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Apologising

humble soul

humble soul

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I lived in Japan for 15 years. The Japanese are very polite. And are renowned for being apologetic. Maybe they overdo it but it's a very loveable trait in my opinion.
Australians are less apologetic in general. And there are many who refrain from saying sorry at all. My guess is that people avoid saying sorry because it is an admission of weakness. Saying "I'm sorry I was wrong" is just asking too much for some. Sounds like ego is the culprit. And the culture of being "a winner" seems at odds with apologies.
To be honest I am good at apologising. And I try to be sincere. I'm disappointed when others don't have the same value as me. Of course I have other sins that bring me down to earth.
 
When I was working for our company as a field service technician one of the machine operators asked me if I see any differences in people throughout the country. I remember telling them that I found southerners to be polite to a fault, almost too polite. They go out of their way to not offend people and sometimes it's hard to get a straight answer. I guess that's an example of that good ol' southern hospitality. I also found the US northeasterners to be extremely direct and to the point. They are so direct that they can come across as brassy and almost rude even though that is not their intention. One thing for sure is that you were never left wondering what they thought. Here in the midwest I find people to be friendly and inviting for the most part. Maybe that's an example of that "Minnesota nice."
 
I have no problem apologising if I know I have done wrong. I acturaly find it quite easy and I feel at peace once i have given a sincere apology be it accepted or not.
 
humble soul said:
I lived in Japan for 15 years. The Japanese are very polite. And are renowned for being apologetic. Maybe they overdo it but it's a very loveable trait in my opinion.
Australians are less apologetic in general. And there are many who refrain from saying sorry at all. My guess is that people avoid saying sorry because it is an admission of weakness. Saying "I'm sorry I was wrong" is just asking too much for some. Sounds like ego is the culprit. And the culture of being "a winner" seems at odds with apologies.
To be honest I am good at apologising. And I try to be sincere. I'm disappointed when others don't have the same value as me. Of course I have other sins that bring me down to earth.
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Really you travel now don't ya. I try to apologize as well. No matter what to keep the peace.
 
kiwidan said:
I have no problem apologising if I know I have done wrong. I acturaly find it quite easy and I feel at peace once i have given a sincere apology be it accepted or not.
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Kiwi I was hoping you could apologize for the All Blacks beating Australia in the last game.
 
WIP said:
I remember telling them that I found southerners to be polite to a fault, almost too polite. They go out of their way to not
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That's on my bucket list. Visiting a U,S. State in the South. They might be opinionated but they compensate by being warm-hearted.
 
interesting, isn't it..how different parts of the world (even different regions within one nation...) have different communication styles? im southern, but never -got- southern...stuff. i think i do better with it, now, but i still find it a tad...crazy-making, I suppose. we do have an awful lot of free range crazies in the south (I'm speaking as the #1 uppity mental patient of my region, btw). :)
 
I met a lot of Americans in Japan by the way.
Generally speaking, Americans are very open and friendly compared to Brits. Brits have the poker faced cynicism which I kind of understand being an Aussie. But don't necessarily like. Sometimes when you get past the mask, it's ok.
Yeah Americans I have to say are very optimistic. They can be overconfident but on the whole I find them quite pleasant company. It's hard to generalise I guess.
 
We had a Aussie on our field service team for a while. I found him to have a similar sense of humor to you, Humble Soul. I describe it as a dry humor and I can probably be easily accused of the same sometimes.
 
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