Why do christians have to be so judgemental and self righteous ?

[Pizza]

I am only going to comment on what I believe I can make intelligent remarks about...

I decided to financially help out one of my closest Christian friends (or so I was led to believe) whom I have known since junior high. He decided to show his appreciation for my compassion towards him by totally screwing me over which caused me financial ruin which took me 5 years to recover from with the help from working a second job (which would cause a hernia). On top of that, what this guy did to me also ruined my relationship with my then girlfriend.....

Um, well, see - I think YOU are at fault here. WHY would you pour so much money into someone? What made you believe you would see the money again? What was it that caused this person to need YOUR money so badly?

Look at it this way - what EVER would make YOU think some friend of yours should help you like that? Letting a friend stay with you while they got on their feet is fine - loaning money or co-signing loans is just totally out. I turned down my own brother once.

These self righteous pigs would tell me that it's my fault I got screwed over because "tHe BiBlE sAyS nOt To Co SiGn FoR oThEr PeOpLe!!!" Gee Thanks a lot! While we're at it, let's walk up to a girl who has been raped and say to her "IT'S YOUR FAULT YOU GOT RAPED!!!".

The fact that you would connect the two events like that makes me think you are just all emotional and not thinking things thru. You know, like you didn't think the financial thing thru.

I love Jesus, so apparently I'm supposed to be happy and joyful 24/7 and if I'm not, then I must not be a "true Christian".

Ok, now THAT I have experienced. You have my sympathy there.

All this snobby judgemental bullcrap Christians love to pull makes me want to convert to atheism. It's no wonder our unsaved friends and family think Christians are hypocrites and want nothing to do with God or the faith. Quite frankly, I can't say I blame them. And I have no doubts at least 99% of you are judging me at this very moment as you're reading this and assuming I must not be a Christian because of this rant, right?

I see no indication that you are not a Christian. I sense emotion and anger, and I suspect it is caused by an unwillingness to recognize the role you played in all that has happened.

I can look back on my 54 year life and see all sorts of pain, hurt, unhappiness and turmoil. I'd say most of it was all created by my two hands. In fact, a song (Mountain Sound) by "Of Monsters and Men" makes a point,

I heard them calling in the distance
So I packed my things and ran
Far away from all the trouble
I had caused with my two hands

Yea, that's my past. I mean, I did it all with my own two hands. Once, I did try to run from it, but that running ended almost 30 years ago. Now, I stick around, examine my motives, my intentions and my decisions - and attempt to learn from it all.

I think it is time for you to sit down and do the same. YOU have more power over your life than ANYONE else - and until you figure that out, you won't gain control. And lack of control IS the real problem, isn't it?

 

[About the Son of God]

Throughout my years of involvement in church and ministry I have noticed how rude, stuck-up, insensitive and even downright cruel a lot of our so-called "brothers and sisters" in Christ can be towards their own fellow believers, especially towards those who are hurting or going through hard times. For example; there was a period of 5 years in my life when nothing but bad things happened to me all at once.

It was close to seven years for me. Betrayed by my own wife, and her family. Discovered the difference between a good actor, and true blue friendship.

I decided to financially help out one of my closest Christian friends (or so I was led to believe) whom I have known since junior high. He decided to show his appreciation for my compassion towards him by totally screwing me over which caused me financial ruin which took me 5 years to recover from with the help from working a second job (which would cause a hernia). On top of that, what this guy did to me also ruined my relationship with my then girlfriend which put me in the deepest state of depression I have ever been in leaving me to spend every day of my life thinking suicidal thoughts (bearing in mind this was 3 years before I met my wife)

Oh yes, I know about money loss. But you have a wife, now, whom you are solidly married to -- congratulations. I'm not there yet -- I have to go through with a review of my past marriage, and talk with the pastors about why we're divorced....etc.

. During the darkest times of my life then, instead of showing compassion and sympathy for me like a good Christian should do, I was instead chastised by my own fellow "Christians" and judged unmercifully. These self righteous pigs would tell me that it's my fault I got screwed over because "tHe BiBlE sAyS nOt To Co SiGn FoR oThEr PeOpLe!!!" Gee Thanks a lot! While we're at it, let's walk up to a girl who has been raped and say to her "IT'S YOUR FAULT YOU GOT RAPED!!!"

So, they are insensitive and you are very sensitive. Might I ask, how did they know what had happened in the first place?
Matthew 7:5-6

It's not that I'm blaming you -- but, did they do anything more than say a few words and walk away? Were you actually "trampled" ?

