[__ Prayer __] Difficult Starting Over

[IncredibleTransformation]

I haven't been on the forum much for awhile. For those of you who don't know, my husband passed away in March of 2017. He was the love of my life, my soul mate, and my best friend. Since then I've lost three jobs, lost a lot of money selling my house, and my mother disowned me when she, at 94, became ill and didn't like the way I was taking care of her.

I'm 61 years old and I find it very difficult to start over from all the loss. I have had to put every aspect of my life in Jesus' hands because I no other choice. I don't know what is going to come out of this but pray for me that I can spend the rest of my life helping others. I need nothing and helping others is the only way I feel joy and peace in my heart.

 

[lisa-in-FL]

Hi - I'm so sorry to hear about your multiple losses. I think we are all brought to a point where we have no choice but to completely rely on Jesus. But the interesting thing is really, we do have a choice. We could get angry, walk away, turn our backs, but we're choosing to rely on Him because we know he is faithful to us.

I know what you mean about the joy and peace of helping others. There is something about it . . its not self-congratulatory, but more like a realization "yes! i do have a purpose!" when you know you've made a difference for someone else.
Even when we don't have that though, we should still be able to rejoice in the Lord and what He's done for us. I struggle with this, trust me!

Philippians 4:4 - Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice.

Praying for you!

 

[Christ_empowered]

I had actually been thinking about you and praying for you, and...here you are...

I am sorry for the troubles you've faced and are facing. All I can say is that I have been praying and I will continue praying for you.

 

[WorshipWeapon]

I'm 61 years old and I find it very difficult to start over from all the loss. I have had to put every aspect of my life in Jesus' hands because I no other choice. I don't know what is going to come out of this but pray for me that I can spend the rest of my life helping others. I need nothing and helping others is the only way I feel joy and peace in my heart.

I will pray God gives you wisdom, insight, strength and rest. And opportunity. Your heart is no doubt tired from the losses, still.

You know His plans for you are good, and your life is far from over. It’s tempting to feel that way, though! I just started over, going back to school to make myself marketable. I finished a year ago at age 52. Sometimes I think God really enjoys messing with our preconceived ideas about age and how old we can be and still hit the Reset button!

I’m actually excited to see what Father might do next in you and through you.

Peace,
WW

 

[Tessa]

I haven't been on the forum much for awhile. For those of you who don't know, my husband passed away in March of 2017. He was the love of my life, my soul mate, and my best friend. Since then I've lost three jobs, lost a lot of money selling my house, and my mother disowned me when she, at 94, became ill and didn't like the way I was taking care of her.

I'm 61 years old and I find it very difficult to start over from all the loss. I have had to put every aspect of my life in Jesus' hands because I no other choice. I don't know what is going to come out of this but pray for me that I can spend the rest of my life helping others. I need nothing and helping others is the only way I feel joy and peace in my heart.

You've gone through many heartaches in a short time, you must be weary. Instead of becoming bitter you have clung on to the Lord. God Bless you and bring you the joy and peace you desire. Will be praying for you.

 

[IncredibleTransformation]

I had actually been thinking about you and praying for you, and...here you are...

I am sorry for the troubles you've faced and are facing. All I can say is that I have been praying and I will continue praying for you.

I find that so many people have been praying for me that I know the Lord is and will bless my life. Thank you for your prayers.

 

[Christ_empowered]

prayer changes things...and people...and situations...

I'm glad you're back, at least for a bit. your experiences with your family kind of line up with what my friend in south ga goes thru. she's....77, maybe...this has been going on since her husband died about 4, 5 years ago. ugh.

ive seen it in other peoples' lives, too. family acquaintances, people around. everybody's out for #1 it seems, and...that goes 3x for close family members. ugh.

Verna always tells me "God will look out for His children." The Calvinist in me wants to scream about God's will and suffering, etc., but then I'm just thinking...pray for His perfect will. "His ways are higher than our ways."


Praying for you.

 

[Truthfrees]

I haven't been on the forum much for awhile. For those of you who don't know, my husband passed away in March of 2017. He was the love of my life, my soul mate, and my best friend. Since then I've lost three jobs, lost a lot of money selling my house, and my mother disowned me when she, at 94, became ill and didn't like the way I was taking care of her.

