What do you look for in a prospective wife?

[Fembot]

What do you look for in a prospective wife? List the values, characteristics, looks etc please


-No, I don't plan on being the new Dave Slayer...

 

[Guest]

What do you look for in a prospective wife?

Are you planning on playing matchmaker? ;) These are more ideal, and I would never expect to find the whole package.

Personality / Values. Christian. Protestant. Moderate theological perspective. Educated. Intelligent. Bilingual or multilingual. Open-minded. Comfortable with my friends and family. Relatively close to my age. Moderate interest in volunteerism. Desire to adopt. No booze, smokes, or drugs. Not a bar goer. Not 'wild.' Loves museums. Loves cultural experiences. Lived or living abroad from home country. Good at cultural adjustment. Respects my need for me time at times. Can handle my having non-male friends. Is not too clingy (i.e., I don't need to call home everyday when overseas. Ugh, those kind are so annoying.). More extroverted than me. Shares hobbies, but has her own. Independent, but shared sense of responsibility as well. Good financial sense (i.e., maybe I should run a credit check). Not content with simply being (i.e., ambitious). Emotionally stable. Does not come with a lot of situational baggage. Can sit down and talk, or sit down and be quiet. Enjoys road trips.

Looks. Nice skin. Well kept hair (e.g., clean, shiny, healthy, etc.). Clean shaven armpits (a must) and legs (if necessary). No tattoos. Preferably piercings in the ears only (singular, not multiple shots).

Style. Glasses are sexy, but not those stupid oversized retarded looking too big for your whole smackin' head sunglasses! Range of dress styles (i.e., relaxed to dressed for the opera). No street-corner clothing, though she would never consider it from the get-go. Prefers flats, but can wear heels (in moderation!). (Sorry, you'd had to have lived where I've lived to understand that last demand of moderation.)

That's enough, I supposed. And my friends say I'm too picky. Hah!

 

[JoJo]

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[Fembot]

JoJo

 

[Fembot]

What do you look for in a prospective wife?

Are you planning on playing matchmaker? ;) These are more ideal, and I would never expect to find the whole package.

Personality / Values. Christian. Protestant. Moderate theological perspective. Educated. Intelligent. Bilingual or multilingual. Open-minded. Comfortable with my friends and family. Relatively close to my age. Moderate interest in volunteerism. Desire to adopt. No booze, smokes, or drugs. Not a bar goer. Not 'wild.' Loves museums. Loves cultural experiences. Lived or living abroad from home country. Good at cultural adjustment. Respects my need for me time at times. Can handle my having non-male friends. Is not too clingy (i.e., I don't need to call home everyday when overseas. Ugh, those kind are so annoying.). More extroverted than me. Shares hobbies, but has her own. Independent, but shared sense of responsibility as well. Good financial sense (i.e., maybe I should run a credit check). Not content with simply being (i.e., ambitious). Emotionally stable. Does not come with a lot of situational baggage. Can sit down and talk, or sit down and be quiet. Enjoys road trips.

Looks. Nice skin. Well kept hair (e.g., clean, shiny, healthy, etc.). Clean shaven armpits (a must) and legs (if necessary). No tattoos. Preferably piercings in the ears only (singular, not multiple shots).

Style. Glasses are sexy, but not those stupid oversized retarded looking too big for your whole smackin' head sunglasses! Range of dress styles (i.e., relaxed to dressed for the opera). No street-corner clothing, though she would never consider it from the get-go. Prefers flats, but can wear heels (in moderation!). (Sorry, you'd had to have lived where I've lived to understand that last demand of moderation.)

That's enough, I supposed. And my friends say I'm too picky. Hah!

Well, thank you for your response and honesty. I don't want to pick it apart bc you were so honest. To comment on your last sentence: yeah, you're a bit picky (controlling). Some things are close to impossible to have with the others on the list. But that's a great list! Very interesting. I once read that men like clear eyes and shiny hair bc it signifies good reproductive health-from our cave days. I'm at work and can't do my research right now. But it's something to that extent. Same thing with the hip-to-waist ratio...

 

[Fembot]

P.S. I'm one of those girls that needs a call EVERYDAY...unless there is good reason. Are you in the army?

 

[Guest]

yeah, you're a bit picky (controlling)

Controlling?

Are you in the army?

Nope.

 

[Fembot]

I should have left the controling part out. Maybe demanding is a better word? Nah, nevermind. A guy can dream :yes

I pray you find that dream girl.