. It absolutely sickens me to death how cruel Christians can be to their own kind. While Christians beat me to the ground and made me feel even worse about my situation, most of the compassion and sympathy I got was from unsaved friends and family. Why would any christian in the right mind ever go to someone in my situation and tell them point blank that it's "their fault" they got screwed over by a dishonest friend???

I married a woman who was/is quite the Judas. It was my fault that I let her trick me -- or if you will, it was my fault that I was so gullible and trusting and believed in something "too good to be true". Yes, I can see that to be the case. Do you not see this to be the case for yourself, and if so -- how DO you see it ? and why ?

Even my own dad and in-laws think that about me!!! About a year after my ex-girlfriend dumped me, I lost my job which left me unemployed, broke and deep in debt and GOD FORBID I dare to be sad about it. *rolls eyes* I love Jesus, so apparently I'm supposed to be happy and joyful 24/7 and if I'm not, then I must not be a "true Christian".

A prophet is unwelcome, most, in their own home. These are the people who have seen all your past sins, and are the most likely to remember a few of them -- and say a harsh word at the wrong moment -- when you try to explain anything about Christ to them. Well, it's exactly as written -- "Vengeance is mine, I will repay." ; Romans 12:18-20. And in this life, you must never take vengeance yourself.

I sickens me how Christians love to beat each other down when they're hurting.

Some Christians seem to do that -- yes -- but other's do not. It hurts me that you lump all Christians together -- but I get it, you're too angry to edit your sentences carefully.

I feel like I get more respect from the unsaved than I do Christians. Shouldn't it be the other way around or did I overlook the bible verse that says "blessed are those who shoot their own wounded"?

Ouch, that bullet hurt. God bless you!
Luke 6:28-31

Oh, and I do know that I would still be Christian even if I didn't bless you; for when Christ was struck on the cheek, what was it that he said?
John 18:22-24

All this snobby judgemental bullcrap Christians love to pull makes me want to convert to atheism.

A feeling, I assume.... those really aren't in your control. In fact, there probably isn't much within your control.

It's no wonder our unsaved friends and family think Christians are hypocrites and want nothing to do with God or the faith.

Mine don't. But I doubt they see hypocrisy quite the way you think they do.

Quite frankly, I can't say I blame them. And I have no doubts at least 99% of you are judging me at this very moment as you're reading this and assuming I must not be a Christian because of this rant, right?

We are to judge for ourselves what is right and wrong (Luke 12:57); we are only not to judge other's salvation.
So -- I don't assume you are unsaved, just because of a rant. Rather, I assume you want to troll and are doing a bad job of it.

For myself, I'm still depressed, and it's been nearly 7 years, and I'm just staring another round of it.
Your debt can go to bankruptcy court, but marriage and children don't -- and divorce does much damage that lasts until kids are grown.
Medicine helps some, prayer helps some, but nothing cures it -- and so I try not to take it out on others.

 

[Abigail123]

For myself, I'm still depressed, and it's been nearly 7 years, and I'm just staring another round of it.
Your debt can go to bankruptcy court, but marriage and children don't -- and divorce does much damage that lasts until kids are grown.
Medicine helps some, prayer helps some, but nothing cures it -- and so I try not to take it out on others.

I highlighted in your post above as to what I think shows maturity level in a believer. We all get hurt, some worse than others, but the key is to not sin in all of the hurt and anger by avoiding taking it out on others. This is the mark of the spiritually mature, imo. Difficult at times, but as we grow and mature, it becomes easier.

Lashing out shows more about the person doing the lashing than it does about anyone else.

 

[Jesse]

Obadiah, this situation should in part have some familiarity with a member that was gone for a bit and nearly took his life.

I don't even see any familiarity.

 

[jasonc]

I don't even see any familiarity.

the way they reacted to said person.

 

[Jesse]

the way they reacted to said person.

good point.

 

[Fish Catcher Jim]

People in general are petty. Believe me I understand fully what you are going through. Due to a mistake I made by trusting a friend and wanting to get out of a bad family situation, I ended up homeless for a short amount of time. I then came back to my family pennyless and fell into a deep depression, abuse, forced periods of time where I'd go days without sleep, and lived in a shack without pluming or heat through the winter last year. I'm just now crawling out from it and that involved cutting friends and family out of my life for a short amount of time. I'm still fighting.

