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Advice to a suicidal

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Dear Ready for the End,

I can't give you helpful hints on how to kill yourself.

However, neither can I argue that your life is good and should be preserved, as I cannot know how life is for you. An average day for you may be more awful than even my worst day. Who am I to say that you should choose to live your life? As one of those left behind when others depart, I can only say that I have never heard any reports from successful suicides on whether they are pleased with the results.
 
So what is Christian advice to suicidals?
Don't be so ungrateful? God gives life. God takes it away. It's not up to you.?
 
Some Christians might be impatient to get to Heaven. Had enough of this life. Those in severe pain or with a terminal illness?
Who are we to judge?
Judge the sin not the sinner, I hear you say.
 
I think we have a responsibility to affirm life. Even when it seems ridiculously stressful or burdensome. Courage to the end. If it is not possible to enjoy life, we have to attend to duty and obligation.
Because I have had so many good days in my life. So many joyful ones. Full of laughter, love and acceptance. I can't complain if life gets tougher and lonelier towards the end.
I worked briefly in a severely disabled hospital. If someone can sleep in a soiled unchanged diaper for a few hours, I have nothing to complain about. I brushed the teeth of a guy who couldn't do it himself. Imagine waiting for someone to spoonfeed you breakfast. Yet that person finds a way to smile. We really don't know how tough life can be. We think we are suffering but sometimes much of it is self inflicted.
 
The advice I got from one of my aunts that probably kept me alive long enough to become Born Again, and given a new start was:

If you kill yourself, what you've done is Freeze yourself for eternity in the pain and agony that caused you to end your life to begin with. There's no escape from the pain, and the additional issue is that it's now eternal.
 
So what is Christian advice to suicidals?
Don't be so ungrateful? God gives life. God takes it away. It's not up to you.?
This completely ignores the very real stressors that are driving the person to not want to live anymore.
This kind of insensitivity is the last thing a suicidal person needs to hear.
 
Dear Ready for the End,

I can't give you helpful hints on how to kill yourself.

However, neither can I argue that your life is good and should be preserved, as I cannot know how life is for you. An average day for you may be more awful than even my worst day. Who am I to say that you should choose to live your life? As one of those left behind when others depart, I can only say that I have never heard any reports from successful suicides on whether they are pleased with the results.

I would want to listen to what they had to say about why they wanted to die and would be praying for the wisdom that when talking was appropriate I would say the right thing.

I've worked in an office where a long term,popular employee suddenly ended there life and the shock was considerable.
That office team took a long time to recover from it.
 
You got this so right.
I was fully trained in dealing with suicidal people and o trained others.
Listening and asking questions is so important. They know if you truly care or not.
 
You have to get yo their own hurt.
AMEN!

After 34 years of being a devout Christian, involved in all kinds of matters and situations in people's personal lives, I have come to the conclusion that all one can do is point them to the one who has the answers and leave it at that.

The practical advice of the church is junk most of the time.
 
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When I was suicidal, the last thing I cared about was "the hurt I'd leave behind" I was in personal agony, and that was all that mattered.
I don't see that it can hurt to let them know about the wreckage they are going to be leaving behind.

I'm aware that the feelings to kill oneself die are the most powerful force at work in the moment but it can't hurt to try to let them know the damage they're going to be leaving behind, ESPECIALLY since that's what they're wanting--to know that somebody might actually care about them leaving.
 
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Then there is no hope for them.
At least not outside of themselves.
Yes there is hope you just have to stay with them until they see it. I wasn"t doing this from a church
One night I stayed up with a young man from 10pm until 8am the next morning, we got thete in the end. God is marvellous.
 
I wrote this to help others that are contemplating suicide like I was when I was at my lowest point in life and wanted to end it all.

Those who contemplate suicide are caught up in three devastating feelings: hurt, abandonment and doubt as they feel no hope of the future. If they do not have a relationship with Christ through that of a Spiritual rebirth, John 3:3-7, then they are already destined to go to the lake of fire as their names are not found in the Lambs book of Life and will come under Gods judgement.

Many Christians who are weak in faith also contemplate suicide when things get unbearable in their life because they become consumed with their problems leaning on their own understandings instead of leaning on God whom is their help in times of trouble. This allows Satan who comes to kill, steal and destroy prey on them and steal what little faith they have.

The question is, even if they have weak faith do they still go to Hell if they commit suicide? I think it is possible because they lost all faith and hope in God therefore leaving themselves void of God in their life, which would cause them to be separated from God as they turn from that faith which is Christ Jesus. We also have Gods commandment thou shall not kill. God will forgive a murder who repents, but where is repentance if you are dead and can no longer ask for it. It repented (having regretted) Judas that he sold out for that of riches and even though he gave the money back he went and hung himself, Matthew 27:3-5, instead of asking Jesus to forgive him instead.

We also have heard that our sins are forgiven past, present and future for Christ paid the price for all sin even though we fall short at times, but grace keeps us in that of Gods righteousness which is found in us and God knows the intents of our hearts. If one ask for forgiveness before they sin are they forgiven? Answer to that in my perspective would be why would one sin willingly knowing they are going to sin. Grace does not give us a license to sin.

God is the life giver and in Him are we made in His image. Who has that right to take away what God has given.

Psalms 33:18 Behold, the eye of the LORD is upon them that fear him, upon them that hope in his mercy;
Psalms 33:19 To deliver their soul from death, and to keep them alive in famine.
Psalms 33:20 Our soul waiteth for the LORD: he is our help and our shield.
Psalms 33:21 For our heart shall rejoice in him, because we have trusted in his holy name.
Psalms 33:22 Let thy mercy, O LORD, be upon us, according as we hope in

1 Corinthians 6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
1 Corinthians 6:20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

Proverbs 3:1 My son, forget not my law; but let thine heart keep my commandments:
Proverbs 3:2 For length of days, and long life, and peace, shall they add to thee.
Proverbs 3:3 Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart:
Proverbs 3:4 So shalt thou find favour and good understanding in the sight of God and man.
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
Proverbs 3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Suicide Hotline - 1-80-273-8255
 
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