Till death do us part!

[Classik]

Till death do us part

Another question about divorce.


In sickness or in health, in affluence or in poverty .... Till death do us part . AMEN!

Is it not 'lying' to go against a promise we have made before God and before the people of God?

Believe it or not, majority of the people who get involved in divorce simply do it because they are looking for comfort. Isn't that similar to the world way of doing things? The world seeks and pursues comfort. Is it not better for people not to say this marriage vow thing than to say it and afterwards go against it? People are really looking for comfort. God hates divorce. (Sorry if I have offended anyone. This is just my thought)


Is it not better to say Till divorce do us part than to lie to God? If couples are not sure they will leave Till death do them part then they should skip this part or avoid the vow thing altogether.

Till hardship do us part, Till marrital infidelities do us part, Till barrennes do us part, Till marrital challenges do us part etc are indeed what finally take over marriages today.

In sickness or in health, in affluence or in poverty .... Till death do us part . AMEN!

I pray God opens our eyes to understand marriage vows as a promise unto God. There is no state of absolute comfort in any marriage. Whoever tells you there is is a first-class liar!!

 

[reba]

Classik i doubt folks start out thinking their vows to be a lie... Not saying they dont end up that way,,,

Folks today see no, or little, value in their 'word' it is a shame....

In 48 years some good some bad i can tell ya divorce has been a thought on both sides... I have always held to the Scripture.

Sadly we dont see marriage as the picture of Christ and the church it is. Divorce in the church is just crazy gone wild...

 

[Classik]

In 48 years some good some bad i can tell ya divorce has been a thought on both sides... I have always held to the Scripture.

You have always held to the scripture. That is great. Why can't others do the same? Maybe you need to teach folks the way to maintain and keep a married life alive.

There are indeed thorns but we as christians should try and overcome them. That is what God wants from us.

 

[reba]

Classik i think i left out the i am stubborn as a mule and twice as ornery!

 

[Classik]

Classik i think i left out the i am stubborn as a mule and twice as ornery!

 

[Classik]

Some would quickly say: S/he was an adultrous wo/man, for that reason I divorced her. Reallly?

How many times did God ask Prophet Hosea to go get back the wife?

 

[Tina]

Classik,

All very well said by you ....


..... but then again, it's easier said that done !


We, especially if we're single, should not assume that married life is easy peasy and a bed of roses. Nobody wants to get married and say those vows only to anticipate divorce later. Nobody ....

Who doesn't want a happy and lasting marriage? Who likes divorce? Which believer in Christ would want to deliberately disobey God's Word not to divorce?

Even then, God does not hold divorce against anyone as an unforgivable sin. God is understanding and merciful. Unexpected and bad circumstances drive many people including Christians to seek divorce if working out the marriage no longer becomes an option.

Many find new partners and give marriage another shot and thank God for it. God works all things for good for those who love Him (Romans 8:28). We should not judge divorced people. Only God may judge them.

I have a good church friend who dated her boyfriend for 10 long years and finally when they got married, their marriage fell apart within 3 months !

She's now divorced. As I'm close to her, I know her situation. She never wanted the marriage to end, it just happened beyond her control as her husband claimed that he no longer loved her. Strange but true, especially for a couple who had dated for 10 years!

It's easy to say those marriage vows or change it or modify it however we want, but it's not going to make marriage any better if couples fail to understand each other and work on the marriage.

 

[Classik]

I appreciate your respose, Tina. But, must there be a divorce? I always believe that the people who end up getting divorced are the people who made the wrong choices.

What if A marries B and discovers she is full of adultery? A divorces B and marries C. What if C becomes a woman of adultery too? Would D be an option for A? And what if D is a barren woman? Then E comes. What if E backslides and becomes a terrible sinner? What if A suddenly hates F?

Now all these women for a single unsatisfied man.

 

[farouk]

Some would quickly say: S/he was an adultrous wo/man, for that reason I divorced her. Reallly?

How many times did God ask Prophet Hosea to go get back the wife?

C:

Yes, Hosea is a wonderfully seaching book, isn't it?

I can never understand how ppl can try to use the Bible to prove why they should initiate divorce; since the Lord Jesus said that in the Old Testament the bill of divorcement signified the 'hardness of heart'.

As if to say, Yes, now under grace my heart is hard enough, so I will initiate divorce.

(Of course, sometimes an abandoned spouse is divorced by the person who left.)

 

[handy]

She's now divorced. As I'm close to her, I know her situation. She never wanted the marriage to end, it just happened beyond her control as her husband claimed that he no longer loved her. Strange but true, especially for a couple who had dated for 10 years!

I don't think it's all that strange that he left her after only a few months of marriage. Dating her for 10 years should have tipped her off that he wasn't wanting a real committed relationship. Sad, but true.

I think we do have to allow that some people would seek divorce after their spouse commits adultery since even our Lord gave that exception...

...but, how much better if one can forgive and move forward.

There are cases though when one spouse simply is going to leave and divorce and there really isn't a blessed thing the other can do about it.

 

[farouk]

I don't think it's all that strange that he left her after only a few months of marriage. Dating her for 10 years should have tipped her off that he wasn't wanting a real committed relationship. Sad, but true.

I think we do have to allow that some people would seek divorce after their spouse commits adultery since even our Lord gave that exception...

...but, how much better if one can forgive and move forward.

There are cases though when one spouse simply is going to leave and divorce and there really isn't a blessed thing the other can do about it.

The passages in question actually refer to fornication rather than adultery (in a Jewish context, betrothal wasn't yet marriage, but required a divorce). But I don't want to get into an argument.