I understand the pain you are going through, I had to deal with people that thought they had all the answers and plain out just didn't understand the situation I was in, and I think its the same for you. People don't like to think that the only thing seperating them from others is a very thin line. They need to think that all bad things that happen to people is because of sin or some other aspect. Bad things happen to good people and well intention ed people all the time. Don't give up, it will get better as long as you keep going. Make yourself proud by being able to look back one day and see how far you came. Remember that people can be good or bad and communities are only as strong as their ethics.

To those who keep telling the dude to just get over it, I get it. You guys see the dude is in a lot of pain and you want what is best for him and think by telling him to get over it you are helping. You are, but I think some of you need to realize that its not that easy. When a person slips into depression or desperation, they lose aspects of their logical thinking, what can seem obvious to us looks impossible to the person suffering. The guy's world was destroyed and he lost several connections that were keeping him grounded. His trust was shaken and his community turned on him. That takes time to heal, if ever fully heals. We are very social and dependent on a concept of purpose and community. Without it we slip into depression and self destructive actions. Trust needs to be rebult, he needs to feel like someone cares, that we care.

The human mind is very fragile. It doesn't take much to break it.

And why is this that they SLIP into anything ??? Not from doing what the word says........We are told when we stand praying......FORGIVE....if we have any AUGHT against any so our Father which is in Heaven will forgive you your tresspasses.......... Ya know if you followed this SIMPLE command you would NOT SLIP......

You say the mind is very fragile.......Ok so lets again do what we are told and renew the mind so it wont be so fragile as to allow situations,,,,,,crush.......tear down......defeat us....It has been way too long since this happened to be fussing over it now......Pluss we only have heard one side of this situation......

 

[WIP]

WIP I didn't adress you specifically and I know who I was talking to, I just don't think its my place to do a call out.

Don't talk down to me. Belive it or not I was trying to advise Jahjahwarrior from personal experience. Well I also was addressing the point that any group can be judgmental. I gave him advice he could also use alongside yours. We can't say whats best for jahjah unless we know the full story, but so far we just have a small part. We can both give him wisdom but its up to him to apply it.

The healing period is different for different people. He needs to let go of his anger, but he might not be ready. Right now he seems to be in the searching and calls for help period.

Don't talk down to me, I don't need to be a Christian to understand or see that someone is in trouble and give my 2 cents.

My apologies if I came across as condescending. I surely did not mean to.

For jahjahwarrior I want to be clear that as Christians we are not down playing your situation. Our goal is to help you understand that as a Christian yourself you need to put your eyes upon Jesus for His healing and let go of your anger, frustration, embarrassment, or whatever other feelings you may be suffering. Let Him take it for you.

28 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Matthew 11:28 NKJV

 

[Milk-Drops]

And why is this that they SLIP into anything ??? Not from doing what the word says........We are told when we stand praying......FORGIVE....if we have any AUGHT against any so our Father which is in Heaven will forgive you your tresspasses.......... Ya know if you followed this SIMPLE command you would NOT SLIP......

I should have worded it better. Depression is something that can worm its way into your life and be very deceiving. It can happen to anyone, even to a devote Christian. The mind is very fragile. You can take ownership of something and power through it and be fine. However depression can take hold of you even if there is no reason to be depressed. Stress is a big factor with it. Its a defense mechanism in our brains, when we start to over stress the brain can start to dial back the stimulus to get us to stop. The negative side effect is the inability to feel certain emotions. Sadness and parinoia are easier to feel for some reason. Its something that takes a lot of time and efforts and sometimes even medication to fix.

You say the mind is very fragile.......Ok so lets again do what we are told and renew the mind so it wont be so fragile as to allow situations,,,,,,crush.......tear down......defeat us....It has been way too long since this happened to be fussing over it now......Pluss we only have heard one side of this situation......

I agree, but as I stated depression isn't always logical. When the brain breaks, its not as simple as just refreshing yourself. Its similar to when Soldiers get PTSD, they could logically know there is no danger, doesn't mean that their brain has convinced themselves that they are in danger and need to fight or flight.

 

[jasonc]

one can train the body with ptsd to not to react. that is a new therapy. I have done some of that.

