I am married and I LOVE my wife is that opposed to being truly spiritual ?
Yes, I, too, eat meals, and sleep, and work and do a myriad of things daily that are physical, of the flesh, and not aimed specifically and chiefly at a spiritual end. But, you know, it
is possible to glorify God - a very spiritual thing, I think - in everything I do. (
1 Corinthians 10:31) How do I do this in, say, "answering the call of nature," or enjoying my wife in a physical way, or digging weeds from the garden? Well, for me, this is accomplished by remaining in all of these things submitted, in love and faith, to my Maker and in so doing reminding myself that all of my life is lived within a spiritual context. Nothing is so mundane that it is exempt from God's attention, or from my being submitted to Him in it. In
everything I do I have half an eye turned to Him, I nurture an attitude of constant yieldedness to Him, looking for His will in the things I think as I'm on the throne, for His wisdom in pleasing my wife, for His mind and heart as I pull weeds, or drive to the grocery store, or fold the laundry. As I learn to live this way in a deeper and deeper way, I find my life increasingly filled with God's peace, joy, and love (among other things) and with a desire to praise my Heavenly Father in, and for, everything.
So, no, relations with your wife are not opposed
necessarily to being truly spiritual. In fact, the marriage bed can be a place of great joy in, and worship of, God. But, generally, I think it isn't. I have observed that physical relations between husbands and wives can be extremely selfish and carnal, totally devoid of any spiritual dimension, any thought of God, whatever. As one guy put it to me, "It's like going to the toilet. I'm just relieving myself." Yuck. This is what happens to sex when God is removed from it; it just degenerates into ugly, selfish lust. It is, then, very possible to enjoy your wife in a completely fleshly - that is, unspiritual and selfish - way.