[__ Prayer __] We have to sell our home; PLEASE READ

[TyBo]

We're having to put our house up for sell because we just can't pay the monthly fees anymore. I'm 19 years old living with my parents while I'm a freshman in college. I'm a little worried about the future. The home is 2221 sq. ft. and it's on an acre of land. We need a certain amount to break even after we pay the house off and everything. We'll be moving into our last home where my brother and his family is renting from us right now. Someone is actually scheduled to come look at our home today. I just need some advice on how to cope with this. There's a lot of things that my family and I are worried about. Being in such a big home for 7 years, we have a lot of stuff. Moving back into the smaller house is going to be very difficult because it's a 30+ year old home with not a lot of storage space. Our house we're in now has a lot of closets, garage, storage room, etc. Not to mention any profit we make on our home is going to have to go to fixing up the other house. No one would match the inside with the outside of the home. The inside is pretty nice, but the outside looks run-down. We would need to put doors on the bedrooms, re-pipe the back half-bath, resurface the outside because it's a wooden home, put up a whole new fence because we have 2 dogs at our house now, break up the messed up concrete and lay new slab, buy a couple of storage buildings from a Lowe's or Home Depot, fix some of the ceilings, put a new air conditioning system, and much more that I can't think of off the top of my head and probably that we haven't even accounted for yet. You can see how this can be a little overwhelming for us. My mom is working at a retail store and my dad is an insurance salesman. He's making hardly any money, and well, you can imagine what my mom is making. There's been a lot of pressure on us for a couple of years now. I've never been the kind of kid that has taken the beautiful home we live in for granted. I'm very thankful for everything that God has blessed us with and so is the rest of my family. I just don't know where we're going to put all of our possessions and a lot of other things. Anyone's advice and prayers would be deeply appreciated. I'd love to chat with anyone that has any input on this subject for me or has been through a similar experience. It's really just the fear of the unknown that is getting to me. I do trust God and he has carried me through so many hard times in my life, but it's just overwhelming.

 

[Rosalee]

Hi Tybo,

You & your family have my heartfelt prayers. What a tough thing to have to go through.You're not alone in going through this. I've read and heard of lots of families going through situations like this & it's heartbreaking to hear and bear, but one thing you can be sure of is that God is always in control of your situation and He is watching over you & your family and things will get better and be better. It's going to take some time to get through this and some adjusting to. It'll be worth it in the end however, this turns out to be.My prayers are with you & your family. God Bless you.

Rosalee Decker
This is the Day the Lord has made; let us rejoice & be glad in it

 

[TyBo]

Thank you for your prayers. I hope more viewers respond.

 

[John]

Hee hee you should see my place it looks like poo. I have been living here in this 120 year old home for 7 years and i had to re drill my well, install a new furnace, re single the entire house and shed, rip down a huge barn because of insurance, my septic tank is failing, my dishwasher went boom etc etc but even through all the hardship I cope and move on, its not always easy but i am so thankful that i have what i have.

If you don't have enough room for all your stuff try a storage unit, it costs but at least you won't have to throw anything out.

If you have enough $$$ left over you could consider building a small shed.

Or unfortunately you may have to sell some things, it $ucks but it should be taken into deep consideration, the extra $$$ could help fix your home up even more.

My

 

[sheshisown]

Hi Tybo~ :waving

My daughter and her husband have recently had to move out of their spacious house into a much smaller, not-so-new home, because he has lacked work in his field as a land surveyor. It has been very different and difficult, they have four children and this move was really hard on them all at first. :rolling

They had to sell many of their things because there was simply no room to keep them. But things never really make our home dear, and things can always be replaced. :yes The new place is still pinching them financially, so they had to get into vehicles without payments. Driving a non-status car can make one humble. : None of this is easy for a young couple just beginning to build credit and savings, but the Lord has allowed it all. :nod

There are seasons in the Christain life when we all require these kind of losses for our spiritual growth. I believe that Christians today, need this. That it is for our best.

James 1:12 Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.

This may sound like an opposite theology to the prosperity teachings so popular on TV and in mega churches with such motivational pastors in America today. However, I believe the Lord is always busy accomplishing the very best for His children, no matter what happens we can trust His watchful eye, and loving hand. He will provide for all our needs, not always all that we want though. He has promised that we will be clothed and warm and fed.

There is an old saying, not in the bible, but true that goes; God gives His best to those who leave the chioce with Him. Are you ready to let Him chose your future, dear? His pierced hands guide you there, and His lovely face shines on you still. Misfortune does not mean the Lord is punishing us, necessarily, but it always works for our good.

