I know it's an old thread, but I wanted to respond to the OP.
So my question and comments here are that do men and women even believe in this anymore? I know I do and I know I am going to wait until marriage to have sex. Even if I get married at 30 or 40 and I am still a Virgin. I am only 26 going on 27 and know that I am still young and should be enjoying life and not worrying about getting married or finding a partner etc.
If you want to get married, why do you think you are too young to marry? If you are going to be life-long celibate for the glory of God, go for it. But if not, 26 or 27 is kind of the age for marriage in our culture, which has kind of a late marriage age.
Paul said to marry to prevent fornication, so if it's a temptation, it's good to marry. But you kind of have to have the guy who wants to marry you, and if no suitable man has proposed, then it makes it a bit hard to marry.
But this thing about waiting to have sex does sometime's bother me because everyone brings me down about it saying how I should not do it. No guys and a lot of guys I have tried to date don't want to wait. So what are your thoughts on this and what I should do?
Fornication is a sin against God. God judges fornicators, and it is God's will for believers that they abstain from fornication.
Logically, it makes sense, too. What are the negative affects of fornication?
1. Children raised without both parents.
2. Murder (abortion.)
3. Diseases.
4. Higher divorce rates after marriage.
No birth control is 100%, and way back when, they didn't have the birth control they have now anyway. When a couple has intercourse, they are engaging in a reproductive activity. Children not raised in two-parent homes have a lot of disadvantages, statistically, compared to those raised in a two parent home.
Many women who get pregnant out of wedlock choose to go to a doctor and have the doctor murder the baby in the womb. Just ethically, fornication is a bad thing to do.
There are also lots of STDs. People focus on the lethal on, AIDS, but there are lots and lots of other ones.
There was a 1990 study in the Journal of Marriage and Family, a peer reviewed journal, by Teachman, that showed that women who only had one sex partner were much less likely to suffer 'marital disruption.' So virgins had a much, much lower chance of divorce after marriage than non-virgins. The effect only showed for female virgins in the research.
I think part of it is because sex is a bonding experience for women. Bonding physically with multiple men has negative effects on women. I saw an article recently that showed that virgins at marriage were much more satisfied with their marriages after marriage.
So keep your virginity until marriage, then let loose and enjoy your husband.