I fully understand your explanation. The only problem that I have with those words is, it does have a reference to the person who you are presenting the correction, or better understanding of the subject being discussed.
Well, yes indeed, we are having a discussion and therefore must address the arguments of other posters. It is far different to say "your argument is invalid," versus, "you are invalid," I think there are of course better ways to go about saying "your argument is invalid," and I think logically explaining it and revealing it to be a fallacy can be helpful, so long as people respect the rules of logic.
Words, as you know, can be interpreted in a multiplicity of ways, depending on the receiving person in the discussion. If he see's the correction as a combination of correction of belief, or expression of his theory, plus the idea that the person doing the correcting feels he is more knowledgeable, then he will be offended at the word.
We can't necessarily control the way people receive what we say, especially when it concerns non-verbal communication and they can't hear the tone of our voice. We should purposefully goad them into becoming angry, but if a person is offended I think it is best that they raise this to the other person, rather than always running to the moderators. The latter method brings about no restoration or repentance, just censorship.
I hope you understand what I mean on this, and I am not criticizing the actions of the moderators, but rather presenting an alternative to us posters on how to handle these instances where a person may have been offended over a misunderstood statement.
In other words, every term that you just presented can be construed two ways, one is to correct, the other is to insult.
If they are offended, and stated such, I would explain to them that they misunderstood my point and I in no way inferred what they were thinking.
I'm sure that an intellectual person that you are, can come up with words or terms that don't carry the danger of insult.
I honestly don't see how telling a person that their argument is a straw man, could be insulting. It could be annoying if they improperly employ the charge, but I understand that they're addressing my argument, not myself.
Perhaps there is someone here who is actually insulted when presented the term "logical fallacy," that I could explain to them how it is in no way an insulting phrase.
This is a debating forum and we are contending for different propositions, and in doing so we have to attempt to invalidate other alternatives. People who take everything so personally perhaps shouldn't be debating, as they misconstrue the words of others and therefore create conflict where there is none.
This explanation is not specifically addressed to you, it's that you posted those words, but this message is for all members who are posting in this thread. I have noticed that Kathi has presented her case without words that carry a different view, with these type of words.
PLEASE CHOOSE YOUR WORDS VERY CAREFULLY. The person who you are addressing is crucified with Christ. It is no longer them who are living, but Christ who lives in him/her. Please remember who is really living in the person you are addressing. Jesus Christ is in that person in the presence of the Holy Spirit. The Scripture tells us not to grieve the Spirit of God. Oh my friends, let us love each other, and therefore demonstrate that our lives have been re-generated by the power of our mighty God and Savior Jesus the Christ.
I absolutely support this, and I will strive to choose my words carefully.
I just also want to voice my concern that I and others here not be moderated simply for disagreeing with a person's argument.
Thanks for your kind correction,
DI