We had a strong pastor and a weak pastor, as you suggested. The strong one opened up the service to other gifts. One lady was an incredibly gifted singer--won a contest on the 700 Club! But she had a tendency to "take over."Man this is so true. New Testament services involved participation, not spectating. Congregations just LIGHT UP when you allow them to participate. The problem comes when they don't keep order. You will have some who will go on and on at length and none of it is anointed. You will have some who start teaching off base doctrines. But the answer is not to just shut it all back down. The answer was for the leadership to bring it back into order. But it takes a strong enough leader who can sit some sister back down if she is just spouting forever and everyone can tell it's not God. Same with sound doctrine. Sit the guy back down. They tested the spirits. They didn't just let a false or evil spirit run off at the mouth forever and not be silenced.
It takes strong and wide leadership, but not allowing a congregation to participate in a service is NOT New Testament Christianity, and the sooner that mistake gets corrected the better. He was supposed to operate through the entire congregation, not just one man. The church is a body, not just a head.
But our strong pastor corralled her, and kept her in order. The result was wonderful! Unfortunately, it was his "strength" that did him in, because a few of the deacons and elders were incensed by some of his independent choices, and the church fell into division until the pastor left.
Then we had a weak pastor, who could not control this "out-of-control" worship singer. So he openly humiliated her, and the pastor's wife, a prophetess, utilized "prophecy" to condemn the lady and her friends on the worship team. Again, the result was division until the pastor had to leave.
Yes, we have problems in our church. But if we respond to the Devil by backing down we will always be forced to quit, and silence the voice of the Spirit. As you say, we need to not surrender to problems, but to persevere in allowing the Spirit to speak. We just need to be strong and self-controlled!