Couples that "live together"..should they visit family?

[breighdi]

I was wondering what others think about this situation. A family member and his girlfriend have been living together for over a year. They are Christians. They are both approx 50 yrs old. They are always invited to family functions at other family members homes (each out of state) but have been asked to sleep in separate quarters as there are children ages 2yrs - 13yrs being raised with Christian principles, present. This has offended the couple that live together and created a barrier between family members. Do you think this is wrong? Also, what if there were no children involved? Should they still sleep in separate quarters to respect the other family members "Christian home?"

breighdi

 

[Mike]

Good post! I would say - absolutely! I'll put myself in the hypothetical situation, as it would be one for me. In spite of the fact that this is in conflict with what we as Christians believe to be right, what two adults do is their own decision. However when they visit my house, I believe I could expect them to put their lifestyles on hold out of respect for our home, kids or not. We have a similar situation with friends that visit, though they don't spend the night. Our kids are 14, 11 & 9. We've been very up front with them, because they can't call her Mrs. ---. We don't want that awkward situation. We've explained what their situation is, we believe it is wrong, but they are adults and choose to do what they do.

Especially since these family members are Christians, they should understand that there is a conflict. While they choose to live the way they live, it seems they should be observant of their family's values enough to understand the difficulty they have with it, in my opinion.

 

[breighdi]

Hi mjjcb, Just wanted to say a big thank you for your response. I really appreciate it very much! Hope you enjoy a beautiful day!
breighdi

 

[Mike]

No problem! I wish there was more activity on this particular forum. Compared to other forums, few people view it and much fewer respond. I've had posts I put up and didn't get as many opinions as I had hoped. I pray this situation doesn't go too far where these two people come to isolate themselves from your family.

 

[kismetshaloam]

If they aren't having sex in the house, than I think it's fine if they share a room. It might be to them symbolic of the fact that they have a relationship because sharing a room means more than just sex to some people.

 

[Mike]

If they aren't having sex in the house, than I think it's fine if they share a room. It might be to them symbolic of the fact that they have a relationship because sharing a room means more than just sex to some people.

I've got to stick to my take on this. Someone visiting someone's house should conform to their rules out of respect to them. If the homeowners feel it's wrong, that's reason enough to be considerate. Whether they're having sex or not, it is what's implied by spending the night in the same room/bed. If the homeowners feel it is inappropriate, they can tough it out for a few nights and acquiesce.

 

[Guest]

I was wondering what others think about this situation. A family member and his girlfriend have been living together for over a year. They are Christians. They are both approx 50 yrs old. They are always invited to family functions at other family members homes (each out of state) but have been asked to sleep in separate quarters as there are children ages 2yrs - 13yrs being raised with Christian principles, present. This has offended the couple that live together and created a barrier between family members. Do you think this is wrong? Also, what if there were no children involved? Should they still sleep in separate quarters to respect the other family members "Christian home?"

breighdi

They would in my house. If they didnt like it they'd need to get a hotel room.