 

[WalterandDebbie]

Throughout my years of involvement in church and ministry I have noticed how rude, stuck-up, insensitive and even downright cruel a lot of our so-called "brothers and sisters" in Christ can be towards their own fellow believers, especially towards those who are hurting or going through hard times. For example; there was a period of 5 years in my life when nothing but bad things happened to me all at once. I decided to financially help out one of my closest Christian friends (or so I was led to believe) whom I have known since junior high. He decided to show his appreciation for my compassion towards him by totally screwing me over which caused me financial ruin which took me 5 years to recover from with the help from working a second job (which would cause a hernia). On top of that, what this guy did to me also ruined my relationship with my then girlfriend which put me in the deepest state of depression I have ever been in leaving me to spend every day of my life thinking suicidal thoughts (bearing in mind this was 3 years before I met my wife). During the darkest times of my life then, instead of showing compassion and sympathy for me like a good Christian should do, I was instead chastised by my own fellow "Christians" and judged unmercifully. These self righteous pigs would tell me that it's my fault I got screwed over because "tHe BiBlE sAyS nOt To Co SiGn FoR oThEr PeOpLe!!!" Gee Thanks a lot! While we're at it, let's walk up to a girl who has been raped and say to her "IT'S YOUR FAULT YOU GOT RAPED!!!". It absolutely sickens me to death how cruel Christians can be to their own kind. While Christians beat me to the ground and made me feel even worse about my situation, most of the compassion and sympathy I got was from unsaved friends and family. Why would any christian in the right mind ever go to someone in my situation and tell them point blank that it's "their fault" they got screwed over by a dishonest friend??? Even my own dad and in-laws think that about me!!! About a year after my ex-girlfriend dumped me, I lost my job which left me unemployed, broke and deep in debt and GOD FORBID I dare to be sad about it. *rolls eyes* I love Jesus, so apparently I'm supposed to be happy and joyful 24/7 and if I'm not, then I must not be a "true Christian". I sickens me how Christians love to beat each other down when they're hurting. I feel like I get more respect from the unsaved than I do Christians. Shouldn't it be the other way around or did I overlook the bible verse that says "blessed are those who shoot their own wounded"? All this snobby judgemental bullcrap Christians love to pull makes me want to convert to atheism. It's no wonder our unsaved friends and family think Christians are hypocrites and want nothing to do with God or the faith. Quite frankly, I can't say I blame them. And I have no doubts at least 99% of you are judging me at this very moment as you're reading this and assuming I must not be a Christian because of this rant, right?

Why do christians have to be such judgemental self righteous pigs?

While reading your above post, puts me in the mind set of weather or not these christians are not what you say they are, depends on their fruits from their actions towards another person. Fortunately, there's another way to look at the word “fruits. ... What if the phrase, “You will know them by their fruits” doesn't refer to one's actions.

If I were you I would ask the Lord to deliver you from such people, but you must first wan't to be free from such people all together. Better than your being up and down as your above statement. I don't know at this point about your relationship with Christ/only you can be your own judge at this kind of issue from your own attitude out of the abundance of your heart.

I did not use any scriptures, because the Lord knows whats better for you already, maybe you will know for yourself how and when to use them/scriptures for your salvation towards Him/Jesus Christ our Lord.

 

[About the Son of God]

one can train the body with ptsd to not to react. that is a new therapy. I have done some of that.

Does it just lessen the memories of loud shells and bombs, and the like, getting stuck in your head?

Mine isn't from war, but the sound of being screamed at for 17 to 18 hours straight....day after day for several years -- kinda got stuck in my head, and I wake up with it, often now.

I tried doing some desensitizing stuff such as going to court cases to be around people who are forcibly having judges resolve their issues... but it didn't really help much. When the judge had to raise her voice to practically yell back, it sort of made things worse. I now just wear earplugs most of the time and avoid any dramatic movies with American female actors who yell a lot...

It's funny, but if I hear a woman in a foreign language being upset -- it doesn't bother me, but all it takes is a similar pitch in English, and I'm shaking for a whole week. Medication can make the mood swings less, but it can't really stop the audio loops in my head once they get going.

 

[jasonc]

Does it just lessen the memories of loud shells and bombs, and the like, getting stuck in your head?

Mine isn't from war, but the sound of being screamed at for 17 to 18 hours straight....day after day for several years -- kinda got stuck in my head, and I wake up with it, often now.

I tried doing some desensitizing stuff such as going to court cases to be around people who are forcibly having judges resolve their issues... but it didn't really help much. When the judge had to raise her voice to practically yell back, it sort of made things worse. I now just wear earplugs most of the time and avoid any dramatic movies with American female actors who yell a lot...

It's funny, but if I hear a woman in a foreign language being upset -- it doesn't bother me, but all it takes is a similar pitch in English, and I'm shaking for a whole week. Medication can make the mood swings less, but it can't really stop the audio loops in my head once they get going.

I don't think it works for everyone. but its is one method

 

[Obadiah]

Does it just lessen the memories of loud shells and bombs, and the like, getting stuck in your head?

