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The "Real" Christian Divorce Rate

Mike

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This is a bit of a long read, but I hope people will take the time to sift through the whole thing. We've always been told that Christians have the same divorce rate as non-Christians; in some cases, we're told that it's higher. But who are the respondents that say that they are "Christian", but are in fact very casual Christians who don't apply their faith? Also entered into the equation are the ones who became Christian after the divorce, and now state that they are Christians, when at the time of the divorce, they were not? How do they compare to "casual Christians" and atheists/agnostics?

This article looks further into the statistics and suggests what I have always thought: Christians who are truly committed to their faith, have a much lower divorce rate.

I know we have some Christian members who are divorced. This is not to question their faith AT ALL, and it's not to make them feel ostracized. Things will happen, unfortunately. I just wanted to put in perspective the data that's spewed to suggest that the Christian faith has no impact on marriages and divorce rates. The media would have everyone believe that our faith has no impact on our commitment to our vows.


http://sapphiresky.org/2010/03/04/chris ... rce-rates/

"A friend emailed a copy of a January 17, 2010 article in The Sun News, a paper out of Myrtle Beach, SC, that trumpeted a Barna survey allegedly showing that â€born again†Christians suffer the highest rates of divorce and atheists/agnostics the lowest. At first I thought this must simply be agitprop. A few minutes on the internet, however, produced several websites corroborating the sources, surveys and statistics. See for example here . However, at least one purported Christian website here stated that evangelicals had a lower rate of divorce than the national average and lower than atheists and agnostics. Before this, I was unaware of the Barna distinction between “born again†Christians and evangelicals, and with exceedingly few exceptions, was unaware of people calling themselves “born again†outside evangelical circles. My curiosity piqued and smelling mischief in the gloating newspaper article, I did a little research. What I found demonstrated that biblical Christianity makes a difference in peoples’ lives and that newspapers generally cannot be trusted in matters regarding Christianity. In other words, nothing new.

This South Carolina paper and these websites weren’t telling the entire truth, not even close. Digging further revealed that Barna himself reports that evangelicals have among the lowest divorce rates (26%) and people of non-Christian denominations have the highest rates (38%). Agnostics and atheists are within the statistical margin of error of the national average of approximately 33% divorce rate. However, far fewer agnostics and atheists (65%) marry than the national average (74%). â€Born again†Christians average a 78% marriage rate, the highest in that poll.

The Barna surveys appear odd when it comes to “born again†Christians. As stated, evangelicals had about the lowest divorce rates in the survey. What the skeptics and mockers seem to be fixating on is a class Barna identified as “born again†non-evangelicals, whose divorce rate was 33%, statistically indistinguishable from the national average and above the atheist/agnostic rate of 30% (of those that married). Some skeptics proclaim that this proves Christianity makes little difference in lives. One site even went so far as to list this survey as evidence that God doesn’t exist.

So, who are these non-evangelical, born again Christians that give the mockers such joy and comfort? This is where it gets interesting and where the mockers engage in gross intellectual dishonesty. In the Barna surveys, to qualify as “born again,†a person must have made a personal “commitment to Jesus Christ and believe that they will go to heaven because they confessed their sins and accepted Jesus Christ as their Savior. The respondents are not asked whether they consider themselves “born again.†So who or what is “evangelical†according to Barna? Evangelicals are a subset of the “born again†respondents. To qualify as evangelicals for Barna, the respondents (in addition to the foregoing “born again†faith in Christ) stated that they believe that salvation is through grace alone, Jesus led a sinless life, the Bible is inerrant, they have a duty to share their faith, Satan is real, and God is omnipotent and perfect and created the universe. In other words, “evangelicals†are Christians that believe what the Bible says. Apparently, “born-again†non-evangelicals in Barna’s surveys do not believe the same biblical truths. Barna also reports that “[e]vangelicals were twice as likely as non-evangelical born again adults (47% vs. 21%), and almost five times more likely than notional Christians (47% vs. 10%) to place faith at the top of the list [of their priorities in life].â€

No surprise that a newspaper would report as “fact†misleading statements about Christians and that several websites would engage in the same disparagement. The surveys clearly show that those who read the Bible seriously and without compromise put their faith as a much higher priority in their lives. As a result, they lead very different lives, to include some of the lowest divorce rates in the country, well below the atheists, agnostics and general public. Interestingly, those who profess faith in Jesus Christ but not in what the Bible teaches appear little different than the rest of the world.

When one looks at the data, you almost have to marvel at the chutzpah of the mockers. Not only does an honest look at the surveys vindicate biblical Christianity, it reveals the depressing picture of atheists and agnostics. According to Barna:

Atheists and agnostics represent about one out of every ten adults. They stood out as the faith segment least likely to find living near family and relatives to be highly desirable (43%, compared to 63% national average). The religious skeptics were also much less likely to be driven to have a clear sense of purpose in life (55%, compared to 77% of all adults) or to want just one marriage partner for life (58% versus an 80% U.S. average). They were also less interested in making a difference in the world (45%, versus 56% nationally) and in having close friendships.

