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Do you easily make friends?

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Can you easily mix up with people? Do you easily make friends? Or are you the man/woman-alone kind of a person? New friends - new experience? Old friends have no equal?
 
I tend to be pretty shy. I don't approach people, I barely speak to them, and I don't look them in the eye. Not if I can help it.
It's not that I don't want to--it's that I'm nervous around people I don't know somewhat well or at all. Because of this I have been told that people sometimes get the wrong idea. But really, once I start to get comfortable I can be really talkative.

I used to be almost the polar opposite as a kid, though. I'd talk all the time and to anyone.


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I tend to be pretty shy. I don't approach people, I barely speak to them, and I don't look them in the eye. Not if I can help it.
It's not that I don't want to--it's that I'm nervous around people I don't know somewhat well or at all. Because of this I have been told that people sometimes get the wrong idea. But really, once I start to get comfortable I can be really talkative.

I used to be almost the polar opposite as a kid, though. I'd talk all the time and to anyone.


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[MENTION=89910]questdriven[/MENTION]:

I think that temperament has relatively little to do with a deeper sense of fellowship and conviction about testimony, among companies of Christians.

It's been really good to read that you are enjoying the fellowship among Christians in the local church you joined some months ago.

Blessings.
 
Can you easily mix up with people? Do you easily make friends? Or are you the man/woman-alone kind of a person? New friends - new experience? Old friends have no equal?
We all have God-given gifts. Perceivers have only a few or no close friendships. This is why they act the way they do. Often perceivers go through childhood with only one or two good friends-or none at all. Some worry about this, wondering why they don't want to reach out more to kids their own age. Others instinctively know that it's okay-that God made them this way. They feel comfortable in their aloneness.
 
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Throughout my life in various church functions. I've made lots of "friends" who were nice enough to say "hi" to me and tell me their name and send me facebook friend requests (mostly people form church related gatherings), but otherwise on any normal given day, never gave a crap about me or wether or not I lived to see the next day. A few years ago, I decided to start up a facebook event page called "The Amazing Facebook Friend Inventory" and invited over 100 of my facebook "friends" whom I've hardly ever talked to and told them I'd keep those you RSVP'd as "attending" on my friends list and delete those who RSVP'd as "not attending" or do not RSVP. More than half of them RSVP'd as "Not Attending". I did NOT get one single "Attending" RSVP. I guess that goes to show who my real friends are (which are few and far between). Life is too short to be "friends" with stuck up snobs who don't care about you.
 
I tend to be pretty shy. I don't approach people, I barely speak to them, and I don't look them in the eye. Not if I can help it.
It's not that I don't want to--it's that I'm nervous around people I don't know somewhat well or at all. Because of this I have been told that people sometimes get the wrong idea. But really, once I start to get comfortable I can be really talkative.

I used to be almost the polar opposite as a kid, though. I'd talk all the time and to anyone.


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Those eyes don't bite;(

In some cultures looking straight into the eyes of your elders = being rude.

I need to do that when I want the truth from you. So, I'd stare straight into your eyes.
 
Can you easily mix up with people? Do you easily make friends? Or are you the man/woman-alone kind of a person? New friends - new experience? Old friends have no equal?
We all have God-given gifts. Perceivers have only a few or no close friendships. This is why they act the way they do. Often perceivers go through childhood with only one or two good friends-or none at all. Some worry about this, wondering why they don't want to reach out more to kids their own age. Others instinctively know that it's okay-that God made them this way. They feel comfortable in their aloneness.

interesting.
Would you classify the late M. Jackson as one (if you knew stuff 'bout him)? :dunno :shrug :confused
 
Throughout my life in various church functions. I've made lots of "friends" who were nice enough to say "hi" to me and tell me their name and send me facebook friend requests (mostly people form church related gatherings), but otherwise on any normal given day, never gave a crap about me or wether or not I lived to see the next day. A few years ago, I decided to start up a facebook event page called "The Amazing Facebook Friend Inventory" and invited over 100 of my facebook "friends" whom I've hardly ever talked to and told them I'd keep those you RSVP'd as "attending" on my friends list and delete those who RSVP'd as "not attending" or do not RSVP. More than half of them RSVP'd as "Not Attending". I did NOT get one single "Attending" RSVP. I guess that goes to show who my real friends are (which are few and far between). Life is too short to be "friends" with stuck up snobs who don't care about you.

You see...at times human beings are totally unpredictable. Perhaps most of those people are not comfortable with the facebook thing. In real life they may be different.
 
Making contact with people is easy. Some days I need an hour to walk 300 meters through the city center because every 20 meters I run into someone I know and I have to stop and say "Hi" to them and chat with them for a bit.
Making friends is impossible for me. I'm unable to trust. I can't believe anyone could possibly like me.
But I'm working on it because I really long to connect and bond with people. :yes
 
no I dont but I am approachable Im just socially awkward lol to say the least,I only have 2 close friends a guy and girl.I love being alone alot ,I do do well in a small group setting though as long as its not small talk I cant stand small talk but I love talking about the deeper things.
 
I cant stand small talk but I love talking about the deeper things.

Same here. :yes
Unfortunately most people need to do small talk before they can open themselves up for the deeper things.
Imagine you're on a party and someone you never met before in your life would approach you like: "Hi. What was the worst thing you ever had to go through in your life?" Would you give that stranger an honest answer?
 
Can you easily mix up with people? Do you easily make friends? Or are you the man/woman-alone kind of a person? New friends - new experience? Old friends have no equal?
We all have God-given gifts. Perceivers have only a few or no close friendships. This is why they act the way they do. Often perceivers go through childhood with only one or two good friends-or none at all. Some worry about this, wondering why they don't want to reach out more to kids their own age. Others instinctively know that it's okay-that God made them this way. They feel comfortable in their aloneness.

interesting.
Would you classify the late M. Jackson as one (if you knew stuff 'bout him)? :dunno :shrug :confused
There are other character traits associated with the gift of a perceiver.

http://www.thenrgroup.net/member/MRO/Cross Balance/XBL/XBL-177.htm
 
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I cant stand small talk but I love talking about the deeper things.

Same here. :yes
Unfortunately most people need to do small talk before they can open themselves up for the deeper things.
Imagine you're on a party and someone you never met before in your life would approach you like: "Hi. What was the worst thing you ever had to go through in your life?" Would you give that stranger an honest answer?
oh no I understand that i just dont want to be stuck in a conversation that stays that way .
 
I make friends easy and also on all levels, cultures etc.

I have fine dined with the wealthy, to do business.

I have sat on a wooden beer crate with Maoris (in my homeland NZ) drinking beer and eating poor mans food.

All are equal with me.
 
Making contact with people is easy. Some days I need an hour to walk 300 meters through the city center because every 20 meters I run into someone I know and I have to stop and say "Hi" to them and chat with them for a bit.
Making friends is impossible for me. I'm unable to trust. I can't believe anyone could possibly like me.
But I'm working on it because I really long to connect and bond with people. :yes
you probably like American Football which they probably repulse;)

Hey! There must be people who share common interest. And how do you wanna go about connecting with people?
 
I cant stand small talk but I love talking about the deeper things.

Same here. :yes
Unfortunately most people need to do small talk before they can open themselves up for the deeper things.
Imagine you're on a party and someone you never met before in your life would approach you like: "Hi. What was the worst thing you ever had to go through in your life?" Would you give that stranger an honest answer?
that is something I think I would do in my youth. I have done something like that when i would ask soldiers why they joined the national guard.
 
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