Why do christians have to be so judgemental and self righteous ?

[reba]

Hmmm....that sounds somewhat judgmental to me.

yup

 

[Kathi]

yup

And what does the Bible say about being a hypocrite? :neutral

 

[reba]

Throughout my years of involvement in church and ministry I have noticed how rude, stuck-up, insensitive and even downright cruel a lot of our so-called "brothers and sisters" in Christ can be towards their own fellow believers, especially towards those who are hurting or going through hard times. For example; there was a period of 5 years in my life when nothing but bad things happened to me all at once. I decided to financially help out one of my closest Christian friends (or so I was led to believe) whom I have known since junior high. He decided to show his appreciation for my compassion towards him by totally screwing me over which caused me financial ruin which took me 5 years to recover from with the help from working a second job (which would cause a hernia). On top of that, what this guy did to me also ruined my relationship with my then girlfriend which put me in the deepest state of depression I have ever been in leaving me to spend every day of my life thinking suicidal thoughts (bearing in mind this was 3 years before I met my wife). During the darkest times of my life then, instead of showing compassion and sympathy for me like a good Christian should do, I was instead chastised by my own fellow "Christians" and judged unmercifully. These self righteous pigs would tell me that it's my fault I got screwed over because "tHe BiBlE sAyS nOt To Co SiGn FoR oThEr PeOpLe!!!" Gee Thanks a lot! While we're at it, let's walk up to a girl who has been raped and say to her "IT'S YOUR FAULT YOU GOT RAPED!!!". It absolutely sickens me to death how cruel Christians can be to their own kind. While Christians beat me to the ground and made me feel even worse about my situation, most of the compassion and sympathy I got was from unsaved friends and family. Why would any christian in the right mind ever go to someone in my situation and tell them point blank that it's "their fault" they got screwed over by a dishonest friend??? Even my own dad and in-laws think that about me!!! About a year after my ex-girlfriend dumped me, I lost my job which left me unemployed, broke and deep in debt and GOD FORBID I dare to be sad about it. *rolls eyes* I love Jesus, so apparently I'm supposed to be happy and joyful 24/7 and if I'm not, then I must not be a "true Christian". I sickens me how Christians love to beat each other down when they're hurting. I feel like I get more respect from the unsaved than I do Christians. Shouldn't it be the other way around or did I overlook the bible verse that says "blessed are those who shoot their own wounded"? All this snobby judgemental bullcrap Christians love to pull makes me want to convert to atheism. It's no wonder our unsaved friends and family think Christians are hypocrites and want nothing to do with God or the faith. Quite frankly, I can't say I blame them. And I have no doubts at least 99% of you are judging me at this very moment as you're reading this and assuming I must not be a Christian because of this rant, right?

So what are you going to do ... Judge the jerk? bad mouth him? Carry this forever? woller in self pity the rest of your life ? or learn from it? and MOVE on....
Your whole post is one of judgment against this guy and a good many others... and yet you cry why are Christians so judgmental.

Do you self and one for those who care about you let this anger go... It will swell over into other parts of your life. ( been there)
Dont keep it.. it is not making what was done to you right or in any way correcting the wrong... it is making you bitter... Christ went to the Cross in our place He was innocent in all ways ....

 

[ezra]

I feel you generalizing and its a very broad statement to make. Just because the church or ministry you having been practicing behaves like that does not mean all Christians behave like that. you have just been in the wrong ministry.
To be a Christian does not mean that you exempt from problems and bad experiences, been a Christian means in tough times God will help you through it. Did you ever read up about testimonials about people finding god?
Nobody is perfect, you will always find judgemental people, Christian or not.

 

[jahjahwarrior]

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Reba

 

[reba]

The language you used was not appropriate . Admin

 

[reba]

1Co 13:4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
1Co 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
1Co 13:6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
1Co 13:7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

 

[jeff77]

jahjahwarrior you said that this put you in a situation that ruined your relationship with your then girlfriend but, then afterwards you met your wife. Sounds like something went right here. I don't know about the rest of it though.

 

[jahjahwarrior]

1.3: If a member disagrees with a Moderator's action, they are not to take their dispute public.

Reba

 

[jeff77]

I'm going to close this thread for a cool down.