Ok...lets discuss extra-Marital sex
To keep the moderation team happy (which includes me) lets start with some scriptures.
1 Corinthians 7:2 (NIV)
That scripture alone should be enough...
But...lets add fuel to the fire.
Acts 15:20 (NIV)
1 Corinthians 5:1 (NIV)
1 Corinthians 6:13 (NIV)
1 Corinthians 6:18 (NIV)
1 Corinthians 10:8 (NIV)
2 Corinthians 12:21 (NIV)
Galatians 5:19 (NIV)
Ephesians 5:3 (NIV)
Colossians 3:5 (NIV)
1 Thessalonians 4:3 (NIV)
Jude 7
Hebrews 13:4 (NIV)
This list also includes shacking up.
Why?
Because unless you are married you are marrying someone else's wife by having sex.
Our culture is so heathen these days that it doesn't seem to understand that sex is not the end-all be-all of a relationship. There is a lot more to a relationship or reasons to have a relationship other than sex.
Ever used tape...like clear celophane or duct tape?
The first time it is used it is awesome...especially the duct tape. It can hold the universe together like "The Force". It has a light side and a dark side...its great stuff. But if it is used to hold something together for a while...then removed and used again some of the glue and strings in the tape are left behind on the first objects that it bound together. The second pair of items are still held together but its bonding isn't as strong as the first time the tape was used. Each successive time the binding is weaker and weaker with more glue and strings left behind till the tape simply won't hold any longer.
Everyone remembers the first person you had sex with. It doesn't matter whether you were married or not. Your mind instantly went to that person in your head. (Rhetorical questions follow) Who was that person? Did you marry that person? How long did your relationship last?
Why did your relationship fall apart? For a person to be so special that they stick in your head for the rest of your life...and your heart always remembers this person...wouldn't it stand to reason that this physical intimacy be reserved for someone that was committed to you? Because if I said, "The fourth person you had sex with." most people draw a blank. They remember the first but the fourth is in a haze unless they think hard for a minute or two.
What does that mean?
The same things that psychologists (who don't have an agenda except the well being of their clients) have been telling us. That the fewer sexual partners that you have the more sexual satisfaction you have from the physical intimacy. The more sex you have the less special it is. IOW people don't need a better sex partner...they need to stop altogether.
Moses allowed divorce for the hardness of people's hearts. God restores hard hearts to ones of flesh. Divorce hardens hearts tremendously...so much so that those who remarry only have a 40% chance of a successful marriage. Third marriages have worse statistics...and of course you can guess fourth and fifth...each subsequent marriage has worse and worse chances of success.
And that is why "shacking up" is so horrible. Each breakup and separation is a divorce...
and here are some stats that you really won't like.
27% of all children compromise those of single parent households...but account for 62% of the nation's poor. (Patrick Fagan The Positive Effects of marriage a Book of Charts)
The three main reasons children are raised without both married mother and father are unwed pregnancy, cohabitation, and divorce. (David Popeoe and Barbara Whitehead, National Marriage Project The State of our Unions. The Social Health of Marriage in America 2006. pg 33)
A child living with a single mother is 14 times more likely to suffer serious physical abuse. A child whose mother cohabits with a man other than the child's father is 33 times more likely to suffer serious physical abuse. (Positive Effects of Marriage a book of Charts)
To keep the moderation team happy (which includes me) lets start with some scriptures.
1 Corinthians 7:2 (NIV)
That scripture alone should be enough...
But...lets add fuel to the fire.
Acts 15:20 (NIV)
1 Corinthians 5:1 (NIV)
1 Corinthians 6:13 (NIV)
1 Corinthians 6:18 (NIV)
1 Corinthians 10:8 (NIV)
2 Corinthians 12:21 (NIV)
Galatians 5:19 (NIV)
Ephesians 5:3 (NIV)
Colossians 3:5 (NIV)
1 Thessalonians 4:3 (NIV)
Jude 7
Hebrews 13:4 (NIV)
This list also includes shacking up.
Why?
Because unless you are married you are marrying someone else's wife by having sex.
Our culture is so heathen these days that it doesn't seem to understand that sex is not the end-all be-all of a relationship. There is a lot more to a relationship or reasons to have a relationship other than sex.
Ever used tape...like clear celophane or duct tape?
The first time it is used it is awesome...especially the duct tape. It can hold the universe together like "The Force". It has a light side and a dark side...its great stuff. But if it is used to hold something together for a while...then removed and used again some of the glue and strings in the tape are left behind on the first objects that it bound together. The second pair of items are still held together but its bonding isn't as strong as the first time the tape was used. Each successive time the binding is weaker and weaker with more glue and strings left behind till the tape simply won't hold any longer.
Everyone remembers the first person you had sex with. It doesn't matter whether you were married or not. Your mind instantly went to that person in your head. (Rhetorical questions follow) Who was that person? Did you marry that person? How long did your relationship last?
Why did your relationship fall apart? For a person to be so special that they stick in your head for the rest of your life...and your heart always remembers this person...wouldn't it stand to reason that this physical intimacy be reserved for someone that was committed to you? Because if I said, "The fourth person you had sex with." most people draw a blank. They remember the first but the fourth is in a haze unless they think hard for a minute or two.
What does that mean?
The same things that psychologists (who don't have an agenda except the well being of their clients) have been telling us. That the fewer sexual partners that you have the more sexual satisfaction you have from the physical intimacy. The more sex you have the less special it is. IOW people don't need a better sex partner...they need to stop altogether.
Moses allowed divorce for the hardness of people's hearts. God restores hard hearts to ones of flesh. Divorce hardens hearts tremendously...so much so that those who remarry only have a 40% chance of a successful marriage. Third marriages have worse statistics...and of course you can guess fourth and fifth...each subsequent marriage has worse and worse chances of success.
And that is why "shacking up" is so horrible. Each breakup and separation is a divorce...
and here are some stats that you really won't like.
27% of all children compromise those of single parent households...but account for 62% of the nation's poor. (Patrick Fagan The Positive Effects of marriage a Book of Charts)
The three main reasons children are raised without both married mother and father are unwed pregnancy, cohabitation, and divorce. (David Popeoe and Barbara Whitehead, National Marriage Project The State of our Unions. The Social Health of Marriage in America 2006. pg 33)
A child living with a single mother is 14 times more likely to suffer serious physical abuse. A child whose mother cohabits with a man other than the child's father is 33 times more likely to suffer serious physical abuse. (Positive Effects of Marriage a book of Charts)
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