I'm 61 years old and I find it very difficult to start over from all the loss. I have had to put every aspect of my life in Jesus' hands because I no other choice. I don't know what is going to come out of this but pray for me that I can spend the rest of my life helping others. I need nothing and helping others is the only way I feel joy and peace in my heart.

awesome life goal and prayer request

praying in agreement with you for all you have asked

praying for God to wrap you up in His love comfort provision in Jesus' name

 

[IncredibleTransformation]

prayer changes things...and people...and situations...

I'm glad you're back, at least for a bit. your experiences with your family kind of line up with what my friend in south ga goes thru. she's....77, maybe...this has been going on since her husband died about 4, 5 years ago. ugh.

ive seen it in other peoples' lives, too. family acquaintances, people around. everybody's out for #1 it seems, and...that goes 3x for close family members. ugh.

Verna always tells me "God will look out for His children." The Calvinist in me wants to scream about God's will and suffering, etc., but then I'm just thinking...pray for His perfect will. "His ways are higher than our ways."


Praying for you.

It seems like people don't understand your state of mind when lose someone so close. Your family just wants you to go on as if nothing happened. That's impossible. If you haven't gone through this you don't understand.

I do pray that this settles down for me and I don't have to go through this for 4 or 5 years with no end in sight.

My husband was a Calvinist to the core. I believe some of it but then scripture says, "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world." James 1:27 If this scripture is true then that means the Lord doesn't want to see those in distress suffer.

We need to help one another not say "oh that's God's will for you, go ahead and suffer." As Christians we suffer for the cross, we don't suffer just to add to an already horrible situation.

 

[Christ_empowered]

valid points. I just...as much as I -love- Pentecostals, some of their thinking strikes me as positive thinking, positive psychology+Bible verses, not a well reasoned hermaneutic (Probably misspelled). I mean..."God watches out for His children." OK, yes; sometimes. Perhaps even often. But...scores of people are martyred every year, all over the world, right? Right. and yet...

God has seen fit to be merciful, loving, and kind to me....and I've seen Him go the extra mile for others...so...why not? Even the most hardcore, conservative Calvinist I've ever known believed in miracles, healing, and The Sweetness of The Lord. So...

I don't know. Back to your situation...

in the last days, men shall be lovers of themselves. It goes on to talk about family strife and self-love to the max. Especially in the US, we live in a -very- narcissistic culture. Its not an individual problem; its our culture....part economic, part social, part...I dunno...

with very little safety net left, its pretty much every person for herself. True story. Its hard to show compassion when the world tells you to keep up with the kardashians, wages are stagnant, jobs are hard to come by, and the overwhelming question is: what's in it for me? ugh.

I pray for you. I'll keep on praying for you. I wish I Had some sort of answer, but...I don't...

just more prayers.

 

[IncredibleTransformation]

I have found there are still a lot of wonderful, loving people in this world. Unfortunately we don't have all the answers here, we have to wait until heaven for them and then it may not matter.

Once again, thanks for the prayers.

 

[Tessa]

It' very hard for you. I've been there. You feel lonely and isolated even if you are in a room full of people. The sorrow runs deep . I had to shake myself to think of other people. I just kept clinging on to Jesus. It was a long journey but all of a sudden the Lord lifted me out of it again. I found myself again. Will pray earnestly for you each day. Please let us know how you get on.
Every day is one day nearer to recovery.
Christian Love.

 

[IncredibleTransformation]

It' very hard for you. I've been there. You feel lonely and isolated even if you are in a room full of people. The sorrow runs deep . I had to shake myself to think of other people. I just kept clinging on to Jesus. It was a long journey but all of a sudden the Lord lifted me out of it again. I found myself again. Will pray earnestly for you each day. Please let us know how you get on.
Every day is one day nearer to recovery.
Christian Love.

Thank you.

 

[Christ_empowered]

sorry to ramble. You're in my thoughts+prayers.

 

[Alec Weesner]

Praying that the Lord may give you patience, kindness, and confidence to persevere through this. I believe God is testing your faith right now, so it is good that you are coming to Him and other believers for assistance.

 

[Christ_empowered]

sometimes...life happens... Matthew 5:45.

praying.