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I wouldn't mind being a bird then I could fly. Kiwis don't fly thou.
 
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Your post was hilarious, but on a serious note I try to avoid the concept of all or nothing. I started out mute when it came to the bad things happening. At my brother's funeral when I was 12 someone referred to me as a "brave little soldier." So I turned being stoic into an art form.

At some point I flipped and started feeling sorry for myself. I found some comfort in that and within a few years I was addicted to self-pity.

Then I joined AA and they told me to be optimistic so I tried this. The problem is I was stuffing my pain and it was about to cause me a nervous breakdown.

So I just want to give a shout out to the middle ground. I call it processing our problems:

Talk, write, feel, let go, forgive, move on.

So I do complain, but I don't hold on to my complaint for dear life and I mostly complain to God and not those around me. Only God can fix things not my husband or friends.

They talk a lot in AA about self-pity versus optimism so I decided to give a name to the middle ground. Appropriate Self Concern.

There is an AA joke I always liked about this. Poor me. Poor me. Pour me another drink. LOL
 
Tessa said:
There are two kinds of people in this world. The optimist and the pessimist
The optimist has hope in their heart but the pessimst never gets disappointed.
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Wait wait wait....

The optimist is always sadly disappointed but finds a lot of silver linings...
The pessemist is seldom wrong but does get pleasantly surprised from time to time.

:wave
 
There is only one people, I don't like division, I seen enough of it lately. Acturaly im finally allowed to visit my own family from today if I want. We actually have a personal choice now if I want to see my own family and they also want to see me.
 
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Susannah said:
Your post was hilarious, but on a serious note I try to avoid the concept of all or nothing. I started out mute when it came to the bad things happening. At my brother's funeral when I was 12 someone referred to me as a "brave little soldier." So I turned being stoic into an art form.

At some point I flipped and started feeling sorry for myself. I found some comfort in that and within a few years I was addicted to self-pity.

Then I joined AA and they told me to be optimistic so I tried this. The problem is I was stuffing my pain and it was about to cause me a nervous breakdown.

So I just want to give a shout out to the middle ground. I call it processing our problems:

Talk, write, feel, let go, forgive, move on.

So I do complain, but I don't hold on to my complaint for dear life and I mostly complain to God and not those around me. Only God can fix things not my husband or friends.

They talk a lot in AA about self-pity versus optimism so I decided to give a name to the middle ground. Appropriate Self Concern.

There is an AA joke I always liked about this. Poor me. Poor me. Pour me another drink. LOL
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Appropriate Self Concern sounds good to me. I was considered a "little soldier" during W.W. II as had to stay home alone for a few hours until my mom got off work at a War Aide Depot. And so when a newspaper article was written about her job and my older siblings who were both serving in military overseas..I was mentioned in that article as a brave "little soldier".. Granted those were tough times, but it was not good to be alone even for two hours week day afternoons when I got out of school and my mom got home. And I was far from even being able to be a brave "little soldier." The next door neighbor was to look after me (but wasn't with me in my house) if I needed anything but I didn't know her very well and was too shy to go next door and ask her for anything. (I never did) A huge storm came up and I ran out of the house in the midst of lightning and thunder and heavy rain all the way to the corner. The neighbor yelled after me but let me go until I came back home and came to my senses. I was six years old and it took me many years to get healed and over this incident and past my fear of storms. Now I am not adversely affected by storms and even by the sound of thunder even when I am alone which these days is most of the time since I am a widow with underlying conditions in my 80's. The Lord did set me free....I actually like the rain.
 
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Appropriate Self Concern sounds good to me. I was considered a "little soldier" during W.W. II as had to stay home alone for a few hours until my mom got off work at a War Aide Depot. And so when a newspaper article was written about her job and my older siblings who were both serving in military overseas..I was mentioned in that article as a brave "little soldier".. Granted those were tough times, but it was not good to be alone even for two hours week day afternoons when I got out of school and my mom got home. And I was far from even being able to be a brave "little soldier." The next door neighbor was to look after me (but wasn't with me in my house) if I needed anything but I didn't know her very well and was too shy to go next door and ask her for anything. (I never did) A huge storm came up and I ran out of the house in the midst of lightning and thunder and heavy rain all the way to the corner. The neighbor yelled after me but let me go until I came back home and came to my senses. I was six years old and it took me many years to get healed and over this incident and past my fear of storms. Now I am not adversely affected by storms and even by the sound of thunder even when I am alone which these days is most of the time since I am a widow with underlying conditions in my 80's. The Lord did set me free....I actually like the rain.
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I can absolutely relate to that as I was left alone at home many times and the neighbors looked after me, being too young to be left that way. I was locked out of the house during an intense thunderstorm when I was about 5 years old. My mother only opened the door when my screaming got so loud she became afraid the neighbors would hear me. Decades later......I too like the rain.
 
I can absolutely relate to that as I was left alone at home many times and the neighbors looked after me, being too young to be left that way. I was locked out of the house during an intense thunderstorm when I was about 5 years old. My mother only opened the door when my screaming got so loud she became afraid the neighbors would hear me. Decades later......I too like the rain.
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This breaks my heart. Not because it happened to me, but because I did this with my son. It was part of my love addiction putting myself and my boyfriends first. It left him with a feeling of abandonment that has never gone a way. I pray for his healing but it is taking forever. If you are a parent take a few years off to put you child will grow up happy and secure. You will get time to yourself soon enough. God has forgiven me but I have not quite forgiven myself. It is a process as I say in my article in Susannah's Corner.
 
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I can absolutely relate to that as I was left alone at home many times and the neighbors looked after me, being too young to be left that way. I was locked out of the house during an intense thunderstorm when I was about 5 years old. My mother only opened the door when my screaming got so loud she became afraid the neighbors would hear me. Decades later......I too like the rain.
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I never knew that Satan had a wife and they had a child together. Thank God you aren't anything like you're so called parents.
 
humble soul said:
Those that complain and those that don't.
And those that don't are expected to listen to those that do.
I am a highly experienced and talented complainer. My wife is a skilled listener. But the other day, she said....
"humble Soul. I am tired of listening to your complaints. Find someone else to complain to."
So I came on to the Internet. this Christian Forum. And fortunately there are lots of skilled non complainers who are ready to embrace me despite my tendency to walk on the dark side.
God loves me too. Praise the Lord! Complainers can make it to heaven. Hooray! Hoopla ! Hoopla! the circus is in town! I can be myself and God said: "I don't mind. But if you could just tone it down a bit. I have boundaries too you know!'
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Your wife calls you HUMBLE SOUL???
And then she complains that you COMPLAIN!!!
Please explain to her that humble souls do not complain.
:hysterical

Oh. And maybe we should start charging you by the hour when you complain to us?
Yeah. That's the ticket. We could make some extra moolah.

And as to your tendency to walk on the wild side...
I mean, dark side....
:rollingpin


And now I'll go have some coffee.
 
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