 

[Guest]

I should have left the controling part out. Maybe demanding is a better word? Nah, nevermind. A guy can dream :yes

Haha. Well, you did ask for 'characteristics.' I was merely describing what my wife would already be like when I meet her.

Actually, to be honest, I don't want to met my ideal girl. There would be no room for us to grow together. We need differences so we can fight.

I pray you find that dream girl.

Please, not yet. I am not interested in getting married for a while. There are too many other things I want to do first.

 

[Fembot]

Like?

 

[JoJo]

I should have left the controling part out. Maybe demanding is a better word? Nah, nevermind. A guy can dream :yes

Haha. Well, you did ask for 'characteristics.' I was merely describing what my wife would already be like when I meet her.

Actually, to be honest, I don't want to met my ideal girl. There would be no room for us to grow together. We need differences so we can fight.

I pray you find that dream girl.

Please, not yet. I am not interested in getting married for a while. There are too many other things I want to do first.

Why would fighting be an asset in a relationship?

 

[Guest]

Why would fighting be an asset in a relationship?

Conflict and resolution cycles have played an important role in my own process of identity formation. To create a shared identity with my wife, I would expect conflict and resolution cycles to play an important role.

Fights need not be seen as negative, so long as the couple is honest, fair, and remains calm.

 

[Guest]

Like?

I am not interested in such a commitment for now because I desire to continue studying and travel. These can be done when married, but one must then consider the other person(s) in the relationship. I prefer the freedom, for the time being.

I will eventually become interested in settling down.

 

[Fembot]

Yeah, I think I'd like to live a little more first. But I'm not afraid of responsibility. I'd love to have a family to live for.

 

[scootover7]

here is what i look for in a wife


Personality: Humble enough to know she's not perfect which makes her more attractive spirtually and physically. Kind, Non controlling, loving, intellligent, crazy in a good way and not as in needs to be locked in an institution way. I actually wouldn't mind finding a girl who is good with cars and tools. More of a tomboy. also positive thinker and not negative.


Looks: Tall women, beautiful smile, decent looking not necessarily looking like a model.



Other: Loves God, Loves Christian Music especially christian rap and christian rock. Also likes going to church but doesn't act self righteous because there are people who have gone to church all there lives who think there going to heaven and some of them will be surprised when they don't make it.

 

[MMarc]

What I look for in a wife, is unconditionnal love. :yes

 

[Tissue]

Independence. The willingness to challenge me. Honesty. Creative vision. A certain detachment from social expectations or preconceptions. Beauty.

 

[jasoncran]

dont we all need to love unconditionally, The lord enables us to as we grow in him

jason

 

[Fembot]

here is what i look for in a wife


Personality: Humble enough to know she's not perfect which makes her more attractive spirtually and physically. Kind, Non controlling, loving, intellligent, crazy in a good way and not as in needs to be locked in an institution way. I actually wouldn't mind finding a girl who is good with cars and tools. More of a tomboy. also positive thinker and not negative.


Looks: Tall women, beautiful smile, decent looking not necessarily looking like a model.



Other: Loves God, Loves Christian Music especially christian rap and christian rock. Also likes going to church but doesn't act self righteous because there are people who have gone to church all there lives who think there going to heaven and some of them will be surprised when they don't make it.

Oh I missed these responses!

I think you're pretty realistic. Interesting response. I knew this would be an interesting thread. I'd rather hear from you guys than some "singles book" any day.

crazy in a good way

:rolling :toofunny Sorry

 

[Photosmith]

I'm married already, but less than 2 years, so I think I still remember what I was looking for a few years ago. I had recently fully given my life over to Christ - not just as my savior, but as my Lord. I'd always known Christ was the son of God and died for our sins, but I didn't make him Lord of my life until my late 20's. After that, I finally understood that was the most important thing.

Bottom line - I looked for women of like-mindedness, and of course the best place for such a thing is at a good church with lots of members who are truly on fire to glorify Jesus in every aspect of their life. Not long after I started looking, I found a woman, convinced her I wasn't as bad as I looked (although that took some convincing) and now we're married.

I think the most important part is just making sure you're looking for someone who's heart is in the right place first. Not just someone who attends church - probably half of the ladies in the young adult group I was in were physically there at church, but not actually living to glorify God. No, the harder part is looking beyond the physical aspects and getting to know that real person and where their heart is. After that, then yeah, there's detail things you might care about, but that's what dating is for, to find out if that person is good for you on a details level. Everybody has different details they look for, but knowing that their heart is 100% for Jesus was the most important to me.