Mine isn't from war, but the sound of being screamed at for 17 to 18 hours straight....day after day for several years -- kinda got stuck in my head, and I wake up with it, often now.

I tried doing some desensitizing stuff such as going to court cases to be around people who are forcibly having judges resolve their issues... but it didn't really help much. When the judge had to raise her voice to practically yell back, it sort of made things worse. I now just wear earplugs most of the time and avoid any dramatic movies with American female actors who yell a lot...

It's funny, but if I hear a woman in a foreign language being upset -- it doesn't bother me, but all it takes is a similar pitch in English, and I'm shaking for a whole week. Medication can make the mood swings less, but it can't really stop the audio loops in my head once they get going.

You must have been married at one time?

 

[About the Son of God]

You must have been married at one time?

Oh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
BUT -- If what I *had* was marriage, than what my parents *have* is pure bliss, and what my grandparents had was absolutely made in heaven.
I assume from your comment that you've had a more traditional marriage ?

So, let's see if any of this rings a bell in your idea of 'marriage'; for I doubt my parent's ever had the displeasure of hearing a sympathetic policeman say to him: "yeah, we could hear from outside that you were only trying to talk to her out of walking around naked in front of the boys. We know it wasn't rape." While I had to sit shamefaced in front of my gawking neighbors on the front stoop and just nod..... Nor of having the in-laws smack dab in the middle of the the living room in my house as the police walked away like a couple of penguins visiting the Clinton White-house, saying: "So -- what did you get ? Resp: 'It's was just sex.'" and all of this happening in a sort of rhythm to the mantra of my mother in law, who repeating over and over: "I Can SEE YOU HAVE NO FEELINGS AT ALL!!!!!". It would make a showy MTV video, I think.... but it would have to have very *suurrreal* feeling Rock music....

The only marriage like thing about it -- once the police had the story from various people -- is that the police always told me to take the kids out afterward until my estranged 'wife' and in-laws had calmed down. If you're wondering, then No -- they didn't ask other people to leave the house that I owned -- but for me to leave my own house and take the kids out. eg: They obviously trusted my sanity.... lol. but when the police came out for supposed 'paralysis' and then 'poisoning' and then I don't have enough fingers for whatever... it began to get ugly when I came home to a child with a broken femur and then was told later that 911 had already been called, and that my ex-wife's new story didn't match with what she told 911. Mind you, I was 30 miles away when the event happened -- with (thank God) a store receipt to prove it -- for I was taking a child out to give him space from his mother, who had swung him around by the arm, screaming "you will obey me" as he tried to run faster than his short legs could possibly have held him -- all because he had put a blanket over his head and made a feminine joke remark saying "I'm mother so and so" which naturally gave his mother all the evidence she needed to claim he was "Gay"... and when coming home from protecting one child, I find a different one with a broken leg....

So, when you ask me if I 'must' have been married at one time, let me reply precisely:
What I had is more appropriately called a "Circus", or as the Psychiatrist called it --- "OH! A LOOOOOVE nest."
Some relationships, are, to be quite blunt -- purely toxic -- no matter how many years you try to make it work.

 

[reba]

Sheeesh this puts a fresh perspective on an old proverb
Pro_21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.

It is not only women who need to make themselves and their children safe...

 

[Deborah13]

Does it just lessen the memories of loud shells and bombs, and the like, getting stuck in your head?

Mine isn't from war, but the sound of being screamed at for 17 to 18 hours straight....day after day for several years -- kinda got stuck in my head, and I wake up with it, often now.

I tried doing some desensitizing stuff such as going to court cases to be around people who are forcibly having judges resolve their issues... but it didn't really help much. When the judge had to raise her voice to practically yell back, it sort of made things worse. I now just wear earplugs most of the time and avoid any dramatic movies with American female actors who yell a lot...

It's funny, but if I hear a woman in a foreign language being upset -- it doesn't bother me, but all it takes is a similar pitch in English, and I'm shaking for a whole week. Medication can make the mood swings less, but it can't really stop the audio loops in my head once they get going.

And this is just one of the ways mental abuse can effect a person.
Children who grow up being mentally abused often end up dead, into drugs, violence, etc.
God Bless you and keep, Andrew.

 

[Blake]

I'm feeling similar in ways. I've been genuinely struggling and dealing with the valley I've found myself in after spending time on a high mountain. I've been getting harsh lessons on how it is by God and through God alone that I have the power to stand, and left to my own devices I'm unprofitable... Even in my prime it is grace sustaining me.