Romans 8:28 spells it out for us... And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. ALL THINGS, no matter what we go thru, ALL of it is ALWAYS for our good. God sees to it.

He has also promised those of us who believe in Him great blessings of wealth one day, we will inherit the earth! One day, in the future millenium when we live with Him as He rules over this planet. YEAH! :D Until then, we are told to learn to be content with such as we have been given. To be thankful for everything. We can always bless our Lord ~ for He loves us best! :heart

I hope and pray I do not offend you in not asssuming you are male or female?

Dear Heavenly Father~ As Your children Tybo and I come boldly before Your throne of grace in the time of need for more grace. Grant Tybo Your comfort and renew the sure hope for the future and plans that You have surely laid out for her/his life. Help him/her to endure this trial and hardship. Give her/him direction from Your word and Your people Lord. May many strong christian brothers and sisters come along side him/her to help her/him to grow in assurance of your love and faithfulness thru it all.

Feel free to pm me if you want personal prayer during this time, Tybo.

In His love... bonnie

 

[TyBo]

Thank you very much for your prayer Bonnie. You did not offend me in any way. Thanks to everyone that has replied. It really helps just to hear the opinions of fellow Christians. I encourage all the viewers to reply. 13 people have read this but only 4 replied. Please, feel free. And thank you.

P.S. Bonnie, I am male, just to let you know.

 

[sheshisown]

Tybo~

I thought I might be making that mistake... I hope you can overlook my duh - m mistake.

And, I pray others will reply too... we always need as much prayer as we can get! :nod
I will continue to pray Tybo, keep us aware of your situation, so we can keep lifting you up. Some are good at praying in their closet for the requests here, so I hope that encourages you. :yes

bonnie

 

[Vic C.]

Hello,

I see Bonnie quoted from James. What a wonderful testimony James lays out for us in the first part of his first chapter.

2 My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials,
3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.
4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.
5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. (nkjv)

Those words bring me right to this:

Prov 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
Prov 3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Follow HIM wherever HE leads you and no matter what, avoid straying from HIS council. I pray HE is the guiding light on your path, wherever it may lead.

 

[sheshisown]

Tybo~

I heard an analogy once, to better reveal the reason for suffering as a Christian. It just might help you. I pray it does, here goes:

Diamonds are beautiful gems, the most precious and expensive in all the world~ for eons! However, some diamonds are worth little in comparison with others, and the reason is not because they are bigger, but because they are better! ? The truly excellent diamonds are the purest ones, those without flaws or defects that dim their brilliance.

Did you know that you do not have to be a gemologist to know a really fine diamond from a poor one? You can, and easily, and you don't even need a magnifying glass to do it. There is a simple test... ...drop the diamond into clean water. :gah Yep! A genuinely pure diamond will sparkle brightly in water while the one that has defects will not.

What does that have to do with going thru suffering, you may be asking... :shades

Therefore the LORD will wait, that He may be gracious to you; And therefore He will be exalted, that He may have mercy on you. For the LORD is a God of justice; Blessed are all those who wait for Him. For the people shall dwell in Zion at Jerusalem; You shall weep no more. He will be very gracious to you at the sound of your cry; When He hears it, He will answer you. And though the Lord gives you The bread of adversity and the water of affliction, Yet your teachers will not be moved into a corner anymore, But your eyes shall see your teachers. Your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, "This is the way, walk in it," Whenever you turn to the right hand Or whenever you turn to the left. Isaiah 30: 18-21...

Hey! Maybe the Lord has placed you in these waters to make your genuine faith shine brillaintly for those in darkness (unsaved) all around you? Hmmmmmmmmmm........................

In Jesus, ...bonnie :D

 

[TyBo]

Truly brilliant Bonnie. Thanks a lot.

 

[Christine]

I so feel your pain and loss. I too have been in the same situation Lost everything. Home. Husband. Furniture. Even friends and family that seemed to think I caused it all. The process of recovering from this kind of loss is much more than just fixing up a house and finding places for the things that just don't seem to "fit". The Lord is kind, and even in what appears to be the most desolate situation, he offers us hope. The whole thing is a process, much like a rough journey. You may trip over some rocks along the way, struggle up and down hills, but in the end, who knows but the Lord what kind of golden nuggets and shiny gems you will have picked up along the way.

Any kind of loss leads to grief, and people grieve differently. Your feelings will change during the process... sometimes anger, disbelief, sometimes just utter sadness. You may even find yourself bargaining with the Lord. But you will make it through. And He will be with you the entire journey.

Take time to be with the Lord during this. It is easy to get too busy with the 'stuff' that has to be done, but his is a unique opportunity to get to know the Lord in a very special way.... one that many others may never know.

My prayers are with you.