frequency of sex: the numbers

[farouk]

I thought it sounds like you put an awful lot of importance on the frequency of sex. I think that comes from watching too much tv? Sex is fun and all that but people sometimes seem as if it is the main drive in life. It's not.

Scripture speaks about a dinner of herbs where love is.

Good to keep things in perspective.

 

[farouk]

I'm missing you point here.

Genuine love involves far more than unzipping. I like that phrase: 'a dinner of herbs where love is'.

 

[farouk]

Oh. Agreed. That was what I was saying and right in line with it.

E: and the unzipping thing doesn't quantify the love with numbers, either.

 

[dinoguy]

In another post you discussed what you've done to treat her differently, but in the same post -- not just the same thread, but the same post -- made it clear you view marriage as "she keeps my home to make my happy and I go to work to bring her money." That isn't a marriage, that's a contract for housekeeping services.

THD,
I don't recall saying anything about treating her differently, according to the numbers I posted I have more sex than the average for my age group, and just because I post a thread does not mean I am complaining about it.

I don't know where you live, but the most common situation is for one spouse to work and the other to be homemaker. This has been the case for centuries, actually, and only shifted to the "two earner household" model fairly recently in history. Your wife may feel differently, but most women are VERY happy to not have to work. The whole idea of "not having a fulfilling life if I don't have a rewarding career" ended up being an illusion for most women.

Let's just agree to disagree on this, shall we?

 

[farouk]

THD,
I don't recall saying anything about treating her differently, according to the numbers I posted I have more sex than the average for my age group, and just because I post a thread does not mean I am complaining about it.

I don't know where you live, but the most common situation is for one spouse to work and the other to be homemaker. This has been the case for centuries, actually, and only shifted to the "two earner household" model fairly recently in history. Your wife may feel differently, but most women are VERY happy to not have to work. The whole idea of "not having a fulfilling life if I don't have a rewarding career" ended up being an illusion for most women.

Let's just agree to disagree on this, shall we?

As a lawyer, mine uses her maiden name.

But I guess this is a bit off topic.

 

[President]

The statistics are kind of depressing. I won't show them to my wife. If I did, I'd say, "We've got to be better than average."

Btw, those numbers include non-married people, and people laying in hospital beds, too, right?

 

[thisnumbersdisconnected]

THD,
I don't recall saying anything about treating her differently, according to the numbers I posted I have more sex than the average for my age group, and just because I post a thread does not mean I am complaining about it.

I don't know where you live, but the most common situation is for one spouse to work and the other to be homemaker. This has been the case for centuries, actually, and only shifted to the "two earner household" model fairly recently in history. Your wife may feel differently, but most women are VERY happy to not have to work. The whole idea of "not having a fulfilling life if I don't have a rewarding career" ended up being an illusion for most women.

Let's just agree to disagree on this, shall we?

Nice duck. Hope you didn't bang your head on the floor when you executed it. Reality is that couples decide what is normal for them. It makes no difference what the social norms for a society are within a marriage. I didn't then and I won't now (I'm getting married this summer after 20 years of divorce) consult the "social norms" to decide how my marriage will look statistically. I don't care. My remarks had nothing to do with "social norms." They had to do with the not just the facts you stated about your marriage, but the attitude you have. And I've seen nothing to change my mind in recent days. If you are as old as I am and still hold to these attitudes, it's no wonder you're not happy with the number of "contacts" you have with your wife.