“Skeptics have replaced faith with a passion for healthy longevity and personal pleasure gained through world travel, sexual experiences, and obtaining knowledge,†Barna commented. “They are substantially less focused on relationships and legacy than are other groups. They tend to be less concerned about finding or pursuing a purpose in life because a majority of them believe life has no purpose beyond comfort and pleasure.

Atheism provides little long-term incentive for a meaningful life (what meaning?), and not surprisingly, it is associated with higher rates of suicide. We were made to love and worship God, and we suffer and fade away when we deny him.

Back to the divorce issue, while comparatively low, that 26% of evangelicals divorce still surprises me. I wonder how many of that group were saved after their divorce and how many of those divorces were the result of a non-believing spouse walking out. The data doesn’t say from what I can tell. Certainly, if those two factors were taken into account, the evangelical rate would be even lower. I have heard the claim more than once that Christian couples that pray together each day and study scripture together have divorces rates of around 2%. Makes sense — divorce is anathema to a life of selfless love and service to others, and couples prayer and bible study require and develop the deepest intimacies. I have not, however, seen a survey or data supporting this statistic."
 
Yes, the huge difference is those that actually are christians vs. those that claim to be. Some people say they believe in God, therefore they are christians. :crazy
 
Think that sometimes we tend to forget how human we are.....I have yet to see a Christian who is without sin. That is not to say there are not people out there who falsely claim to be something they are not. It happens every day.
 
I was under the impression that the divorce rate was around 50%. I think the dynamics of a relationship during the dating phase sets up the future of the relationship. So often people are so focused on getting married that they are willing to overlook red flags while they are dating. Then, once married, these red flags are amplified and become bigger problems. While this isn't the reason for every divorce, or even the most common reason, it still is worth mentioning. When people take their time and really get to know someone before the wedding, they are less likely to regret their decision.
 
There again, when sources cite the divorce rate, they are talking about marriages that end in divorce, not people who get divorced. So, people who get divorced 3 times throw off the percentage.

The method preferred by social scientists in determining the divorce rate is
to calculate how many people who have ever married subsequently divorced.
Counted that way, the rate has never exceeded about 41 percent, researchers
say. Although sharply rising rates in the 1970's led some to project that
the number would keep increasing, the rate has instead begun to inch
downward.
http://www.divorcereform.org/nyt05.html

This is from the NY Times, so it's a secular POV. The percentage of people who get divorced has never been 50%.

LostSoul said:
Think that sometimes we tend to forget how human we are.....I have yet to see a Christian who is without sin. That is not to say there are not people out there who falsely claim to be something they are not. It happens every day.

LostSoul, I don't think anyone is calling divorcee's sinners and other people not. We all are. By my statement that some people call themselves Christians and throw the divorce stats, I'm talking about people who check the box for "Christianity", but really have no commitment to their faith at all.

It's easy for a secular media source to pool data, have respondents state their classification and then say, "Aha! Christians are no better!". I believe they are flawed at best and have an agenda at worst. I can say with great conviction (although, I haven't collected data) that the percentage of people at my church who have been divorced is no where near 30%. And I don't think my church is different from many others.
 
Mike said:
There again, when sources cite the divorce rate, they are talking about marriages that end in divorce, not people who get divorced. So, people who get divorced 3 times throw off the percentage.

The method preferred by social scientists in determining the divorce rate is
to calculate how many people who have ever married subsequently divorced.
Counted that way, the rate has never exceeded about 41 percent, researchers
say. Although sharply rising rates in the 1970's led some to project that
the number would keep increasing, the rate has instead begun to inch
downward.
http://www.divorcereform.org/nyt05.html

This is from the NY Times, so it's a secular POV. The percentage of people who get divorced has never been 50%.

LostSoul said:
Think that sometimes we tend to forget how human we are.....I have yet to see a Christian who is without sin. That is not to say there are not people out there who falsely claim to be something they are not. It happens every day.

LostSoul, I don't think anyone is calling divorcee's sinners and other people not. We all are. By my statement that some people call themselves Christians and throw the divorce stats, I'm talking about people who check the box for "Christianity", but really have no commitment to their faith at all.

It's easy for a secular media source to pool data, have respondents state their classification and then say, "Aha! Christians are no better!". I believe they are flawed at best and have an agenda at worst. I can say with great conviction (although, I haven't collected data) that the percentage of people at my church who have been divorced is no where near 30%. And I don't think my church is different from many others.


That is true Mike...then there are those out there too who struggle with their faith...such as myself when the going gets tough and things just do not seem to be getting any better. As of today, my hubby has had the promise of a job if a contract can come through with a hiring agency...which I am not holding my breath on as the last one we worked with really did a horrible job by botching my husband's file with another person's information. My husband's step father passed away recently too whom we both loved very much....and my relations with my parents has not improved. When they came down to see us...my father spoke not so much as a word to me..yet wanted to hold my boy....

It is hard to believe in anything when everything you once knew is no longer there....so I cannot say much in terms of other's sin....or false christians as I, myself would likely fit right in with them due to my inability to believe anymore. Nothing good ever comes my way...so I frankly have come to think miracles are reserved for some...not all. God is merciful, that I have no doubt, God is good....that I believe too...I just do not like Him having faith in me...cause I have none in myself.
 
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