other people, etc.
 
Thank you all for your kind words.
I'm still quite young, not married just a girlfriend who I was serious about.

It's definitely not easy and I won't be able to do it without God, just praying daily for strength.
 
Thank you for all your kind words. Really struggling to let go and I keep praying.
I wish I knew what God was trying to teach me, maybe that would give me peace of mind.
 
oh man, I'm in a similar position.

I've been praying to God to will that I forget the past. I pray and say that in the flesh, I'll just keep looking back, psychobabbling everything, trying to find a way out while also rehashing...so, I need God to intervene directly, cuz I'm not really capable of not looking back.

And....

Well, the past couple days, I've been waking up w/o voices in my head from the past. I'm supposed "Bipolar I"...I think I'm just moody and people insisted on putting me through things, lol. Doesn't matter. I wake up calm, cool, and collected (and refreshed), and increasingly, the past doesn't haunt me as much.

Of course, its harder when your past involves a living, breathing person you've been involved with and care(d) for. That sort of thing...its hard. I wish I could say something, but...aside from some New Age divorce ceremonies or whatever, I don't think any human being has a really good, solid answer. I was a promiscuous sodomite as a teenager, which damaged me irreparably until Christ intervened. Anyway, I now pray on a fairly regular basis for God to break my connection/soul tie with everybody from my past. At first, I prayed just for the dudes I hooked up with, but now I pray to just break my connections to people from my past. God has plans for them, they matter as people, but I'm different and so are they, so...yeah, I pray to break that connection.
 
Thank you CE.

I'm just always asking for strength. I know the pain will eventually go away, just feels at times I keep going around in circles.
But who knows what tomorrow brings and you have to keep living in faith and hope.

You should listen to videos of Tony Evans on YouTube, it's really inspiring.
 
I have done a lot of thinking this past week and reflecting on my life, my past, present and future.
I have come to the realization that my past is my past, I cannot change that. It has made me the person I am today. I have gone wrong by reflecting a bit to much on it and maybe I was just hoping to wipe it completely out of my life and I cannot do that. I really need to let go of the pain and it's definitely not healthy, maybe a part of me has still been hanging on to the past and just hoping maybe she will realize we still have a chance. I must be honest that has been holding me back. But the past is the past.
I'm trying my best to look at the present and I count my blessing each day, even the small things from taking my niece for ice cream or sending a message to a old friend. I suppose it's tough and something I wish wasn't true but I feel we sometimes need to lose the most important things in life in order to not take the little things for granted(not that I took her for granted at all).
I'm looking at my future now and things that I do have an influence over and working towards my goals. I went to church this morning and thought it was so ironic that the priest was talking about faith, hope, the power of prayer and to never give up. Things don't happen in our time frame but God's, we just think we know better.
I think most of the time in bad situations God is just trying to show us something but I just get it all wrong, there is a blessing in everything. It's maybe my lack of faith that God will not always be there for me, I suppose it's just a fear I have.
All I can do is just to keep close to God as he is bigger than my problems and just stick it out in the storm. It has to stop sooner or later....
 
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