When I read a difficult scripture like this one, I turn to the original language, this one in the Greek.
G3404 -
detest - nope that would contradict other things both Jesus and Paul said.
love less - love less makes sense to me, love my parents less than I love the Lord, I regard the Lord and His commands above my parents
Vine's Expository Dictionary: View Entry
Vine's - (
c) of relative preference for one thing over another, by way of expressing either aversion from, or disregard for, the claims of one person or thing relatively to those of another,
Mat 6:24; and
Luk 16:13, as to the impossibility of serving two masters;
Luk 14:26, as to the claims of parents relatively to those of Christ;
Jhn 12:25, of disregard for one's life relatively to the claims of Christ;
Eph 5:29, negatively, of one's flesh, i.e. of one's own, and therefore a man's wife as one with him.
http://www.blueletterbible.org/lang/Lexicon/Lexicon.cfm?strongs=G3404&t=KJV