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What will be the result of single parent households?
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You mean, "what is the result?" Iirc, according to what I have heard on Focus on the Family, research shows that at least 90% of male inmates have a poor to non-existent relationship with their fathers. They love their mothers but tend to hate their fathers.
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Sure, Google it, and find some stats to add. This is still a very worthwhile discussion. I don't think the majority of people really realize the detrimental affects on society that result from fatherless households. God intended male and female for very specific reasons.
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That's how it is for my spiritual daughter Kiesha w/three children raising them on her own, cause the daddy is in prison. Keyon "doodieman" is now 8 yrs. old and dont even know his daddy, nor will he have anything to do with him when he has seen him. Jaquan the oldest 12 years old and disabled with asthma, and Amarius whose 10, and so pretty like her mommy. And it's been hard on her, but I got to say that is one strong woman. I'm so proud of her, cause honey she's a real go getter with doing and achieving on her own. Like she tells me....mama Carol I got my man.....Jesus! HE has carried me this far, and look where HE has me in life. I got a home, car, good paying job, all three of my children, my health, HE has taken real good care of me. I tell her.....you go baby!
It's been my personal experience that sometimes having an absent father is better than the alternative: a verbally or physically abusive or neglectful dad. A bad daddy can be more detrimental than no daddy.
But I've also discovered that dads have a powerful effect on children, whether absent or present, in that they give children a glimpse of fatherhood itself. I've found that this early understanding of fatherhood, positive or negative, can impact a child's view of the Heavenly Father. For instance, if a dad is absent, a child may grow up to view God as sort of a vague entity somewhere out there. Or if a father is hard and overly strict, a child may grow up to think of God as cold and harsh. But if a father is kind and loving, a child may grow up with a better understanding of the loving Father that He is.
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But I've also discovered that dads have a powerful effect on children, whether absent or present, in that they give children a glimpse of fatherhood itself. I've found that this early understanding of fatherhood, positive or negative, can impact a child's view of the Heavenly Father. For instance, if a dad is absent, a child may grow up to view God as sort of a vague entity somewhere out there. Or if a father is hard and overly strict, a child may grow up to think of God as cold and harsh. But if a father is kind and loving, a child may grow up with a better understanding of the loving Father that He is.
JMO
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GojuBrian
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My kids have an absentee, disinterested, flaky mother. 
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Fembot said:GojuBrian said:My kids have an absentee, disinterested, flaky mother.
Sorry to hear that. I'm sure they have great female influences in their lives.
Why do you think that? They do have their aunt and my fiancee'.
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GojuBrian said:Fembot said:GojuBrian said:My kids have an absentee, disinterested, flaky mother.
Sorry to hear that. I'm sure they have great female influences in their lives.
Why do you think that? They do have their aunt and my fiancee'.
Why do I think that they have great female influences? Well because I'm sure you haven't left them without some female relatives involved. As you just stated. I grew up with my mother and two sisters. My family members are in another country. Therefore, I did not have immediate family influence my whole life. I visit them often now and had a church family, but not an aunt or step dad until I was like 17. Having family is very important. It's a shame that many children today are being forced to live with a severely broken down structure-including the negative influences that are rampant. I am curious as to what the result of all of this will be?
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jasoncran said:
Crime, drugs, gangs, etc......I think dead beat dads is one of the worst problems facing our society today and responsible for more damage that we can fathom. :verysad
destiny
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I've watched a few documentaries about gangs. When they interview those guys they look so tough and hard on the outside but you can also see on the inside that they are like little boys who are stuffing the void for a father with the false security of belonging to a gang.
I always think, "if they coud only get a taste of Jesus they will have found what they've been searching for their whole life."
I think hope of revival is in what we see as the most hopeless.
I always think, "if they coud only get a taste of Jesus they will have found what they've been searching for their whole life."
I think hope of revival is in what we see as the most hopeless.
I tend to agree with JoJo. An absent father may be better than an abusive or neglectful one.
My wife & I often say that given all we do with our 3 boys we dont know how a single parent does all that needs to be done, so to all those single parents out there... I take my hat off to you.
I assume the idea of the post was a concern for the high breakdown in the nuclear family unit we are seeing in western culture. We have to be careful that we don't label these people and accordingly attach some stigma to this growing group of people in our society affected by this growing trend. They need our support and love and replacement male or female role models need to be found for the absent parent.
My wife & I often say that given all we do with our 3 boys we dont know how a single parent does all that needs to be done, so to all those single parents out there... I take my hat off to you.
I assume the idea of the post was a concern for the high breakdown in the nuclear family unit we are seeing in western culture. We have to be careful that we don't label these people and accordingly attach some stigma to this growing group of people in our society affected by this growing trend. They need our support and love and replacement male or female role models need to be found for the absent parent.
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NooneSpecial
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Single parent households can prove still to be good or decent homes. Though without doubt a child would find his/herself lacking for a certain valuable presense in his/her life. Clearly not what God intended. See too many fathers and mothers alike who walk out in today's society. It seems even more common at birth to see a mother on her own anymore.