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Having Children

DarkWalker

DarkWalker

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I'm not sure if this is the right place for this kind of a question, but I'm curious: do you believe that all couples who can have children should try, or is it okay to be married and not have any children? My personal stance is the latter; I do not want any children, and even if I did, I would refuse to have them, as my mental health and physical health problems could be passed to them, in more severe forms. I do not want to have a child who is born with physical and mental problems, because I know what I've been through, and I wouldn't wish it on the worst human being to ever live.

What are your thoughts? I've yet to come across a Bible verse that blatantly says "you must have children," and obviously there are those who are unable to have children for one reason or another. For those who can, can you provide evidence for your position that they should have children, or that it is okay for them not to?
 
The first thing I'd say is do not think that physical or mental issues are what brings us any extra trouble in this world. I know it may seem that way, but this world does not care for anyone. The problems everyone face are because of a fallen evil world(.)

Consider this, children are a blessing. They are our legacy. The teach us much about love and patience. They are a model of the Fathers love for us, so is marriage.

We should look at having children from the perspective of Gods view and not from the world view. The world counts children a burdens, or inconveniences. The world tries to tell us that we have to be able to "afford" children before we have them. Afford? As if the world dictates to us what children need?

True some can not have children. Such things are not for all, but for those who can I would say do. Other than OT verses to multiply there are no strict commands that say we MUST have children, but what a privilege it is that we do.
 
I know that a child can have a happy, productive life with a disability, because I have achieved that. Given my disability, however, I would find it difficult to care for a child who also has a disability (or even if they don't, it would still be difficult). I don't doubt that children are a blessing. They are. I just wonder if the ability to have children automatically means you should have them.
 
It is said that we are to be fruitful and multiply. This increases the chances for God to have a bigger harvest and more glory overall for all of eternity. Think not about what you will eat or drink or how you will care and feed them for God will provide. I think it should be up to God whether or not we have children. Not wanting to have children is ok I guess, it is a preference, but to take steps to thwart children probably is a lack of faith and perhaps an attempt to interfere with Gods plan. It may seem to be reasonable foresight to worry about defects being passed on, and reasoned out with good intentions and a good heart...but it seems to me that ultimately, it is a lack of faith in God's ability to heal and provide.
 
I believe that it is ok for a couple not to want children.The reason why that couple does not want children is important.Of course the Christian couple will be asking for God's Will to be done.No matter how hard a couple tries not to have children if the Lord wants them to have children it will happen.
 
DarkWalker said:
I know that a child can have a happy, productive life with a disability, because I have achieved that. Given my disability, however, I would find it difficult to care for a child who also has a disability (or even if they don't, it would still be difficult). I don't doubt that children are a blessing. They are. I just wonder if the ability to have children automatically means you should have them.
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I think it is a wise decision to make when you know it would be difficult to either get married or have children.It could be for several reasons.There are so many children coming into our world when the parents can not take care of them.
 
Danus said:
The first thing I'd say is do not think that physical or mental issues are what brings us any extra trouble in this world. I know it may seem that way, but this world does not care for anyone. The problems everyone face are because of a fallen evil world(.)

Consider this, children are a blessing. They are our legacy. The teach us much about love and patience. They are a model of the Fathers love for us, so is marriage.

We should look at having children from the perspective of Gods view and not from the world view. The world counts children a burdens, or inconveniences. The world tries to tell us that we have to be able to "afford" children before we have them. Afford? As if the world dictates to us what children need?

True some can not have children. Such things are not for all, but for those who can I would say do. Other than OT verses to multiply there are no strict commands that say we MUST have children, but what a privilege it is that we do.
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thus abortion.
 
Kathi said:
I think it is a wise decision to make when you know it would be difficult to either get married or have children.It could be for several reasons.There are so many children coming into our world when the parents can not take care of them.
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This is true, but as followers of Christ, we are to keep the faith that the Lord will do as He will, and if He blesses you with Children, that He would also provide for them. Healing was paid for right along with redemption and I don't think that the Lord differentiates between them, all we have to do is to believe and have faith. :)
 
Gen 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth . . . Has the earth been replenished?
 
ok since we went there. my wife cant have children. she choose not to. she had her uturus removed at age 42. whenever I mention Nathan,jaci.monica and autumn and rosemary. the have no genetic tie to me. there biological dad/grandpa is deceased.im not obligated to be that man to them, but for the love of my wife I do it.
 
I don't think there is anything in the Bible that says all married children have to have children.A person needs to look at their motive for having children or not.There should be no selfish motives involved.
 
DarkWalker said:
How do we know Genesis 1:28 is addressed to all humanity?
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Dear brother, if there was a universal command to have children, I do not believe Paul would have commended the unmarried.

1 Cor 7:8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
1 Cor 7:9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry
 
Eugene said:
Dear brother, if there was a universal command to have children, I do not believe Paul would have commended the unmarried.

1 Cor 7:8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
1 Cor 7:9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry
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Playing the Devil's Advocate, so to speak, I don't see anything in 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 that talks about children. It only talks about marriage.
 
It seems like it is the people who want children so badly and can not have them that are the ones who struggle.
 
jasonc said:
adoption does wonders.
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I have known some couples who have adopted from other countries.Those children are Blessed because they now have wonderful homes.If they would have remained in those countries they might not be alive today.
 
I feel if I were to adopt, I would not be a good father. Nothing like bringing a child into a home where manic psychosis and spina bifida mix.
 
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