But people say I shouldn't complain, I shouldn't despair over my sins and the states I sometimes find myself in. I wonder to myself if anyone has ever read Davids Psalms thoroughly, or just the ones about being mounted on wings of eagles.

I empathize and relate to your struggle. I have been kicked while down. My faith has been called into question. Sinners treat me better than saints. But I try to remember the only difference between Christians and the world is Jesus. We like to pretend with evangelistic zeal and point fingers about rule keeping and such, but we aren't much different. Being saved by grace doesn't automatically make Christians perfect. It makes then forgiven. I forgive them. I will fail my brothers and sisters and my neighbor in many ways too. I can't put hope in my goodness to save me, there barely is any. I trust in the work of Jesus and hope he draws us all closer to Him.

One thing I'm learning is that calling yourself a Christian and being in Christ are radically different. I've met dramatically fewer people in Christ as I have who call themselves Christian. At the sake of sounding cliche, religion without relationship us dead, even dangerous. These are the types of people who like enforcing rules but have no love, they are involved in church business, politics and presence but have no semblance of faith our in the world. Pharisees are still alive today, and their rigid, dead, works based religiosity still hurts a lot of people. They're the hypocrites Christ spoke against.

Look at Christianity and judge it by its branches and you are in error. Apart from the vine, who is Jesus, the branches are, and can do, nothing.

 

[Kathi]

jahjahwarrior, you asked:
Why do christians have to be such judgmental self righteous pigs?
after reading the OP you might want to ask yourself.

Hmmm....that sounds somewhat judgmental to me.

 

[jack K]

Throughout my years of involvement in church and ministry I have noticed how rude, stuck-up, insensitive and even downright cruel a lot of our so-called "brothers and sisters" in Christ can be towards their own fellow believers, especially towards those who are hurting or going through hard times. For example; there was a period of 5 years in my life when nothing but bad things happened to me all at once. I decided to financially help out one of my closest Christian friends (or so I was led to believe) whom I have known since junior high. He decided to show his appreciation for my compassion towards him by totally screwing me over which caused me financial ruin which took me 5 years to recover from with the help from working a second job (which would cause a hernia). On top of that, what this guy did to me also ruined my relationship with my then girlfriend which put me in the deepest state of depression I have ever been in leaving me to spend every day of my life thinking suicidal thoughts (bearing in mind this was 3 years before I met my wife). During the darkest times of my life then, instead of showing compassion and sympathy for me like a good Christian should do, I was instead chastised by my own fellow "Christians" and judged unmercifully. These self righteous pigs would tell me that it's my fault I got screwed over because "tHe BiBlE sAyS nOt To Co SiGn FoR oThEr PeOpLe!!!" Gee Thanks a lot! While we're at it, let's walk up to a girl who has been raped and say to her "IT'S YOUR FAULT YOU GOT RAPED!!!". It absolutely sickens me to death how cruel Christians can be to their own kind. While Christians beat me to the ground and made me feel even worse about my situation, most of the compassion and sympathy I got was from unsaved friends and family. Why would any christian in the right mind ever go to someone in my situation and tell them point blank that it's "their fault" they got screwed over by a dishonest friend??? Even my own dad and in-laws think that about me!!! About a year after my ex-girlfriend dumped me, I lost my job which left me unemployed, broke and deep in debt and GOD FORBID I dare to be sad about it. *rolls eyes* I love Jesus, so apparently I'm supposed to be happy and joyful 24/7 and if I'm not, then I must not be a "true Christian". I sickens me how Christians love to beat each other down when they're hurting. I feel like I get more respect from the unsaved than I do Christians. Shouldn't it be the other way around or did I overlook the bible verse that says "blessed are those who shoot their own wounded"? All this snobby judgemental bullcrap Christians love to pull makes me want to convert to atheism. It's no wonder our unsaved friends and family think Christians are hypocrites and want nothing to do with God or the faith. Quite frankly, I can't say I blame them. And I have no doubts at least 99% of you are judging me at this very moment as you're reading this and assuming I must not be a Christian because of this rant, right?

I feel you generalizing and its a very broad statement to make. Just because the church or ministry you having been practicing behaves like that does not mean all Christians behave like that. you have just been in the wrong ministry.
To be a Christian does not mean that you exempt from problems and bad experiences, been a Christian means in tough times God will help you through it. Did you ever read up about testimonials about people finding god?
Nobody is perfect, you will always find judgemental people, Christian or not.