Will God hate me?

[UpsyDaisy]

Hi everyone, I'm new to all this so please take it easy on me
I've been thinking a lot lately, I'm worried that God will hate me. Over the past 10 years I've struggled with self-harm, depression, suicidal thoughts and severe anxiety. I have my self-harm under control now, I'm really pleased about that. But I'm really scared that God will hate me for the bad things I did to myself. Surely he wouldn't want that? Can it be forgiven?
As I said I'm new to this, I'm still working my way (very slowly) through the different reading I've picked out. This is one thing that keeps coming up and worrying me.

 

[UpsyDaisy]

Thank you for taking the time to reply to me Edward. Im finding it a bit daunting at the moment, knowing where to start with the Bible and getting my thoughts together so I appreciate you pointing me in the right direction. I'll get started on that this evening.

 

[Claudya]

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Hi everyone, I'm new to all this so please take it easy on me
I've been thinking a lot lately, I'm worried that God will hate me. Over the past 10 years I've struggled with self-harm, depression, suicidal thoughts and severe anxiety. I have my self-harm under control now, I'm really pleased about that. But I'm really scared that God will hate me for the bad things I did to myself. Surely he wouldn't want that? Can it be forgiven?
As I said I'm new to this, I'm still working my way (very slowly) through the different reading I've picked out. This is one thing that keeps coming up and worrying me.

Why the heck would He hate you for that?
Why would you think self-harm and depression are a sin in the first place? And if they are a sin, why would they be sins so special they can't be forgiven when you ask for forgiveness?

I have a self-harm problem, too (Borderline Personality Disorder and some other stuff) and sadly I have little reason to believe I've got it under control. But I never even for a second thought that it would seperate me from God. Humans may leave you alone in the darkness, but God does not. He can see what you are going through and that sometimes in order to survive you had no other choice but to mutilate yourself. He's not going to hate and judge you for feeling miserable.

 

[YosefHayim]

See Romans 5:18 and 8:1;38-39

God will not hate you. You need to surrender all that you are to Jesus Christ, acknowledging that you are a sinner and you can't control your own life. Ask Jesus Christ into your heart, to forgive you, and that his Holy Spirit would lead you off the path of destruction to the path of life and peace and love.

Come now , and let us reason together , saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool. (Isaiah 1:18)
Those who wait on the LORD will renew their strength, they'll mount up on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, and they will walk and not be faint. (Isaiah 40:31)

Matthew 5:<sup class="versenum">3 </sup>Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. <sup class="versenum">4 </sup>Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.
<sup class="versenum">5 </sup>Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.
<sup class="versenum">6 </sup>Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.
<sup class="versenum">7 </sup>Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.
<sup class="versenum">8 </sup>Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.


And also

Cast your worries to God for he cares for you (1 Peter 5:7)

 

[clark thompson]

God hates sin but, God sent Christ to die for the sinner.

 

[taikina]

just read the bible, from start to finish. for example, read 20-60 minutes every night.

 

[Danus]

Hi everyone, I'm new to all this so please take it easy on me
I've been thinking a lot lately, I'm worried that God will hate me. Over the past 10 years I've struggled with self-harm, depression, suicidal thoughts and severe anxiety. I have my self-harm under control now, I'm really pleased about that. But I'm really scared that God will hate me for the bad things I did to myself. Surely he wouldn't want that? Can it be forgiven?
As I said I'm new to this, I'm still working my way (very slowly) through the different reading I've picked out. This is one thing that keeps coming up and worrying me.

Sure it can be forgiven.

Look, a lot of people want to view God as a being that is setting a standard for you to live up to, & if you fall short of that standard then He will reject you. That's the very thing the devil wants you to think of God also. Nothing can be further from the truth.

Man kind is fallen and sinful by our very nature. it is in our DNA, and for this reason we not only willfully and consciously sin but we also sin not even knowing. Not only that, sin is in this world such that we are imperfect in many other ways we can't even fully know. And because of this death is our final physical hour. But, we are also made in the image of God, or that is to say the essence of His image. And so, because of that we are able to connect with love despite our sinful nature.

It is for this reason we need a savior. It would not be called "being saved" if we could meet the standard required to save ourselves. Therefor, Forgiveness is at the very foundation of salvation. Otherwise it's not salvation at all, just a "do over", a possible chance to save ourselves. That's not the gospel at all.

Can you be forgiven? Of course you can. A question you might want to ask; Do you believe it? The Christian life does not equal salvation. It's the opposite. Salvation equals the Christian life.

 

[josefnospam]

I'm worried that God will hate me

If you are his, he loves you and you are precious in his sight. He sent his son to pay for your sins. That's good news. So seek him with all your heart, asking him to forgive you of your sins. Who knows if he will have mercy on you, but go to him admitting you are helpless before him. This is such a good way to approach a holy and mercifull God. Plsm 51:17 says "a broken and contrite heart , O God thou wilt NOT despise. May God bless you as only he can do.

 

[Mike S]

God does not hate you. You are having a difficult time with life and struggling with the human weakness we all share. We are all vulnerable to thinking we too much of a sinner to be worthy, but Jesus wants to draw you close in His love. If you have no one to help you with this, you can make a good start by praying "Jesus, save me!" and mean it with all your heart. Surrender completely to Him and He will guide you.

We're praying for you.

 

[westtexas]

But I'm really scared that God will hate me for the bad things I did to myself. Surely he wouldn't want that? Can it be forgiven?
This is one thing that keeps coming up and worrying me.

Scripture tells us that our Lord will forgive EVERYTHING.

1 John 1:9 says "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

This verse doesn't say He will forgive us of the little things, or some of the things we have done wrong, but it promises that he has forgiven ALL unrighteousness. Once you've asked forgiveness, its forgiven. Its then time to forgive yourself, and to look ahead and not back, and quit worrying. Easier said than done sometimes, but just remember, our Lord loves you.

 

[CORE]

Im finding it a bit daunting at the moment, knowing where to start with the Bible

Start with the Gospels (Mathew, Mark, Luke and John) You will be drawn to the character of Christ, his love and his wisdom in dealing with adversity. Your fear and anxiety will be lifted...Also read Proverbs - There are 31 - that's at least one for everyday. It will give you practical advice that you can apply today, right now.

Once you've grasped that, you can move on to the deeper things that God has to offer in His Word and actually be able to understand it.

 

[ravindran_eee]

There has been some wonderful and powerful replies. The simple answer to your question is in John 3:16. I would just add one more point to what everyone else has said. We often make the mistake of thinking God to be of human nature. But God is beyond that. Grace of God is beyond our imagination. My simple definition of Grace is unmerited favor. God does not show grace based on our performance. It is unmerited. All he asks from us is to yield towards his call for repentance.

I would suggest to find a good Bible teaching church. Don't get caught into any Word of Faith type of churches. Don't get into any church which focuses ONLY on revival, speaking in tongues, spiritual gifts, anointing. I am not saying these are not needed or wrong. But you need to find a church which teaches grace of God.

Hi everyone, I'm new to all this so please take it easy on me
I've been thinking a lot lately, I'm worried that God will hate me. Over the past 10 years I've struggled with self-harm, depression, suicidal thoughts and severe anxiety. I have my self-harm under control now, I'm really pleased about that. But I'm really scared that God will hate me for the bad things I did to myself. Surely he wouldn't want that? Can it be forgiven?
As I said I'm new to this, I'm still working my way (very slowly) through the different reading I've picked out. This is one thing that keeps coming up and worrying me.